Not everyone has the same goals in mind when they enter the Dating World and if you don’t know that fact you are likely to be surprised and disappointed in most of your attempts at relationships. Most people assume that everyone out in the Dating World has the same goals in mind. If we are looking for True Love followed by marriage and kids, or no kids, we assume that’s what everyone we date is looking for too. We believe it is the Right Way and the Only Way to live life and have relationships.
What is the solution for dealing with a loved one — a lover, a spouse or even a child — whose anger gets you down? Most folks in this situation have tried everything from reasoning with the angry person to agreeing with him just to settle him down. Usually, nothing works ... except leaving.
How do you drop bomb of sudden, unexpected and quite possibly undesirable information on someone you care about without behaving like a cruel, dispassionate ogre? What if you're the unfortunate recipient of the aforementioned bomb? How do you respond with compassion instead of setting off a furious chain reaction?
For years I was a big believer in "keeping secrets" in a relationship. They weren't "secrets" as much as having privacy. Not once did I check his text messages or his email (even though I had his password). Then I found out my fiancé was living a secret life as a gay man.
What's worse than getting caught up in your own personal drama? Getting caught up in somebody else's personal drama.
As if being single and dating isn't difficult enough, add to it that you're a recovering alcoholic and it all becomes doubly complicated. After all, dating often involves drinking, and while you may not want to make a big deal about your addiction, you also don't want to be dishonest about it.
Everyone knows that once you get married, there are certain expectations you're supposed to follow. Expectations that make men feel like they have signed their lives away, and make women think that they'll never have to worry about being betrayed or alone. Once you're married there are "rules" such as, "You can't cheat.", "You can't flirt.", "You must love and be attracted only to your partner." What most people don't realize is that following those rules goes against the grain of our human experience.
These days, monetary stress is more prevalent than ever. Stressing over your finances doesn't only put a strain on your shopping habits, but it can also take a huge toll on your relationship. Here are five steps to avoid the financial stress on your relationship.
Two weeks ago, I wrote an article entitled, 5 Love Lessons Men Can Learn From Christian Grey. It received many comments, mainly from men angry I didn’t address what women can do to improve relationships. I had always intended to write an article for women and here it is.
Looking back, it seems so obvious to me. Of all the qualities I was looking for in a guy, of all my “must haves” on my quest for finding Mr. Right, I didn’t pay nearly enough attention to the three things that actually really mattered. 1. He's available, both physically and emotionally.
Yes, it is irritating when you feel like you've sent the message loud and clear that you like or want something in your relationship, and your partner doesn't hear or follow through. Sometimes, our men (and women too) act clueless. For various reasons, they completely miss what you've said, or don't respond in a way you'd like. If a healthy and happy relationship is what you want, try these four ways to help your partner get a clue:
So, what is a doormat anyway? A doormat is a woman who bends over backwards to please her man, a woman who will do whatever it takes to try to make her man happy, no matter how badly he treats her. Here are ten red flags that you're being used as a doormat in your relationships.
If you suspect your husband has checked out of your marriage emotionally, and you just want him to come clean so that you can have an honest dialogue about the state of your union, you've come to the right place. In this video, clinical psychologist and YourTango Expert Dr. Susan Pazak explains what to do when you feel like your husband isn't being comepletely candid with his thoughts and feelings about your marriage.
If you rarely fight with your spouse, Dr. John Gottman would consider your marriage to be an unstable union. His research indicates that strong marriages require a certain amount of negativity; too much harmony between couples leads to relation-stagnation. Throwing in the hot pepper of an occasional argument creates a partnership that is dynamic, and far more interesting to be a part of.
Everyone wants to be part of a happy and stable couple. But, with the divorce rate so high, creating emotionally intimate couplehood is a considerable challenge. Here are 6 crucial insights about how to maintain a thriving, romantic relationship.
Some may say there is a downside to our tendency to text, but there are plenty of perks associated with simple SMS messages. Thanks to sexting, you could be in a crowded room but still telling your boyfriend all the dirty things you want to do to him later. And, on the tamer (and potentially less harmful) side, texts are the best way to get someone to reveal the truth.
One question that comes up often in my practice as a couples therapist is the issue of "falling out of love." You’ve been in love with someone for 6-12 months, maybe longer, and you start to wonder whether this is going to last. Are you going to stay together, settle down, or is it time to move on? If the latter is on your mind, what happened? Sister Souls