There is no doubt that messaging and email are becoming a second language. Capitalized words express enthusiasm or anger, multiple exclamation points translate to sheer excitement and emoticons provide the facial expression that can’t be provided by words alone. Even a simple question mark has as much meaning in a text message as a twenty word reply. Full conversations can be had simply by typing rather than speaking.
HEALTHY DATING RELATIONSHIPS
Do you find yourself very often inexplicably drawn to a project guy – a guy with some serious personal problems, emotional, financial, or physical, that you think you can help? Maybe it's the guy that just can't seem to hold a job, or the guy who drinks too much or has drug dependencies. The end result is that you typically find yourself in a relationship where you are caretaking for a partner, and feeling responsible for his wellbeing in one or more areas of his life. You may even be enabling his dependencies without even realizing it.
I believe we’ve lost touch on the value of our relationships. People seem to spend more time and money on their hair, toys, and possessions than they do on their relationships. I’m not sure when we crossed over into the land of disconnect but it saddens me that we’ve become a society obsessed with instant gratification, magical solutions, constant stimulation, ten second attention spans, and never ending to-do lists. Our need to get more, do more, and have more, has outweighed our basic human need for connection, centeredness, and cooperation.
There are many methodologies that shed light on who people are, including (1) handwriting analysis, (2) face reading, (3) astrology, (4) numerology and (5) Neimology® Science. Some of these methods can be highly useful when you start dating someone.
The University of Missouri recently released findings that spirituality, regardless of particular religion or practice, can be uplifting for your mental health*. At One Whole Health, I see time and time again that not only can a regular spiritual practice improve your frame of mind, but it can even improve your marriage.
There is no phrase so misinterpreted as "unconditional love." People use it as an excuse to stay in bad relationships. They use it as some ideal they chase when they are not even sure what it means. They use it when they say, "I believe in marriage." or "I believe in loving someone until they can love themselves." or "I'm religious and want to love unconditionally." or "I can't say 'if you do this, I'm out' because that is not unconditional love." None of those things are unconditional love.
Does your significant other have personality characteristics that drive you insane? Maybe your loved one seems to get stressed out about the smallest things. Or perhaps your mate forgets to pay the electric bill month after month. Does a less than favorable personality characteristic mean certain doom for your relationship?
If you're desperately seeking the absolutely perfect relationship, call off the search! Because whether you're single, dating, married or divorced, you don't need to find a brand new partner — or a perfect partner at all — to be happier in love today.
It really is as simple as making the other person feel connected. Guess what? DON'T FOCUS ON TALKING! Or pouting, or slamming doors, or happily acting like everything's ok. Often the results of talking things out end in further frustration and alienation. In no way am I saying don't discuss big and small issues with your partner. What I am saying is that if you or your partner do not feel CONNECTED to the relationship, then trying to talk about ANYTHING is not going to work at making you feel loved, valued, or heard.
Find out your deep desire for finding a partner so you can avoid making a poor choice in love. Some women look at being single as something to fix. After age 25 and your friends all start to marry, the process of filling that perceived hole in your life begins. Family, friends and co-workers ask if you are dating someone and it feels like something is wrong if you are not in a relationship. You get drawn into the need to find a man that you find it silly to answer the question, “Why do you want love?”