Why don't you just adopt they say. Think of all the kids who have no parents who would at least get one. You can bond with a child that does not share your DNA. True but adoption is not an option. It's not about income, passing the home visit with the social worker, or passing the background check. Adoption is a selfless act and a choice to love a child that has no biological tie to you as if they were your own.
HAVING A BABY
When I got pregnant, I was bound and determined to look good after the baby was born. I admired those moms in my Facebook newsfeed whose hospital pictures showed them smiling with makeup on as they cuddled their newborn. In retrospect, this was a crazy notion because after giving birth I did NOT look good. Not at all...
After one-and-a-half years of fruitless (and awkward) babymaking sex, we had decided it was time to move forward with Plan B and seek out fertility testing. It was a big step. After all, not so long ago, we had been on the brink of separation, in part because of our frustrated efforts at procreation.
Are you working your tail off to meet someone, seeing zero results and searching for an escape hatch? If you have been looking for your soulmate for years and getting nowhere, maybe you need to stop trying so hard and sit still long enough to assess where you really are.
Japan, as you might know, has not been reproducing at a replacement rate (2.1 births per woman), and that has a number of social scientists on edge. And so, a robotic baby that cries and interacts somewhat like a real baby -- but looks a little like a giant Tamagotchi -- has been created to convince childless couples to have a kid. The hope is that Yotaro will charm the pants off these couples, and get that birthrate going back north. There are likely skeptics.
A growing stack of research reveals that happy marriages take a nosedive when a couple becomes a family. Thanks to sleepless nights, new expectations, and the demands of bringing up baby while holding down a job, 30 to 50 percent of all new parents feel as distressed as couples already in therapy for marriage problems. When a couple has a baby, their marriage can still stay strong. Here's how.
She's been an TV show host, an infomercial pitch-gal, a Playmate, and an internet icon. But now Cindy Margolis wants to be known as a spokeswoman for infertility. She has written a new book with the focus on her problems conceiving and how these pitfalls can be avoided.
What’s it really like to have a baby all by your lonesome? Not so lonesome after all, says Louise Sloan. "I was ready for kids at age 28—and well aware that women's fertility starts to plummet at 35. When I saw my doctor that fateful year, she asked me if I wanted children. "Yes," I replied. "Definitely." With a stern look, she snapped, "Well, you're not getting any younger!" Thanks for the news flash, I thought. What kind of idiot does she think I am? I was a romantic, procrastinating idiot, to be exact. Despite my clear intellectual understanding of the issues involved, it took me until age 38 before I seriously started thinking about single motherhood, and even then, I had to be dragged into it kicking and screaming by my biological clock, which was starting to sound more like a car alarm."
I should have known. When you're 30 years old, like we are, and when you've been married three years, like we have, everything becomes about having a baby. No matter what we're talking about—our jobs, our friends, an upcoming vacation—reproduction is always just a free association away. It has even infiltrated our sex life: Yesterday, Emily confessed that her dirty thoughts about me now trigger a fantasy of me knocking her up.We both want a baby. If only we could agree on when. Jay Rosenshield writes about being a married man who's not ready to have a child.