I want to make my partnership stronger.

My wife isn't who she made herself out to be.

DarthDefault — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 22:12:58 -0400

Before my wife and I got back together after a eight year separation, we both talked a lot on how we had changed and grown. She made herself out to be my dream woman once again. The perfect, ideal woman I always dreamed of, but never got. She seemed very grown up, since we were just teenagers in our first try, much more responsible, more likely to get up and try to solve any problem, work with me, or pull me kicking and screaming to work on any problem we might have.
The first couple of months were wonderful. We talked a lot, about everything. Shared everything, worked together on everything.
Then, one day, I realized, I had basically told her my entire life story, including everything she missed during our separation, but she had told me very little about herself. We only shared when I started it, and she would usually claim there wasn't much to share about her life. We only worked together on things when I started it, and as long as I pushed her to finish it.
Then one night, when I asked what happened to the woman I wanted to marry, she hit me with, "She's lost and scared. I don't know where she is, or when she's coming back."
She admits to not knowing or thinking about how it would affect me when I found out, because she says she never thought it would last very long, the lie, I mean.
She says she thought she could easily become this type of person with the proper motivation, and doesn't know why it's so hard to just get up and be herself.
So I was left thinking I wasn't doing enough for her, and that maybe she doesn't really want me...

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Can two families really be blended together after a divorce?

twinmama62 — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 13:24:26 -0400

Two divorced people trying to get together and blend 4 teenage daughters (two each). Both ex-spouses still in picture with children and work hard to undermine the relationship

I want to make my partnership stronger.

does my partner/wife genuinely love me

smokes — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 10:29:44 -0400

My wife and I been maried for almost two years. Before we got married we were lovers for a long time. We were palyers as well. I had plenty women and was still cheating when we got married. She may have cut all ties but im not a 100% sure. She caught me out there a number of times and i think she started cheating herself (whether it was physical, I dont know). We soon later had a baby and while she was pregnant i was still cheating and didnt have sex w/her. Now that ive finally matured i dont mess around and im dedicated and infatueated with my wife but know the tables are turned and she seems distant. She was but no longer is very sexual with me. She always wanted to have sex but since the baby, shes not really interested. I blame myself for it. If i was faithful from the start, i wouldnt be complaing right now. If i made her happy and gave her what she wanted, i would be good. Now i think shes cheating or i turned her off from sex. Im confused cause i love her to death but her attitude and her sexual appetite has went south. What could i do to rekindle her sexual apetite. Cause i tried!! but no cigar. We are very young and at our sexual peak. Im finna go back to my old ways if it doesnt get better but i rather not. I need some help.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How to keep a LDR strong?

piratemistress91 — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 18:34:43 -0400

My boyfriend and I have been officially dating for almost a year and now since I'm away at college and he's going to college in state, we are now in a long distance relationship. And because he's in the corps and they have ridiculously strict rules, we can't talk to each other as much as I would like and when we do finally get to talk, it's only for a short time before he has to get off the phone, courtesy to "lights out." He doesn't want to be in the corps, but his parents are threatening to disown him and not help with tuition if he does quit, which makes really frustrated and that rubs off on our conversations and bothers me. This situation is really putting a damper on our relationship and is making me distracted. I really love him, but I don't know how to help him.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How often do you contact your love interest?

tangofan — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 16:18:29 -0400

Everyone leads a busy life to go with different activities. Even though there are some people out there that can talk every day, others are tied up with work/children or other personal matters.

When time permits, how often do you contact that special someone (if you're NOT married)? Do you require a break once in a while? When do you feel it's time for a little break from communication?

I want to make my partnership stronger.

Do you snoop?

Leah8922 — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 21:18:43 -0400

Do you snoop through your partners things when you get the chance?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How can i gain back my confidence after having my baby?

strawberry_cheesecake — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 23:56:37 -0400

My daughter is beautiful and i love her to no end. But what is not beautiful is the body she came from. I feel so disgusting!! ALL the time. I wasn't huge before i got pregnant but a few crunches wouldn't have hurt. My body, of course, didn't "snap back" even close to before and now i can't look in the mirror without crying. My boyfriends coming back from Iraq in November and hasn't seen me since I had Laniyah (that's my baby). I'm worried my lack of confidence and impeccably low self-esteem is going to drive him away. What can I do to pick myself up with next to no income, hardly any "me" time, extremely low energy, and no one to talk to for helpful advice??

I want to make my partnership stronger.

how can i be more understanding of who he is?

