Playing hard to get and being hard to get are two very different things according to dating expert Elizabeth Stone. In order to maintain interest and avoid unobtainable expectations, one should never play this gimmicky game. Read on to learn the 4 ways you can (and should) be authentically hard to get.
HARD TO GET
We asked guys if reading the signs was really all that simple: Is playing hard to get a turn on, a turn off, or just plain confusing? Here’s what they said.
Dating is often a game of cat and mouse, but presumably, doesn't the mouse just give up and then you start looking for apartments together? This week, Cat (really, that's her name) wrote in to ask if it's normal for men to expect you to be in constant pursuit. She writes: "We hooked up for about 2 months and twice during that time he got upset for whatever reason (he plays the martyr bit, “you don’t have time for me”) and stopped talking to me without ever discussing it.
When you're hard to get, we try harder. What if your guy cheated in his past relationship? It really bothers some guys if their lady has a high number. What if your lover refuses to answer when asked what his "number" is? Food is just as important to women as it is to men. Imagine that! And, six reasons black women should date outside of their ethnicity.
According to a new study titled, "He Loves me, He Loves Me Not… Uncertainty Can Increase Romantic Attraction," women are more attracted to men when they can't tell how much the men like them.