We all have our own definition of happy. Have you ever considered that yours is making you unhappy? When we picture certain events happening in our lives before we can be happy (promotion, marriage, new home), we look for those specific situations and set ourselves up to miss out on many experiences that may have lead us to happiness in a different way.
Now that the holidays are over we are all getting back to work again. I’m wondering, how you feel about going back to the daily grind? Of course, for some of us going to work is a welcome reprise from the holidays. But for other’s I suspect that you are not looking forward to going back to work.
Dr. Romance writes: Want to give yourself a holiday gift that will last the rest of your life? Try giving yourself the gift of happiness. Research shows that happiness and satisfaction depend more on the inner person than on external circumstances. The secret to living a happy life is to get in charge of your life and what you are doing. Then you can build the life you want.
I’m the first to admit I have some strong opinions, some of which have been wildly popular, and others absolutely not. That could be because we have been indoctrinated into a modicum of agreement on what’s polite, etiquette or even appropriate when it comes to giving unsolicited advice. Or (my suspicion is) we are simply afraid of the truth. However you look at it, the consequences for such straight talk can be stringent; tribal ostracization, social paralysis or, worse, no one likes you and you die alone.
Our emotions are like most things. They're not bad, except in excess. It is natural to experience anger, fear, anxiety, disappointment, resentment, judgment, and guilt ... on occasion. However, negative emotions become all-consuming, toxic, and devastating to our emotional health and our intimate relationships if we fail to deal with them effectively.
With Thanksgiving weekend around the corner, it can seem as though there won’t be enough time to get everything ready. Shopping lists, invitations, travel plans, details, searching for last year’s décor - it’s enough to forget what the holiday was designed for, which is thankfulness and gratitude for all we have! It might be a stretch to be thankful for the pre-holiday panic, but putting the to-do list to the side for a moment will do wonders to take the stress out of your week, not only this week but all through the holiday season.
We can learn so much from our pets, in their innocence and purity of heart. They enjoy every moment, they are always excited about the future, and, most of all, they are completely shameless. They live in the present moment, carry no guilt or negative emotions over their actions of the past and, no matter what, they love well. My beautiful puppy Ethan thinks nothing of rolling over and exposing his soft underbelly to be rubbed, whether to me or a complete stranger. He is not ashamed to show who he is, or ask for what he wants.
For his book You Can Be Right (Or You Can Be Married), author Dana Adam Shapiro interviewed hundreds of divorced men and women around the country about why their marriages ended. His deduction? Just 17% of marriage are happy.
Words can hurt or heal. Choose the words you say so your voice will be one of encouragement and praise, rather than demeaning and negative. Change the way you talk to others, and change their lives and yours. Empower those you incounter with encouraging words and phrases. I want to share a story with you about why I am so driven to teach, guide and mentor parents, coaches, counselors, police, teachers and other adults who are in a position to work with young people. Tell Me The Words To Say
Many of us tell small lies to avoid conflict, consequences and judgment. When your partner asks whether the blouse you're wearing is new, you tell a little white lie to avoid a conflict about finances. No, this blouse isn't new, I've had it for years, you say, when in fact you bought it last week. You didn't get to the cleaner today but want to avoid the judgment about your failure to take responsibilities seriously, so you fib, I had to work through lunch today, when in fact, you had lunch with your sister.
Below are just a few of the most desired traits that men look for in the women they want to be with for life.
By Dr. Joe Rubino, creator of www.successhappinessformula.com and CEO of www.CenterForPersonalReinvention.com All too often, we tend to put off those things that are most important to us well into the future. We justify our procrastination with excuses about how we lack, time, money, or some other permission that will allow us to step into a life of true choice and happiness.
“I’ll be there for you (when the rain starts to pour), I’ll be there for you (like I’ve always been before), I’ll be there for you (because you’re there for me too).” The chorus to the theme song of the hit TV series ‘Friends’ is indelibly marked in my brain forever. The closeness, loyalty, and trust these six friends had was one of my secret addictions and yet ten years later the show is over and the friends and I have moved on.
Couples without kids are probably so much happier than couples with kids. After all, couples without kids have fewer financial constraints, fewer responsibilities and more time to themselves. Plus, waking up to change diapers in the middle of the night must make coupled parents totally miserable, right?