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Should You Date Without Butterflies?

Should You Date Without Butterflies?

Should you continue to date someone if you are feeling no butterflies or attraction? Read more!

Should you continue to date someone if you are feeling no butterflies in your stomach or attraction? This is a complicated question and one that is worth taking time to study. Look at your previous attractions and see if the people you dated were good for you or lowered your self-esteem. Just because you are have high chemistry with someone doesn’t mean that it will be long-lasting relationship good for you. Similar to sweets, we may love to load up on them but are they nourishing us?

3 Relationship Dilemma’s When Searching For Your SoulMate [EXP]

3 Relationship Dilemma’s When Searching For Your SoulMate [EXP]

Have you ever considered the downside to searching for your soul mate? Let's explore them shall we?

Most Americans believe that in throughout their dating process, they are searching for their soul mate - the person they are destined to spend the rest of their lives with. Many may wonder why this process is so difficult or how to even get there. These three steps show you what might be going wrong and how to put you on the path to Mr. Right.

Should You Have More Sex?

Should You Have More Sex?

Do all the opinions on how much sex you should have take the focus away from what really matters?

Sex sex sex sex sex.  It seems one can hardly go a day without being bombarded by notions of how much and what kind of sex we should have.  Dr. Oz tells us that in a healthy relationship partners have sex three times a week, and it seems like Cosmo will never run out of new sex positions to offer us (I mean, seriously--how many can there be?).  Then throw in 50 Shades of Grey, The Bachelor Born-Again Virgin, and it eventually becomes a FACT: sex is the only and most important barometer of a relationship.

How to Bring the Spark Back in Your Marriage and Make Him Happy!

How to Bring the Spark Back in Your Marriage and Make Him Happy!

Would you love to bring the spark back in your marriage and have a happy husband for a change?

Have you been married for years and you'd love to bring that spark back into your marriage? What if you could make your husband happy? Would you do it? I have a very inspiring success story to share with you today. It's from Kathy, one of my wonderful coaching clients. But before we go any further, it's good to note that I actually do not offer "relationship coaching" services. True!

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There's no place like home.

Love Lessons From 'Oz The Great & Powerful'

Plus: how "the wizard" will ruin your relationship.

I recently went to see the new Disney movie "Oz the Great and Powerful." You see, as a psychologist and author of the book Follow the Yellow Brick Road: How to Change for the Better When Life Gives You Its Worst, I took a special interest in this film. In my book, I devote an entire chapter to the concept of the wizard, and it is through this lens that I warn my clients to watch out; the wizard will wreck your relationship.

What is Your Love Style?

What is Your Love Style?

Identify ways you make mistakes in love and find out how to fix them.

The kind of love that characterizes what we feel when we fall in love is not empowering love; it’s not unconditional; indeed, it is based failingly on need and powerlessness. Just think of the familiar colloquial phrases to describe this feeling of falling in love: “Falling head over heals”; “Being swept away”; “I’m crazy about you.” All of them indicate a state of ungroundedness, as if a force has taken us away from our sanity.

Relationship Trouble? Discover the Perfection of Imperfection

Relationship Trouble? Discover the Perfection of Imperfection

Painful personal or professional relationship? We carry our unresolved issues with us wherever we go

WHO’S REALLY PUSHING YOUR BUTTONS? The people who trigger our fear, guilt, shame, anger and frustration resemble our early caregivers. If your primary caregiver often ignored you or your needs and acted like your purpose was to make their life easier, it’s likely that you still attract people with a narcissistic personality. Even if you have a loving partner, you may attract professional colleagues who are self-centered and take advantage of you.

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Should you stay or should you go?

The 7 Best Reasons To Break Up

Some problems are small potatoes. Others are huge, honking dealbreakers.

Are you in a relationship that doesn't feel quite right? Have you gone back and forth trying to decide if you should stay or go? Here are some signs you should run, not walk to the nearest exit.

What Will Love Give You?

What Will Love Give You?

What are your beliefs about what another's love will give to you or do for you?

Did you grow up believing that if only someone REALLY loved you in the way you needed to be loved, then you would feel happy, safe, lovable and worthy? Certainly being truly loved by parents goes a long way toward supporting children in feeling safe and lovable, but it is not the whole story.

The Academy Awards & Your Love Life

The Academy Awards & Your Love Life

Learn how this relaxation exercise can improve your love life.

What could the Academy Awards possibly have to do with your love life? Well, unless you have direct access to Bradley Cooper (who proclaims that he's looking for love btw) and he decides to bring you down that red carpet as his date, you might think that those two aspirations have nothing in common.

5 Ways Sex Makes Us Smarter
Exercise your brain cells with some sexual activity.

5 Ways Sex Makes Us Smarter

Sex on the brain just might make you a genius.

Here's one major reason I studied communications as an undergraduate and not the sciences: Research seems to always contradict itself.