From TheStreet.com By Karen Hube Turn up the lights, turn down the music and forget about romance. It's time to face the business side of marriage. Cold as that may sound, the Census Bureau recently released data that should make even the most blissfully married couples forget pheromones and focus on finances. According to the Bureau, the length of first marriages has been getting steadily shorter since it started collecting such data in 1955. Of couples married back then, about 70% made it to their 25-year anniversary. Now, fewer than half of couples who were to celebrate their silver anniversary sometime after 2000 actually ended up doing so. The majority of marriages ended, due to divorce, separation or death. "Even the most optimistic people have to ask themselves, 'What financial shape would I be in if my marriage ended?'" says Marilyn Capelli, a financial adviser in Bloomfield Hills, Mich. Tango’s Take
From Forbes.com By Jan Cullinane and Cathy Fitzgerald Research has shown some common threads about the effects of retirement and working (or not working) on couples. One study looked at transitions in retirement involving 534 married couples in their 50s, 60s or 70s who were retired or about to retire from several large businesses in upstate New York. Husbands and wives reported greater marital satisfaction if they retired at the same time. While men with nonworking spouses had greater marital satisfaction than those with working wives, regardless of whether the men themselves worked, those men who didn't work but had a working spouse reported the most marital conflict. Women experienced the highest marital satisfaction if they entered new jobs after retiring and their husbands were also working, but men who worked after retiring from their primary job experienced more marital discord than those men who didn't work.
From TMZ Salma Hayek, who seemed to be pregnant for the last three years, finally gave birth today to a baby girl named Valentina Paloma Pinault. "Mother and child are doing well," her publicist said in a statement. This is Hayek's first child and the third for her fiancé, Francois-Henri Pinault. Tango’s Take We were psyched to see this on TMZ (or MTZ, as our moms call it). Salma Hayek, as far as we know, epitomizes everything good about Hollywood. She seems like she’ll be a good momma. Some of the gossip sites thought that she had been pregnant for like five years. We thought that it went by very quickly. We were pretty sure that she was on the accelerated celebrity birth plan. Maybe we just love our job more than they do and time flies by for us. We may be remembering incorrectly but we’re pretty sure that Valentina will get an opportunity to see something from Salma that the rest of us haven’t seen since Desperado (hint: it’s her boobs).
Poll: What's Your Ideal Romantic Couples Getaway?: A tropical island—crashing waves and powdery beaches make for romantic relaxation. A safari—to explore nature's beauty and get a little bit wild. Europe—the perfect mix of cobblestones, cathedrals and cosmopolitanism. Camping—the fresh scent and privacy of the forest get me every time.
And now a quick rant. This comes apropos of nothing recent; it’s just that I’m awake and working at 2AM, and I always tend to go off on random tangents if I’m at a keyboard around this time.
I’m trying to quit, but I can’t stop. I used to condemn it, and now I’m in it so deep that it’s starting to interfere with other important aspects of my life like my school work, my gym schedule, and even getting sleep. It’s time for me to come clean. I watch WE TV bridal shows.
There are these new ads on the subway stops lately advertising “Take Your Man to the Doctor Day.” The idea being that if your favorite man puts off going to the doctor because it’s scary or whatever, you as a lady should somehow force him to go. Setting aside the several feminist issues I have with this idea, an interesting question remains: What responsibility do you have to make sure your partner is healthy? What right does a person have to refuse healthcare? Like my friend Billy has a backache. He’s had it for a week or two now, and we keep telling him to go to the doctor. He’s got lots of reasons why he doesn’t want to, including that he doesn’t think the doctor will be able to help and also that he doesn’t want to have to go through all the rigamarole of when you first see a doctor (he doesn’t have a regular GP.) I happen to know that he’s under a lot of stress right now, and that his stepfather was recently diagnosed with cancer, so probably there’s more to it than that.
Last week, a friend of mine (SW) was speaking to a counselor. They were talking about defensiveness because this is one of the issues troubling SW’s marriage. The counselor told her that people only get defensive when they find some truth in what is being said to them. If the person believes what is said to be completely untrue, they will not react with defensive behavior. For instance, if someone called you a tree, you guffaw and move on, not wasting breath trying to talk the other person out of believing you are a tree, because you know with unassailable certainty that you are not a tree.
From The New York Times By Sam Roberts Don’t stock up on silver anniversary cards. More than half the Americans who might have celebrated their 25th wedding anniversaries since 2000 were divorced, separated or widowed before reaching that milestone, according to the latest census survey, released yesterday.
From Celebitchy.com Comedienne Kathy Griffin has landed one of the world’s richest bachelors, Apple co-founder Steve Wozniak. She brought the huggable guy to the Emmys with her, and looked like she was wearing an engagement ring, although she wouldn’t comment when asked about it, saying “I don’t kiss and tell.” On an appearance on Larry King about her censored Emmy speech she said “What do you make, Lar? You make a few million a year? He craps that out for lunch. I mean this guy has so much money — but I love him for his personality.” It looks like Wozniak became smitten with Griffin from afar and pursued her, coming to see her perform in July. He is said to have left her a gift basket with items for her dog before they met. That’s sweet! Tango’s Take
From Fametastic.com Justin Timberlake has revealed he uses webcams to keep in touch with girlfriend Jessica Biel when he is away on tour. He told Oprah Winfrey recently: “Technology is a wonderful thing sometimes. I find that to be really cool, when you can actually see someone’s face. I do it with my friends, as well, just to have a conversation back and forth. It just makes you feel closer, that’s all.” He refused to name Jessica as his girlfriend: “But all I can tell you is she smells lovely.” He added that he gets “pretty romantic around her” and frequently serenades her when they are together. Tango’s Take