Are you struggling to overcome the grief of your divorce? Do you feel like a failure for not being able to make your marriage work? Good news: help is on the way.
Dr. Gayle (affectionately known as Kayla Gayle), a colleague of mine, amazes me with her inner peace and strength. At lunch with her this past week I discussed the passion that she has for Kundalini Yoga, and her recent decision to become an instructor of Kundalini. Her website, Abundance-Yoga.com, describes the practice as, “Yoga is not about twisting yourself into a pretzel or standing on your head, but about nurturing your spirit, and freeing your heart…when Kundalini awakens, your entire life will awaken with abundance, energy, creativity and more.”
If it's been months — or years since your divorce and you're still wearing your wedding ring, the good news is you're not alone. Plenty of people find it difficult to take off their wedding bands even long after they've moved on with the rest of their lives. In this video, Relationship Coach, Author and YourTango Expert Shela Dean offers advice about what to do when you just can't seem to separate with your wedding ring.
1. Learn to self-soothe: It's really a combination of relaxation (some meditation), affirmations, positive self-talk and telling yourself that what you’re PERCEIVING is not necessarily how it is and, even if it is, you can survive it. Believe me, you will believe it after a while. Because the bottom line is: if you want to be okay, you will be.
Is it taking you longer than you expected to get over your ex? If it's been over a year and you still feel despondent on your old anniversary, take heart: you're not alone. In this video, psychotherapist, author and YourTango Expert Julie Orlov offers advice to one reader who still struggles with her breakup long after it's ended.
Barely anyone recognizes the significance of this day; It's January 22nd. This is the anniversary of the passage of Roe v. Wade by the Supreme Court in 1973. I watch the news stories every year and there is hardly anything ever said about it. This is why it is my belief that voluntary pregnancy termination ("VPT") is now a household word in our culture. It is as normal and natural as apple pie was to the WWII era group.
When someone we love dies it can be seem impossible to adjust. Our minds do not truly understand how to accept the idea that someone exists one day and is gone the next, never to return. We can be confused or frustrated by our reactions and not know what is normal. Here are a few ideas to keep in mind to help you to get through it.
When a friend is grieving the loss of a loved one, it's easy to feel helpless. Sometimes we think we're doing the right thing by trying to cheer them up, pointing out the positives or letting them know that they should try to move on. Well-intentioned as we may be, those efforts tend to put pressure on them and leave them feeling invalidated. Here are six ways to help you support your friend in times of need.
One of the hardest stages in the relationship cycle is moving on. Many of us ask the question, "Why am I still thinking about my ex?" We've all suffered through nights when we couldn't sleep because thoughts about the ex just wouldn't quit. That's normal. Here are 4 reasons why we continue to think about the past: 1. Lack of closure.
"People killin', people dyin' Children hurt and you hear them cryin' Can you practice what you preach And would you turn the other cheek…" -Black Eyed Peas "Where is the Love?" (2003) My most vivid memories of 9/11 were of the phone calls I heard on the news made during the tragic last moments of people's lives. Their final acts were desperate attempts to communicate the love they felt for their partners, their children and their families. The love they felt was all they had to say.
Bonnie McEneaney, an author, former business executive and mother of four, lost her husband on Sept. 11, 2001 after he experienced premonitions that his life would end in a terrorist attack on New York City. Ten years later, Bonnie opens up on how the tragedy strengthened her spiritual bond with her deceased husband and what all women can learn about love based on the signs she's received from beyond.
How are you going to get through your first, or yet another Father's Day without feeling raw, abandoned, or left behind? After my father died while I was a child, it took years before I could pass through a Father's Day and not feel sad and confused as I was left with all of the questions I never had a chance to ask as I grew up.
How long has it been since you got divorced or went through an intense break-up? Do you feel like you’re A-OK again, or no? Are you confident you’ve put your grief to bed, that you've got your life and emotions well under control? The following video may – or may not – cause you to rethink your handle on your divorce/ break-up. In it, I reveal the two most common ways that women bury their feelings of loss. But the scary part is most women aren't even aware they're doing it.
Guess what? Anniversaries and other "special" days are all man-made. It is we who gave them meaning. Which means we also have the power to give them un-meaning. What do I mean by that? A day that, by everyone else's calendar, is just another Saturday could be a real minefield when we attach significant meaning to it.