Is divorce ruining society? Well, no. A Nerve.com essay argues that divorce has always been a part of society, just for social and economic reasons it hasn't always been visible. But as society moves closer to gender equality and as more and more women achieve financial independence the institution of marriage is taking on a new meaning. Marriage is no longer a means of financial and social security. Marriage today is about love. And conversely, divorce today is about incompatibility. From gay marriage to open marriage, the definition of "until death do us part" is in flux and the odds are good your childrens' marriage will look vastly different from your own. But is that such a bad thing?
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By Rick Clemons
When you first start dating again, it's common to worry whether you'll find anyone you're attracted to. Contrary to popular belief, it's not because all the good ones are taken. Sure, you might not feel that instant hormonal rush when you meet someone cute like you did in your youth, but — if you have patience and date more than one or two people — you will find someone who gives you that giddy feeling. Case in point: After her 20-year marriage ended, Kim, 44, from Louisville, KY, feared that her dating prospects wouldn't be attractive to her. But after scanning an online dating site she realized this was hardly the case. "I saw a guy named ‘Buddy' who was totally hot!" she recalls. They met for a date and he turned out to be even better-looking in person, debunking Kim's fears that the pickings are slim in the post-divorce dating pool. "I couldn't believe that there were available men out there with his kind of looks — a Don Johnson type," she says.
The BitchBuzz Manifesto states, "We knit, we bake, we fuck and we blog." And they do just that, and then tell us all about it. Smart and sassy, the ladies of BitchBuzz make it clear that they are not feministing politicos, but no-nonsense independents who are not averse to indulging in a bit of domesticity.
Fact: Palin married her high school sweetheart, Todd, and the two danced together at the Alaska Governor's Inaugural Ball this past January. Speculation: As they were dancing Palin whispered, "Honey, that's inappropriate! Does my power turn you on?" Fact: Palin likes to hunt and fish and she eats caribou. Speculation: Her affinity for "manly" activities helps hold the Palin marriage together, although the spousal competition gets tough when Palin catches bigger fish than her husband.
Lately I've been obsessed with losing weight for my wedding. I guess that's normal. But what's not normal is instead of watching what I eat and working out more consistently, I've been lying on the couch with Fred and chomping whole bags of microwave popcorn (the movie theater butter kind, no less). Am I reverse psychology-ing myself? Maybe I should concentrate on gaining weight for the wedding, and I'll become anorexic.
In many families, brothers from different mothers (or fathers) never give a second thought to the "half" nature of their relationship. Not so with Cindy McCain and half-sister Kathleen Hensley Portalski. The pair, daughters of Jim Hensley, founder of the beer company that Cindy oversees, sit on opposite sides of the political fence. In an interview with US Weekly, Portalski voiced her support for Barack Obama, saying that she and her half-sister share different political viewpoints. Portalski, whose mother was Hensley's first wife, described Cindy as "standoffish" to the weekly. She also said the potential First Lady had never made efforts to reconcile a relationship, though there was no mention of what the original beef between the two had been.
This fall, the CW is hoping lightning will strike twice with its new version of the original Beverly Hills, 90210 – soapy, addictive fun, and appointment TV in the '90s. The new series spinoff features a new cast but follows a familiar new-family-in-town formula—with a few familiar faces. Buzz has been intensifying about the new cast members, too –a uniformly beautiful bunch– ever since the show's pickup was announced in May. Expect lots of life-in the-fast-lane behavior from other members of the junior set, including hot first loves and sexy teacher crushes.
The Democratic convention ended last night, so we thought we'd check in to see if conventioneers got nookie in the mile high city. And what better place to find out than the online repository of fantasy, cock shots and misspellings: Craig's List Denver. Below, a sampling of political booty-hunters, a rating of their post, and our guess about the likelihood that they scored.
Your period: do you hide it from your boy or not? Jezebel asks the tough questions: ...there's one final frontier of unpleasantness that means you're really close: changing your pads and tampons in front of your boyfriend. (I say "boyfriend," because I'm assuming this isn't as much of an issue in lesbian relationships.) Some guys are apparently squeamish about this sort of thing, probably the same ones who are weird about period sex. But can you really have a lasting relationship with someone if you have to hide bloody cotton from them?
Weird. It looks like David Duchovny is admitting the first step: he has a problem with sex. Not the kind of problem that would require Viagra, more like the kind of problem that would require counseling. It turns out that he's a sex addict just like his character Hank Moody. Life: this is Art. Art: Life. Go have fun.