My friends and I seem to take dating a lot more seriously than our mothers did. Perhaps too seriously. We obsess about every interaction, overanalyze each conversation. As much as we crave relationships, they also scare the everloving crap out of us because we have all seen what can happen when a woman makes the wrong choice… I think it's vital to spend a long time getting to know someone before you commit to a life with him. But the constant analysis doesn't leave a girl with much hope of walking into a room one day and being love-struck, the way my mother was. Or so I always thought.
If you've had it with crowded or costly New Year's Eve celebrations; Tango suggests scoping last-minute low fares to exciting new destinations. Here; we explore three potential places to start your year anew: Santa Fe, New Mexico, Lausanne, Switzerland or Riviera Maya, Mexico.
Bunking together is all fun and games‚Äîuntil somebody steals the covers. Here‚Äôs how to negotiate common bedroom quandaries and wake up happy. From sheets to comforters to sharing techniques; Lauren and Anne Purcell have got the goods on the best ways to sleep.
As I regaled the tales of the K Fed concert to Mark at Rue B last night (he, listening with a half deaf ear, as if my own debasement in going to see Kevin Federline would somehow transfer directly onto him just by listening to the mere words), my awareness stayed half-fixed on the piano music coming from behind us, or shall I say the creator of that gorgeous jazz….Harry (as in, the piano player I saw after my bday party recently and who I briefly dated long ago) was ticklin’ those ivories like I’ve never seen or heard the likes of before.
Looking to increase your glamour-factor? It’s all about the lashes. Mascara and eye-shadow are so last season. This season’s false eyelashes give you something to bat an eye at. Follow our simple steps and prepare for the ultimate in flirty fun. First timers—your lunch break may not be the best time for eyelash application. It took one YourTango reader at least five times to get it right. So style your hair, focus on your falsies and get ready for gorgeous. Be careful with that glue though ladies—one slip can cause a serious lash malfunction.
It's not just for hippies (and Sting.) Tantra; which means "interwoven" in Sanskrit; is being hailed as the new couples therapy. Chakras and spiritual sex might get you out of a rough patch. If synchronized breathing and intercourse for hours doesn't do it you, stick around for the yoga and massage and at least limber up.
According to the CDC; about 90 percent of men and women have had oral sex at some point in their lives‚ but that doesn't mean they continue to have it regularly, or even that they liked it in the first place. The reasons why some folks aren't up on going down are a Freudian analyst's wet dream: People fear it's unhygienic. Or they dislike the taste. Or they worry their technique is bad. Or they simply find the idea of faces being in places swimsuits cover to be generally unpleasant.
For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: intelligence inequality. Question: I'm in a terrible quandary. I'm 32 and ready to settle down, and I've been dating my boyfriend for three years. The good news is the sex is great, he treats me like gold—and we went ring shopping a few weeks ago. But the bad news is that I fear we're not compatible intellectually. We don't read the same books, and don't share any of the same cultural reference points. Everyone keeps telling me that it's OK—even preferable—to have different interests from your spouse. But what if we end up with nothing to say to each other in five years? I don't want to marry the wrong man just to get married. –Gold Medalist