And now a quick rant. This comes apropos of nothing recent; it’s just that I’m awake and working at 2AM, and I always tend to go off on random tangents if I’m at a keyboard around this time.
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By Karen Steele
I’m trying to quit, but I can’t stop. I used to condemn it, and now I’m in it so deep that it’s starting to interfere with other important aspects of my life like my school work, my gym schedule, and even getting sleep. It’s time for me to come clean. I watch WE TV bridal shows.
There are these new ads on the subway stops lately advertising “Take Your Man to the Doctor Day.” The idea being that if your favorite man puts off going to the doctor because it’s scary or whatever, you as a lady should somehow force him to go. Setting aside the several feminist issues I have with this idea, an interesting question remains: What responsibility do you have to make sure your partner is healthy? What right does a person have to refuse healthcare? Like my friend Billy has a backache. He’s had it for a week or two now, and we keep telling him to go to the doctor. He’s got lots of reasons why he doesn’t want to, including that he doesn’t think the doctor will be able to help and also that he doesn’t want to have to go through all the rigamarole of when you first see a doctor (he doesn’t have a regular GP.) I happen to know that he’s under a lot of stress right now, and that his stepfather was recently diagnosed with cancer, so probably there’s more to it than that.
Last week, a friend of mine (SW) was speaking to a counselor. They were talking about defensiveness because this is one of the issues troubling SW’s marriage. The counselor told her that people only get defensive when they find some truth in what is being said to them. If the person believes what is said to be completely untrue, they will not react with defensive behavior. For instance, if someone called you a tree, you guffaw and move on, not wasting breath trying to talk the other person out of believing you are a tree, because you know with unassailable certainty that you are not a tree.
From The New York Times By Sam Roberts Don’t stock up on silver anniversary cards. More than half the Americans who might have celebrated their 25th wedding anniversaries since 2000 were divorced, separated or widowed before reaching that milestone, according to the latest census survey, released yesterday.
From Celebitchy.com Comedienne Kathy Griffin has landed one of the world’s richest bachelors, Apple co-founder Steve Wozniak. She brought the huggable guy to the Emmys with her, and looked like she was wearing an engagement ring, although she wouldn’t comment when asked about it, saying “I don’t kiss and tell.” On an appearance on Larry King about her censored Emmy speech she said “What do you make, Lar? You make a few million a year? He craps that out for lunch. I mean this guy has so much money — but I love him for his personality.” It looks like Wozniak became smitten with Griffin from afar and pursued her, coming to see her perform in July. He is said to have left her a gift basket with items for her dog before they met. That’s sweet! Tango’s Take
From Fametastic.com Justin Timberlake has revealed he uses webcams to keep in touch with girlfriend Jessica Biel when he is away on tour. He told Oprah Winfrey recently: “Technology is a wonderful thing sometimes. I find that to be really cool, when you can actually see someone’s face. I do it with my friends, as well, just to have a conversation back and forth. It just makes you feel closer, that’s all.” He refused to name Jessica as his girlfriend: “But all I can tell you is she smells lovely.” He added that he gets “pretty romantic around her” and frequently serenades her when they are together. Tango’s Take
From Reuters By Madeline Chambers BERLIN (Reuters) - Bavaria's most glamorous politician -- a flame-haired motorcyclist who helped bring down state premier Edmund Stoiber -- has shocked the Catholic state in Germany by suggesting marriage should last just 7 years. Gabriele Pauli, who poses on her web site in motorcycle leathers, is standing for the leadership of Bavaria's Christian Social Union (CSU) -- sister party of Chancellor Angela Merkel's conservative Christian Democrats (CDU) -- in a vote next week. She told reporters at the launch of her campaign manifesto on Wednesday she wanted marriage to expire after seven years and accused the CSU, which promotes traditional family values, of nurturing ideals of marriage which are wide of the mark. Tango’s Take
From USA Today By Sharon Jayson More than 70% of those who married since 1970 celebrated a 10th anniversary. That statistic — one of many released Wednesday by the U.S. Census — shows that divorce itself has stabilized in recent decades, neither rising nor falling significantly. But experts say the longitudinal information also suggests divorce remains a threat throughout married life. "People are at risk of divorce throughout their marriages. That risk probably peaks in years 5 through 10," says Andrew Cherlin, a sociology professor at Johns Hopkins University. But making it to the 10th doesn't mean a couple won't split, Cherlin says. "Lots of divorces are occurring after the first decade of marriage. It's not the case that if you make it through the first 10 years, your marriage is divorce-proof." Tango’s Take
From ExtraTV.com Charlie Sheen is fighting back at his ex-wife Denise Richards’ new accusations in their ongoing custody battle. Yesterday Denise filed new papers in L.A. Superior Court accusing Charlie of “personal issues” that affect their two young daughters, Sam and Lola. Charlie responded by blasting Denise, saying that she “behaves as though she owns our children. She does not.” He added, “A day of legal reckoning is fast approaching…the truth will prevail.” Tango’s Take