Based on the responses received from thousands of patients, a survey of 50 psychologists, social workers, physicians, nurses and marriage/family therapists reported lengths of time to match four descriptions of intercourse duration: too long, too short, adequate and desirable. Duration of one to two minutes was deemed "too short" and three to seven minutes "adequate", which seem to match society’s perceived amount of time for good sex. But, surprisingly, most researchers assigned the title of "desirable" to an experience lasting anywhere from seven to thirteen minutes. And "too long" was defined as anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes.
When the lights are turned low and sparks fly at every slight touch, it's time to turn on something to take the vibe from seventh grade flirtation to Rated R in seconds. The standard for this hardly ever changed - Marvin Gaye, Al Green, Anita Baker all have the lyrics to turn a flicker to a flame. And when all you crave is sensual intrumentals of Jazz or Blues, Miles Davis never dissapoints. At the risk of betraying the classics, I've discovered a few new Jazz artists who echo the sentiment of the greats, yet put their own evolutionary twist on a romantic catalyst that will never be replaced. My current faves? Sachal Vasandani's got a voice to melt into into; and try Miguel Zenon to add some heat to a quiet night in.
If your husband wants to have it, the quickest route to the bedroom is by way of a vacuum, a duster, and possibly a mop. I know, not very romantic and probably not your strong suit, but the small gesture of cleaning or picking up a bit around the house can lift a mother’s spirits—and lighten the stress of the impending household-chore doom. So guys, if you want to get it on, but your new-mom permanent-scowl wife just doesn’t seem up for it, clean. And make no mention of sex. Just clean. Without being asked. We guarantee you’ll be getting some by the time baby’s in bed.
Bedpost Myth # 4. Gentlemen should always pay for dinner. Disagree. Though it seems counter-intuitive (and somewhat hard to swallow) to the liberated 21st-century woman, a recent survey revealed that almost 50 percent of women kinda/sorta want men to pay. Bedpost Myth #14. Your lover should be your best friend. Agree. We'll see your Myth #14 and raise you a "your husband shouldn't be your best friend" claim. Psychologist and relationship expert, Esther Perel, challenges the idea of a mate fulfilling every role and claims that keeping a sense of mystery in marriage helps keep it hot.
Intimacy Ignited. Satisfy My Thirsty Soul. No, these aren’t the latest adult DVD releases. They are a handful of the new trend in sex advice books for Christians. According to ABC News, a wave of younger, more progressive Christians are looking to shed the guilt once associated with sex.
Just how did the engagement ring come to be? And when did it turn into a diamond ring? From the cavemen to Archduke Maximillian to DeBeers to Tiffany's to, uh, Walmart, we trace the history and legends behind the engagement ring tradition. And we've got Brad Pitt.
Do remember when PSAs ruled the airwaves? You were trying to watch an episode of MacGyver and someone wanted to let you know about the dangers of lead paint? Or back when everything had a moral? Well, we stumbled on an old PSA letting us know that everyone can get STDs. Good to know.
Well, it’s been over a week and it’s safe to say that I lost any opportunity of proposing to elevator hottie. Oh well, I’m probably not ready for marriage yet anyway. At least I’m ready to start talking to strangers. Talking to strangers in Manhattan - what a fantastic and sensible idea. If I end up dead in a gutter somewhere or married to a Republican, I’m blaming you guys. The whole elevator incident got me thinking about timing. If I had got on two minutes later, I never would have seen him, and my day would have been boring, void of all inappropriate fantasies involving bamboo huts and a strategically placed banana leaves. No but seriously, isn’t romance really all about timing?