What can a reasonable woman do once her beloved spouse has crossed the line of infidelity?
He cheated. Now you know the truth. What are you going to do?
All those little white lies and bigger and bigger lies he had been telling had you tied up in knots. You wanted so much to believe him, to trust that he was really faithful and just busy. You wanted so much to forgive him for neglecting you, letting you down, disappointing you because you felt he really has good intentions and he really loves you.
Cheating happens for many reasons. But the pain and devastation is often quite similar.
You cheated and she discovered the truth. What do you do now?
All those little white lies and bigger and bigger lies had you tied up in knots. You got yourself into a situation which felt great at first but started to eat away at you. The other woman seemed so appealing, so exciting, so understanding and so different from your wife. This other woman played up to you, flattered your faltering ego, and provided the hot sex you had been craving but not receiving at home. You thought you were so cool, that you could have your cake and eat it too.
Mathias was a German I dated in ’07 while he was on a break with his girlfriend. I didn’t find out I’d been in break territory until a week ago, when I ran into Mathias and he told me he’d gotten back together with his fräulein for the fourth time in their ten year relationship. Apparently, I was one of several women he’d strayed with. Seemed his girlfriend occasionally drifted, too.
But Mathias didn’t see these infidelities as evidence he was either a) in the wrong relationship or b) a no-good cheat.
“The affairs are a good thing,” he told me. “It makes our love stronger.”
