In addition to being engaged to Kyla Weber (a Canadian realtor, we're obligated to mention her nationality and occupation), Vince Vaughn is talking about kids. While doing press for Couples Retreat, the Swingers star mentioned that he's about read for settling down a bit and making a family. It really is the end of an era.
Katherine Heigl and husband Josh Kelley were spotted out in Beverly Hills on Saturday shopping for a baby stroller. Paparazzi caught the couple outside high-end baby boutique Bel Bambini. The Grey's Anatomy actress was wearing a loose tunic dress—perfect for hiding an emerging baby bump.
I am a woman. I have all the biological requirements to have a child. Yet, I do not have the instincts or rational desire to do so. Does that make me less of a woman to not want to have a child either by using my body, my eggs, or my money to adopt?
Frankly, I was surprised some commenters even went there with the word "selfish." After all, isn't one of the upshots of feminism supposed to be that women have more choices than ever before and each of us is free to do what makes us happy? Let me be clear: I respect whatever other women choose to do because I'd want them to respect what I choose to do. Kids, no kids, puppies, iguanas, I don't care what your choice is. But I do care about the kind of judgments us women make against one another.
Despite being an international agent of adoption, Angelina Jolie, evidently, did not want kids of her own. But Brad Pitt changed all that. And he changed it by not lobbying too hard for kids and accepting her adopted kids as his own. Brad Pitt is truly wise in the way of women. He must have really been paying attention on the Thelma And Louise set. He also is rescuing New Orleans more or less by his lonesome.
Making babies met two very different forms of Kryptonite this week: the state of Louisiana and the antidepressant, Paxil. New Orleans' Times-Picayune reported this week that state representative John LaBruzzo, a Republican, is studying a plan that would pay women $1,000 to have their tubes tied in an effort to curb welfare costs.
Hoo boy, things have been a little heavy around the old Ference-Smith house of late. See, I've come into some money. Which is awesome. But it has changed the conversation about buying an apartment from, "I'd really love to buy someday when we've saved enough for a down payment" to, "OK, now, what's this whole mortgage thing again?" Which is a little scary. I mean, I do want to buy an apartment. Like a lot. After this spring's getting kicked out of our place debacle, I look forward to living somewhere that I am in control of. And unlike many of my friends, the commitment of home buying doesn't seem scary to me.
I am the youngest of three kids in my family and the last to get married. My mother is practically going to kick me down the aisle in October. But silly me, I thought that’s where the pressure ended. I was wrong. This past weekend we had a family reunion at Lake Norman in North Carolina. My brother and his wife brought their adorable 2-year-old daughter Lauren (the first grandchild in the family) and my sister and her husband brought their newborn, Jacob. I love being an aunt. I get to coo at Jacob when he’s smiling and happy, and I get to pass him back to my sister when he’s got a big diaper blow-out or starts crying for no reason at all. Everyone in the family was oohing and ahhing over the darling new additions to our family and then began placing bets on when Fred and I were going to be popping out our own. “I’ve told everyone it will be in the first year of marriage,” my grandmother said to me, matter-of-factly.
It was just report that in the UK more children are now born out-of-wedlock than to wed parents. This is a major shift, 30 years ago it was 1 in 10. The definition of illegitimate will probably have to be reassessed. Maybe illegitimate now can mean 'as a result of a one-night stand, drunken hookup, or illicit affair.'
Having a child irrevocably alters the balance of a partnership. The responsibility, time commitment and difficulty having baby is tough, no matter how strong your union; romance and sex after kids can be hard to accomplish. Although many couples decide the disruption is worth it, finding a new equilibrium can be challenging. Here, one mother comments on why she won't do it again. In her own words, "admitting that bringing a child into a relationship might ruin said relationship verges on the unpatriotic. Like most of us, I expect romance to survive marriage and committed cohabitation. I’m more dubious that it can survive raising a child."