It always seems like one person wants their partner to have the ability to read their mind. This is what they tell me in my office : "He should KNOW what I like/want/need without me having to tell him. If I have to tell him what I want, well, then it doesn't mean as much when he gives it to me." The funny thing is that some couples seem to be very good at mind reading. But are they really?
The Morning After For many of my readers today is the Morning After Christmas. The day when all the hoopla that has been the focus of attention is over. There is often a mixed feeling of relief and let down coming together all at once. Some cultures have addressed this issue by making a special Holiday to finish off the festivities. Boxing Day is the one I am familiar with, having been a part of an Irish family for many years in my first marriage.
Will this New Year be just like the others? Every New Year we make the same resolutions and don’t stick to them. It’s not necessarily because we don’t have the discipline. It’s probably because these New Year’s resolutions are based on us believing that we are just not good enough as we are. Think about it: if you were that comfortable with who you were and wanted to make certain changes to your body, wouldn’t you be better able to fulfill these resolutions?
Great dress? Check. Wonderful New Year's Eve gathering to attend? Check. Hot guy on your arm? Check. Champagne for the toast? Check. New Year's resolutions created and posted on the fridge, laying on your nightstand or inside of your iPhone? Check. Then you are all set to ring in 2012, right? Hmm...not so much.
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This Thanksgiving, we are thankful to be single women. We are thankful for our friends, family, independence and more.
This holiday season, we are thankful to be married, engaged or in relationships. But aside from the men in our lives, we are grateful for so much more. Here are just a few things.
This Thanksgiving, I'm thankful to be an independent, single woman. Here is why.
Thanksgiving can really suck when you're single. I should know, I've flown solo to six consecutive turkey dinners. A few years ago, when I thought I was going to have my first coupled-up T-day in ages, I got dumped out-of-the-blue two days before.
Most men are confused about what a woman really wants; I know I am. We can assume that it’s the diamond ring or the nice house in the nice neighborhood or making sure the family’s needs are met or being a good father or completing the honey-do list, etc. These things (and so many more!) are, in my opinion, the basics of what a woman deserves.
Every so often, when I write articles or posts about pleasing a man, I get lots of flak, but there is a huge difference between building up the person you love and being a doormat. Women who refuse to use the simple phrases I'm about to share with you for fear of being subservient to their man will either end up alone (because the man left or never even committed in the first place) or miserable (because if he does stay, he's a spineless pushover in need of a mega injection of self-esteem) or he'll ignore them.
Mirror, mirror on the wall, what’s my greatest gift of all? As difficult as it may be to heart, your ex and your break-up is a huge gift to you. Even in the most excruciatingly painful lessons in life lie gifts; it’s just a matter of us becoming aware of them. No matter how you feel about your relationship right now, I suggest that you begin to see it as one of the greatest gifts that you have ever received. This gift is that your ex, your experience in the relationship, and even the fact that it ended can help you become a more evolved person.
Despite the occasional temporary setback, my life is good, and I’m grateful. It wasn’t always that way, however. At 18, just after I left for college, I was essentially orphaned, and have had to go from no education or support to finding a purpose, supporting myself through a PhD, and developing four businesses to do that. I also recovered from an abusive marriage, and now have been happily married for 28 years, and in successful private practice since 1978. Before I could succeed, I needed to learn to support myself emotionally as well as financially.
Christmas is a special time for families. However sometimes the pressures of the holiday season can bring out the worst between family members – just when we’re hoping to celebrate what’s best. Here are 4 tips for preventing friction between you and your loved ones, at this special time of year:
We're all well aware of the top relationship-strengtheners: mutual respect; communication; a satisfying sex life; a mutual affinity for frozen pizzas. But sometimes, boosting your satisfaction within a relationship can be as simple as saying thank you. Is gratitude the key to a happy relationship?