Amanda Garrison — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 14:29:47 -0400

he gets excited and irritated very easy and we both get defensive and it escalates into a fight. i dont want to loose our relationship. how do i listen and understand him better? communicate and express how i feel without fighting?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

What is "Love"?

heykatiea — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 13:41:51 -0400

What's love? What does it mean to you? How do you know you're "in love"? Can you fall in love more than once?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Should a new married couple end Facebook and Myspace friendships with the oppositie sex?

rrand123 — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 11:24:42 -0400

My wife and I recently got married... we met on internet chat and friendship became love and love into marriage. However, one thing that is strange, we both are still chatting with internet friends, most of whom we have never met... I have girls wanting to add me as friend and asking to meet me... she is still chatting with guys that she has had on her list for over a year or two and of course more guys are trying to meet her as well. What should we do? How should we handle this? Some friends and relatives have made different suggestions... one was... we should cancel those websites and make a joint webpage of our photo together.. put in status as married and add only friends and relatives that we have met... another suggestion was to continue as is as long as neither cares and we are honest with each other... one was that we share the password so either of us can get in... so you see, I don't know how to handle this.. for me.. I could delete the account and live happily ever after but she has a need for being on it 2 or 3 hours a day.... I dont want to cause her any grief to by asking her to cut down on internet time... Ok.. let me know what you think.. Thanks.

I want to make my partnership stronger.

How do I trust my man?

Jennifer Farleigh — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 10:12:57 -0400

I have been with my husband for almost 3 years. For the first year of our relationship, I knew he had a ex wife, and kids. No problem. He told me that her and the kids come first. That is fine. However when I got pregnant with his child, about 5 months into the relationship, it was still all about her, and helping her clean up her dirty @$$ house. And ever since then, I have had a big issue with whenever she is around. When she is around I feel as if I am pushed to the back burner, that I dont matter, and that I am not there. Llike I said I been with him for almost 3 years we now have TWO kids together, and everytime she is around, I still feel as if Im pushed to the back burner. I need help.. PLEASE HELP..!!!

I want to make my partnership stronger.

how do you solve an ongoing conflict?

lookin4answers — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 10:10:24 -0400

My boyfriend and I have argued about the same thing for 5 years straight. His ex-wife says she can't find anyone to take the kids too school every year. I know that's not true. So he leaves my kids at home alone and goes to her house for an hour and a half to take their kids to school. I don't like him in her house that length of time and I don't like her acting like she is helpless. She won't try to comprimise the situation and he argues with me when I tell my feelings. I look like I have a problem with him taking care his kids. She's using the kid's as her ace card and it has worked for years. I'm sick and tired and don't what to do to resolve this issue.

I want to make my partnership stronger.

How to handle still being angry the next day and not talking?

rachm — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 10:10:04 -0400

I was told yesterday when I asked if he made it to the store in time? Why did I need to know, that he had been running his a** off all day for my dad and that he is tired of having to account of every second of his day and that I should put a camera on his a** so I can find out for myself. I then came back with I have every right to ask anykind of question. I was then told it's realy not any of my buisness. I of course blew up because I am no the kind to just sit back and take it. So we stopped talking lastnight, could not even look at eachother, slept apart and still today have not said a word to eachother. Together for 14years and have 4 kids. No we did not have this fight infront of the kids, we were out for the evening.as you can see it went well. please advise. kinda lost....

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Is my ex bf interested in more?

PinkFlamingo — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 03:28:44 -0400

My ex and I dated on an off for 6+ years through college and after. We've known each other for ~ 10 years and now I'm 27 and he's 29. We just started talking again after a 1 yr hiatus and convo has been great. We txt, IM, and talk on the phone often - usually in extended 3 hr chunks of time. He txts me several times a day - and I usually know when to expect something from him now.

We live in diff cities and haven't seen each other since talking again, but I have mentioned that I will be moving soon for work (perhaps to his city). He often makes references to how we'd hang out at his place to watch movies or his fave shows or brings up how we went to a restaurant in his city before and could go there again. He also mentions things about me that he remembers/likes/that I did/do/etc.

I've also mentioned interest in getting a puppy - and he jokingly said I should get an icky breed. When I said 'oh I'd never' - he said 'good, I don't like those'. Why does it matter if he likes my dog? Perhaps I've thought more about that comment because I mentioned wanting to go rock climbing and he said '.. it'd be cute if you fell a little.. you know, just a little and caught yourself. Then we could all laugh and you could climb up and fall a little more.' (Btw, he jokes with me about being klutzy in case someone misinterprets that as mean.) That was cute to me ~ b/c who is this we and is he planning all this hanging out time? He often makes comments like those.

It should be noted that he is talking to other girls and was before we got back in contact. He is casually dating them and has been quite open with the status of each of his relationships. He's dating them but said they're not his ideal. I asked what his ideal is and he said, 'well obviously - you.' I laughed and said 'oh, of course.' He made some jokes and said 'well, you but not like this and that (silly things) ..' and then said 'nah, my ideal is pretty and dumb' and then we laughed ..

