Should is one of the most dangerous words in the English language- it speaks of obligation (I should do the grocery shopping), expectation (my partner should bring me flowers), and often disappointment (I should be more successful).
There are literally hundreds, if not hundreds of thousands of ways we can behave that could be considered loving. Yet, it is from where the gesture comes from that distinguishes the loving act from the empty gesture. If your goal is to display your love or affection genuinely, here are my five suggestions.
In my private counseling practice, clients often tell me, "I want to be happy!" We then set about making it a reality. As a psychotherapist, I know that your habits, your relationships, your environment, and especially what you think about them determine more about how happy you are than your genes do because I've watched so many people figure out how to meet their goals and create their own happiness. You can improve any part of your life you wish: your relationship with yourself, your relationships with others, your work life, your home life, and even your health.
We start dating with the best intentions, taking care to be our best selves. Then we get comfortable and complacent. You can blame your partner or you can commit to making sure you keep working to earn that long-term affection. Here are 10 ways to put your best foot forward in your relationship—and to keep moving.
When I was 18 years old, I thought that losing weight would make my life perfect. That's one of the side effects of dieting and hating your body for so long—you begin to assume that thin people have perfect, happy lives and relationships to match their perfectly petite waistlines...
Mastering the Art of Feeling Good Intro Series: Part-4 Has it ever occurred to you that your mental attitude has more to do with your state of happiness than just about anything else? Think about it. Your attitude is how you think about a thing or occurrence; it's your perception of it. So basically, the attitudes that you carry are the way that your being is approaching anything that you encounter in life.
The search for happiness has been a topic in popular psychology recently and the consensus of several gurus has been that we humans are wired to be most content when our lives are focused on love and work. Love can mean all forms of intimate social interaction, and work can mean any regular organized effort toward a valued goal. One way promising way to maximize happiness is to strive, together, toward the valued goal of improving the most intimate relationship in your life. Learning how to make one another happy can be seen as a valued goal for anyone in a relationship.Happiness in relationship can be approached by this five skills. Improvement in these skills is noticeable and measurable; progress can generate increased satisfaction quickly. Framing and sharing these skills to improve the quality of your relationship can enhance bonding.
Got a hot date tonight but still haven't shed those final five pounds? Fortunately, sex appeal isn't all about weight. We asked our experts for some suggestions about how you can feel irresistible at any dress size, and here's what they had to say!
The Numbers Are Staggering. In the United States alone, it estimated that 18.8 million people suffer from a depressive disorder in any given year. That translates into nearly 10% of the US population. Worldwide, that number is estimated at more than 120 million. According to the American Medical Association, more than twice as many women (estimated at 25% of the population) experience depression as men (estimated at 12%), regardless of racial background or financial status.
July 4th is a 10K tradition for me and I set out with 57,753 of my running buddies. The Peachtree Road Race in Atlanta is the biggest 10K in the world, and I got to run it. I know, I know; I can hear the groans. Running's not for everyone, but the excitement was palpable. There was some kind of transcendent experience going on. I felt happiness all around me. Allow me to explain.
Mastering the Art of Feeling Good Intro Series: Part-3 This is exciting because this is the first time ever that I've revealed a full chapter of my book, Mastering the Art of Feeling Good. When I was thinking about the best way to sum up achieving happiness on-demand, I realized I already had, so here it is...
Here's how I changed my entire existence in one day and with one thought: I decided and chose to be happy. Please don't read this or write this off as being sappy. I am absolutely 100% serious about how easy it can be to choose happiness if you're willing to give it a try.
The problem today is that as a working mom you are so busy taking care of everybody else that you often lose connection with YOU and with your soul. The good news is that you can reconnect though and you can do it without shortchanging anyone else and without feeling guilty. Please know that the brighter your inner light shines the brighter the inner light of those around you will shine. So, it is vital to care for yourself, too! I am going to share with you three easy solutions you can use to reconnect with your soul and shine your inner light brighter.
The common belief when it comes to depression is that it is something over which we have no control. Things happen, and we have no choice but to become depressed. Some have argued it's a disease with brain chemistry out of whack and others believe there may be a genetic predisposition. I have a different theory based on my work with clients; my study of the legendary work of Dr. William Glasser and the subsequent development of my own process, called InsideOut Empowerment™.
While I was at the IFM Convention a couple of weeks ago, I got to listen to Dr. Mimi Guarneri, a cardiologist from Southern California and the winner of the Linus Pauling award this year for her outstanding work. I just finished reading her book, The Heart Speaks, in which she talks about her journey from being a type A, by-the-book cardiologist to someone who has grown to appreciate and respect the power and influence that thoughts, feelings, emotions, and a sense of belonging have on heart health.
Long term relationships can become routine, boring and stale. Here are a few suggestions to keep the relationship fresh. 1.Choose to look at the whole picture. The glass is half full and half empty ALWAYS. You can choose to look at what makes you unhappy, or you can choose to consider seeing both the glass half empty and half full (which is the real deal). Unless you are seeing the whole perspective, you will not be getting a realistic view.