Sometimes we have to treat our relationships like a business arrangement. When traditional, lovey-dovey methods of communicating don't seem to get the job done, it's time to get formal. It's time to use things like "agendas" and "action items." Enter Tokii.com's Trading Post feature, which encourages you to haggle in the name of love. "I'll wash your car on Saturday, if you agree to give me a one-hour back rub." One person suggests a trade and the other half either accepts or negotiates the terms.
by Gregg DeMammos The holidays present couples with extraordinary challenges and opportunities for relationship and personal growth. If we look ahead at what we already know will happen, we can challenge ourselves to rise to the occasion better than ever before. Making agreements as a couple will support the two of you being on the same page, which can be vital as all heck breaks loose as it inevitably does during holiday time. We can also use these opportunities outside of the family situation and bring it into the workplace.
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Between selecting the perfect gift, booking expensive flights and dealing with the in-laws, the holidays are stressful, and, unfortunately, the closest target for those frustrations is often one's partner. Here are ten common holiday fights couples have during the holidays and how to avoid them.
Are you already experiencing a feeling of dread because the Holidays are quickly approaching and you’re single and alone? You’re surrounded with advertising showing happy couples, laughing, kissing and seemingly having a great time. The more you see the worse you feel! The more you hear, “Tis the season to be jolly” or “Chestnuts roasting on an open fire” the more you feel like crying. You wish you could be jolly; if you only knew how.
Once again, 'tis the season for your annual quest to find the perfect Christmas gift for important people in your life. At the best of times, gift-giving can be a strange and stressful mixture of obligation and a genuine desire to show appreciation for the relationship. It's hard enough to get it right with people you know well — close friends and family.
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Here’s one of the best-kept secrets: Holiday time is difficult for most of us. At this time of year there’s an unspoken pressure to look and feel happy even if we aren’t. Family problems take center stage as we gather with relatives to celebrate. We’re reminded of holidays past when we may have lost loved ones or had other intense personal difficulties with which to contend. Need I say more? The folks I counsel seem to be struggling with the holidays this year more than ever. There are a few reasons for this:
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The mob of red and white runs around cities all over the world, like New York City and San Francisco, to spread tipsy season greetings, sometimes making love connections. To get in the spirit, check out Santa smooches from SantaCons past.
If you're single and you'd like to be in a relationship, this time of year can be excruciating. There can seem to be countless ads showing happy-in-love couples giving one another romantic gifts: Cars with big red bows parked outside the house. Glittering jewelry. Even those “Forever Lazy” wearable blanket things. In television ads and in the real life examples of people around you, it can appear that everyone else has a partner to exchange gifts with and to share the season with. Except you.
Buy, buy, buy. I cringed that the verb was dominating my Christmas to-do list, and it wasn't even December yet. Looking back on my childhood, I remember magical moments with my family more than I remember specific gifts. I want my kids to have these kinds of memories, too, and not just a solid lesson in materialism...
Stumped on what to get the guy or gal in your life who you're just friends with (or just friends with benefits with)? Well, we've hand-selected the perfect holiday presents that are thoughtful enough, but don't convey, "I like you more than I'll admit." Click through our gallery to see our top gift choices for him and for her.
The holiday season can be a tricky time to be single, even if you've been that way for a while, even if you're totally comfortable with it the other 11 months of the year. Some weird single holiday haze descends and makes the most well-adjusted among us feel like lousy lumps of unwanted coal.