Discover Your "Type" (It Really Exists)


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In dating and marriage personality type determines who makes a good match, says Helen Fisher.

What's your type? Talk, dark and handsome? Short, bald and chubby? Muscular, unavailable and angry? How about Explorer, Builder, Negotiator or Director? These are the four personality types that anthropologist Helen Fisher coined during her research into why we fall in love with certain people but not others. According to Fisher, interpreting these types can help you navigate the dating ocean and net the perfect tuna (or man, if that's what you prefer).

Fisher, author of Why We Love: the Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love, built on her investigation of genetics and neurochemistry for her latest book, Why Him? Why Her?: Finding Real Love by Understanding Your Personality Type. The tome offers detailed portraits of each personality genre, a quiz that reveals your personality category, and information about the species of man you fit with. Take the quiz online, here.


For Fisher, "the most important thing about this book is not just understanding who you are, but using who you are. All four types make mistakes that they could avoid if they knew more about the type that they are." YourTango spoke with Fisher about fighting over mopping the floor, what doodles say about your love life, and the consequences of choosing the wrong type (hint: it's not so bad). 

Why did you write this book? came to me in the end of 2004 and asked me "Why do you fall in love with one person rather than another?" And I said, "I don't know. Nobody knows." We do know that we tend to fall in love with people from the same socioeconomic background, same general level of intelligence, same general level of good looks. Your childhood plays a role; timing plays a role; proximity plays a role. But you can walk into a room, ready to fall in love and everybody's from your background, has same general level of intelligence and good looks—and you don't fall in love with any of them. So I began to think maybe biology plays a role.