Just because you're getting a divorce doesn't mean that you can't be civil.
Making the decision to get a divorce is seriously scary. No one ever really expects that they'll wake up one day and realize that their relationship isn't working out and there's nothing they can do to save it — Not to mention having to face the fact that they'll be living apart after being together for so long. But do you know what's even scarier? Everything that comes after that decision has been made.
Splitting up doesn't just affect your relationship with your partner, it has a direct effect on your family. Does this make you and your ex enemies? What exactly does the divorce mean for your kids? These thoughts probably hit the tip of the iceberg of everything else that you're concerned about. That being said, regardless of the animosity you're feeling towards your ex partner, you have to figure out a way to get past the issues for the sake of the kids. Turning to a divorce mediator is one way of doing just that.
In the video above, Rachel Green makes the case for why you should settle your differences through mediation is a great way to avoid the drama that comes with divorce, and how the right mediator can put your family on the path to recovery. What's better than getting closure by coming to an agreement without having to spend a lot of bucks to do it?
... and hoping the distance will naturally end the relationship. "No, honey, don't bother moving across country with me (even though you could). We'll just do long distance," said no happily committed person ever.
Similar to this guy's story, you're desperately hoping that the other person will simply stop calling at some point if you make a pilgrimage somewhere else ... anywhere else.
Gym attendance at an all time high? Check. Finally lost that spare tire? Check. Sudden new interest in grooming when you didn't care before? Yup. The act of eyeing the door has launched you off the couch and back into looking-for-a-mate fighting shape.
Do you find yourself flinching (or even wanting to scream) every time your paramour plasters signs of their devotion all over your Facebook wall? Have you given up on commenting in hopes of "not encouraging it"? Have you locked your social media accounts to prevent posts by others?
Since you started pulling away, your partner has redoubled their efforts to win you over in ways that you're starting to consider deeply pathetic.
Suddenly, there's no time like the present to re-ignite your long-dormant personal goals. That popsicle stick model of the Eiffel tower (to scale, of course) that you started in 8th grade suddenly demands you finish it.
You've solidly rocketed yourself right into IDGAF (I don't give a f*ck) territory when it comes to making decisions. You no longer care whether the other person is irritated, pissed-off or inconvenienced by anything you do. In fact, you welcome their displeasure, since in a small way it gets the message across that you're done.
In a futile effort to drive them far, far away, you've had that talk that goes, "Dah-ling, I'm a senseless disaster (fill in your own adjectives) who could never, ever be as nice to you as you are to me. I don't want to tie you down/hold you back/dull your shine."
"You deserve someone better." a.k.a. Please date anyone but me!