When it comes to intimacy and sex, there are a few common questions that race through the minds of every couple. Are you more likely to take charge and be more dominant? Or do you prefer when your partner is in control? Spending so much time wondering what is going through your lover's mind can be a mood killer. In this installment of "That's What He Said", the guys talk about who should take over the reigns by taking initiative in the bedroom. Check out the video above to find out what he's really thinking when it comes to your sex live.
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Here at YourTango we try to give you the male perspective; in fact, What Guys Think is one of our most popular sections, so we know you're interested in the male mind. In the spirit of decoding dudes, we're giving NYC-based ladies a chance to go straight to the source with the Man Panel, part of Lord & Taylor's Dating Boot Camp
Em and Lo's Wise Guys column—a regular feature asking three guys a sex/dating question—tackled hand holding, cuddling and the men who claim they don't like doing either this week. A worried reader wanted to know if a cuddle-phobic man she recently started dating is as he says or (those dreaded words) "just not that into me." The straight married guys says get rid of him, the married gay man says it's no biggie and the single guy says to look for other signs of he's not interested.
Men from different lovestages debate whether or not to move in with a girlfriend before marriage. Some think it spells disaster for the relationship while others are convinced it's a necessary step. Watch five guys discuss the upsides and downsides to sharing a home with your partner before saying "I do." Their answers might surprise you!
You ladies nickname us according to our jobs, our sexual proclivities, or some flaw in our character, as if the act of nicknaming is some preemptive, passive-aggressive revenge tactic. It should be noted that a nickname is the polar opposite of a pet name; essentially, one is accentuating the negative, the other the positive... Women objectify men when they nickname them. Nicknaming a man reduces him to a character that women use in their narratives where they are eternally victimized by dudes who fail to live up to their superficial, fantasy definition of romantic fulfillment.
I haven't met many men that like to be dominated on a regular basis, but most gals I know like to take charge in the bedroom, at least from time to time. Aside from obvious dominate/submissive relationships, how do regular ol' Joes feel about women taking charge between the sheets, both is subtle ways—directing the positions and the pace—and with more obvious methods—spanking, restraints, etc.? I went to the guys on my IM to find out how they feel about being dominated.
Good sex: a man explains his preferences. "I have never met a woman who thought she was bad in bed. I have known plenty of women who can rattle off an impromptu, critical dissertation on the carnal failings of most men. 'He didn't get me off.' 'He treated my nipples like Xbox control sticks.' 'He came before his pants were off.' No, not all women are great in bed. Is the onus on dudes to break the bedsprings? I say no. It is both of our responsibilities to be the best lay possible."
I bang the worst dudes (Sorry, Mom) is a website that's sort of like group therapy for all of us ladies who feel like we're the only ones hooking up with losers. The site updates daily with pictures of men (with a protective black bar over the eyes) and a little write-up of whatever horrid thing they did. While it may seem mean-spirited many of the descriptions about bad sex are so laugh out loud hilarious that it's almost worth it.
First-date sex: One guy says go for it, even if it ends up being a one-night stand. Wise advice? Hard to say, but according to this dude, "Your prince might not call you back if you rail him in the bathroom stall or after he slinks out of your apartment while you’re sleeping. If that happens, cry and wail! Just know that reports of the fragility of the human heart are greatly exaggerated."
When it comes to dating, there are so many rules. Rules, rules, rules. You can't call someone the day after you get her number. You're not supposed to wear a T-shirt with holes in it to your new flame's swanky birthday dinner. When someone says, "call me back—if you want to," the day after you have a "talk" about not "calling enough," maybe you should just call her back, even if you don't want to. If I just had a motorcycle and a leather jacket, I think things would be a whole lot easier. Those are rebel tip-offs. With a leather jacket, people know what kind of bad mamma jamma they are dealing with. And if, in your leather jacket, you wrote a poem about a girl, gave it to her, and then rode off on your motorcycle, she would be like, "Wow, he's so sexy," instead of being like, "Wow, ew." That's why I'm going to start smoking Rebel brand cigarettes. Maybe I should just get a pet snake or an electric guitar, too. Then they'll understand that rules don't apply to me.
The content in this week's "What On His Mind" isn't all that different from what on our own minds this week. They're rating sexy bloggers, we're rating 10 men hotter than Hugh Jackman. They've got tips on how to kiss, and so do we! Hmm, maybe gender differences are a myth, after all...