By Marianne Beach, GalTime Staff You’ve finally found the perfect guy. So how come your friends aren’t cheering him on? In fact, they’re acting anywhere from a little resentful to downright hostile every time you bring him around. And it’s starting to cause waves for both you and them—and you and him.
Some of you might be wondering, "Why did you start an anti Janet Hsieh blog? What do you have against her? What did she ever do to you? Don't all her raving fans think she's wonderful?" Well nothing. But it's what she represents that I have a problem with. I mean, look at her - She's politically correct, full of fake enthusiasm, does publicity stunts, yet gets treated like a Goddess and there's not a single negative word about her on the internet.
Few writers touch on the great troubler of relationships, the one that many therapists spend much of their careers trying to help clients clear up-- self-hate. Hate or disgust can ricochet inward, in perfectionistic or self-critical ways--thighs that are too big, lips that are too thin, some trait or tendency that is slightly off, and for that person becomes a focus that spoils everything beautiful about them.
Even though I'm continually taking bets on how long it will take for me and my husband to want to start a fist fight. I really do appreciate my marriage for it's complexity, but I have to tell you. It's really hard. I know more than a few couples that have the same relationship my husband and I have. We try to band together and remember our strengths. We come together to bring back a piece of our social life in order to revive ourselves. The seemingly redundant task of marriage has made us all just a little crazy. We take comfort
According to an old saying, the opposite of love isn’t hate but indifference. Recent scientific studies show that there is some truth to this claim. The areas of the brain associated with hate are entirely different from those associated with other negative emotions, including fear and sadness. Fear and sadness are significantly correlated with neuronal activation in the subcortical almond-shaped structure known as the “emotional brain” or the “amygdala”.
Ladies aren't the only ones with opinions. We may hate his stupid tees and creepy turtlenecks, but our guys are just as puzzled by some of our style choices. That's fair—I'll keep my giant underwear to myself thankyouverymuch—but there are just some (admittedly questionable) beauty and fashion trends I refuse to give up.
You might want to a consider a sturdy lock for your closet. Dating blogger Abraham Lloyd breaks down the five fashion choices your man just doesn't get. When he "accidentally" donates them to the Salvation Army, you'll know what really happened.
The perils of a marriage gone south!
London researchers have found there's a thin line between love and hate. Romantic love and hate circuits both lit up the putamen and insula, which are linked to aggression and stress in the "thinking region"of the brain. This is why you may have "loved someone so much it hurts" and hate to wait by the phone. While both are passionate emotions, hate is actually more logical than love.
