Why should newlyweds have all the fun? Every couple can use a good excuse to travel—just jet off into the sunset on a long weekend together. Trips aren't just for honeymooners, anymore! Enter the mini 'moon: With modern-day weddings rivaling Cirque du Soleil in scale and complexity, sometimes you need a quick escape before you walk down the aisle. And, once the (real) honeymoon's over, there's no need to stay home. Couples intent on baby-making can opt for conception 'moons: for relaxation—and procreation—and the baby 'moon: when you're pregnant and in need of one last escape before mini-me arrives! Check out these great get-away suggestions.
Last weekend, Fred and I went to visit my parents in Savannah—where we're getting married—and finalized a lot of the wedding details. We went to the baker, the florist, met with the DJ and had lunch with the minister. It was quite a full weekend. While running around, I again thought that I wasn't cut out for this wedding planning stuff. I looked at Fred and said, "I wish we could just get married tomorrow." I don't like the details. Thinking about flowers and how I want the cake displayed is annoying to me. My old roommate got engaged when I was living with her and in two weeks she had created an extensive scrapbook with cut-out magazine pictures of flowers, receptions, dresses— everything that she wants in her wedding. It was amazing. And it also made me feel like a bad bride. I had been engaged for 5 months at that point and had looked at maybe one wedding magazine.
Once the reception ended, newlyweds Dr. and Mrs. Wielechowski checked in to The Holiday Inn and proceeded to beat the living daylights out of each other. When two guests tried to break up the argument the newlyweds joined forces to attack them causing about $1000 worth of damage to the hotel in the process. The good samaritans were rewarded with cuts, bruises, a tooth knocked out and a possibly broken thumb. (Score! The groom's job as a dentist should come in handy settling this lawsuit.)
Remember when people always honeymooned in Hawaii or Bahamas? It was all about gazing into each other's eyes with the backdrop of a tangerine-hued sunset, fancy meals and then endless love-making in a secluded resort. No more! For the past couple of years, I've noticed that every couple I know who've gotten hitched have indulged in an exhilarating adventure honeymoon. Backpacking through Nepal, African safaris, and frolicking through rocky beaches and waterfalls in India...
The wedding was dreamy, the honeymoon bliss. So why is the first year of marriage so tough? Newlyweds often have a number of preconceived notions about the way things ought to be. But when the honeymoon is over, sometimes a harsh reality sets. The key, as always, is communication. Rebecca Raphael investigates the truth about how difficult and unhappy the first year really can be.
Susan Piver presents "The Hard Questions" for the post-honeymoon stage. Knowing what to ask each other (and yourselves) can help move your relationship to the next level. The author of the New York Times bestseller The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say "I Do" offers up an exercise. "Romance can never last, but intimacy can never end," explains Piver, who created these 20 new "phase two" questions exclusively for Tango. She talks with us about her eye-opening exercise for anyone who has made a commitment—and is committed to making it last.