Relationships go through several stages over time. If you want to find "the one" and live happily ever after, read this relationship expert advice and start building a happy future.
HAPPILY EVER AFTER
Most Americans believe that in throughout their dating process, they are searching for their soul mate - the person they are destined to spend the rest of their lives with. Many may wonder why this process is so difficult or how to even get there. These three steps show you what might be going wrong and how to put you on the path to Mr. Right.
Now that the holidays are over we are all getting back to work again. I’m wondering, how you feel about going back to the daily grind? Of course, for some of us going to work is a welcome reprise from the holidays. But for other’s I suspect that you are not looking forward to going back to work.
...And they lived happily ever after You don't have to be a hopeless romantic or a Disney uber-fan to feel something when you read these words. The desire to attract and sustain a long-lasting, satisfyingly happy love relationship is shared by many women and men too. There is something comforting and pleasing about the prospect of finding a mate, maybe even a soulmate, and having the passion and love continue to grow over time. Unfortunately, the dream of “happily ever after” feels impossible to many.
I am not here to say sex is right or wrong—it isn’t…right or wrong. It’s a biological function often associated with heavy breathing, sucking face, and a bleary anticipation, however repressed, of Happily Ever After… unless, of course, it’s not! Which is rare, unless you’re a pro at shutting off your feeling center. In any case, it’s precisely the After part that I am after right here and now.
Naive Love Finding true love is the central theme of life’s story. From the time we’re young we long for love, hoping one day it will magically appear and find us. We learn this from fairy tales where the prince and princess live “happily ever after”. Our youthful expectations of love are based on one-dimensional characters in made-up stories and carried into adulthood from reading Harlequin Romance novels.
If you've been paying any attention at all, you're keenly aware that happily married couples are an endangered species. You probably know the divorce statistics (50%) and when you go to the grocery store, you see the magazine covers highlighting the breakups of politicians, athletes, singers, and actors.
People ask me all the time how to have a great relationship, or if I think they are ready. I usually ask them the same two questions: What do you want and what are you willing to do about it? Then I direct them to my Relationship Aptitude Test, or RAT, which helps you smell a rat—or find out if you are one. It's multiple choice. Take your time when completing it.
"Why didn't someone tell me it was going to be so hard? I thought that after we were married things would settle down and we could just be happy together! How come we just fight—and our fights go around in circles and we never solve anything? I am not even sure I should have gotten married in the first place!"
Valentine’s Day often feels like Valentine’s Month, doesn't it? Especially when we look around and see all of the happy couples fawning over each other while sharing secret glances, intimate moments and Desserts. Ugh! Citizens of the Toad Kingdom, I would guess that some of you ask, "When is it my turn to split the Chocolate Decadence?" Right? And How will you know your Prince Charming (PC) when you meet him - whether from an Online Dating Site or at the local library?
People date, putting their best foot forward, to acquire the relationship they want. If you are married, you succeeded at the Compatibility Stage of Relationships, deciding you and your spouse had enough in common to make a lifetime commitment to each other. Congratulations!
With Valentine’s Day around the corner, instead of lamenting about your love life to your friends, let this be your wake up call. If you’re a smart, successful woman and haven’t found “the one”, it’s time to take your love life seriously. Make a commitment to love and yourself to take the once-and-for-all action needed to have your ideal love relationship.
Idyllic Vision of Love Most of us grew up with an idyllic vision of love from “Happily Ever After” stories and movies. This idyllic vision takes us on a roller coaster ride, full of twists and turns. We’re in relationships that aren’t ideal. We stay in relationships that are clearly over. We don’t fully express ourselves for fear of getting hurt. We do these things in the name of love. I know this to be true because this was who I was.
There are over 100 million single adults over the age of 25 in our country, and for most of them, the thought of being single and dating is analogous to having a red hot poker jammed into their eye. Based on my research, most single women dislike dating and being single. When it comes to finding that special guy to share their life with, many of these women say that there is hope in their heart, but they honestly admit that they are not too optimistic that true love is in their future.
As the date of the Royal Wedding nears, the fairytale fantasy of a beautiful young woman marrying a prince comes closer to having a rare moment rooted in reality. Out of an entire planet of females, she has won what many would say is one of the most coveted lotteries in the world. But marrying a prince doesn’t automatically guarantee you a happy ending. Ask Princess Diana.