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do I know we will be financially stable?

booie05 — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 10:27:59 -0400

We are young, 25, not married, just dating. We both make around $40K a year (I think.) He says he never wanted a job that he was well known at, but wants a family and to be stable. I come from a family that is probably on the higher end of middle class- we are by no means rich, but we never really had money issues. His family is always struggling for money-he even helps out on paying for the bills and such for them, but im not sure the other siblings do (I think its because he lives so close to his family and maybe feels obligated to do so-I dont want this to be something that he is doing the whole time-I think there comes a time were you have to focus on your own family ) I want to know that if we were to get married, that we would be financially stable in our lives, especially when the time comes to start a family. I dont want to be worrying about money all the time, or not get to travel to visit family because the money isnt there. How do I go about finding out this information without it becoming too personal?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Anyone Else Successfully Made It Through a REALLY Rough Patch?

Rhett — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 17:46:04 -0400

The details.... okay, well, I'm just some dude. My wife's going through something of her own, something I don't fully understand. I'm trying to hold space for her. We've been married 15 years, together 20+. As far as I'm concerned, she's my soul mate. I love her more than anything, ever. She used to be *so* madly in love with me. I mean, sure, we had rough patches, good times & bad like anyone else. But, I always thought we were a permanent team, like an institution or something. I see her as my best friend, confidante, lover, partner in life ... and then one day she just stopped. After 20 years -- and some *damn* passionate ones in there, too -- she was just like, "Uh, I just don't think you're sexy... oh, and I *never* did." She'd met some hot dude in the desert one day who was *so* unbelievably sexy, she said, that it actually redefined sexy for her. I mean, here's a 40-year old woman... she's seen a LOT of hot men in her life, and has dated and made out with a lot of them, too. But NO ONE in the history of all men compares to this super-dude in the desert? WTF? Who was this guy? Like some sort of magical freakin stud from outer space or something? I mean, seriously! 40-years and all the hot men in the whole world, and *no* one compares with this?

Anyway, I know I'm anonymous here, but for the sake of argument, let's just say that I *AM* attractive, ok? And that she used hand-feed my ego on that level, for many years. So, I went digging through emails and love notes from her. I said, "What about this? What about that?" (all notes and things from her telling me how "sexy" -- yes, quoting directly -- she thought I was). I mean, Christ, there are love notes from our younger days that are too steamy for even this site! So, I showed her that stuff, some of it recent, and she got all confused. It was like I was showing her things she'd written that she'd forgotten about (or maybe had repressed in light of the super-stud from outer space).

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Why do I dislike being around my fiance's brother and sister??

daisyst4rs — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:38:31 -0400

My fiance and I have been dating for almost 3 years and we're having a 2 year engagement because of financial issues. My fiance has 3 siblings, one brother and 2 sisters. He's got a rather large family as well. We're from different states, about 1500 miles apart. We met in college in his hometown 3 years ago. He lost his job 3 months ago and we've been living at his brother's small apartment for almost 2 months and half. I am grateful that we're able to live in an apartment for the time being to let us get back on our feet while we're searching for jobs. His family has always welcomed me ever since the day me and my fiance began dating 3 years ago (they were all excited that I'm obviously the ONE for him). I worked from home selling my own designs and websites online and I got about 700 a month doing this. But ever since his lost his job and we had to relocate 3 states over into a tiny apartment, I've not been able to do my business because of lack of office space. I'm trying to keep my sanity together. I still do some freelancing on the side and I work during the day. My fiance would be out playing basketball all day and his brother works from 8 to 5. I'm left at home cause I don't have the car. I do clean up the apartment and do the dishes, laundry, vacuum, etc etc as my way of saying thank you for letting us stay here til the first snowfall (hopefully). His brother is very possessive and not once have he said thank you for doing his dirty laundry. I'm peeved because I feel like I do alot and I even cook dinner for all 3 of us at least 3 times a week, I do text him (usually twice) to let him know that dinner will be prepared for him as well. He comes home with a sub and claims he never got my text messages about dinner. Pffft. I wasted my own money to cook an extra plate of food for him. He's so possessive to the point that when he does grocery shopping, he jam packs the fridge and freezer and leaving only half of the lower shelf available for me and my fiance.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do I get my exgirlfriend back, after I know that I've been too clingy?

GoGetter — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 11:05:00 -0400

So 4 months ago, I started dating the coolest girl that I've ever met. She's a single mom, I'm a single dad, with custody of my kids. I have a feeling I might have been the rebound guy. We started dating and we totally clicked. We seriously share a brain. Finish each other's sentences, etc. All of a sudden she started growing distant. She said that I am like her BFF. I have a feeling that I was a little clingy which is TOTALLY unlike me. I'm usually so calm, cool and collected. I never cared if a girl liked me or not. I don't know what brought on or why it was this girl that it happened with. My buddies all say that she's cute, but that I have dated way cuter. I think it's just the fact that she's so awesome is the reason that I wanted to be with her so much.

I totally want her back, and don't know how I should go about doing it.

We're friends, she still calls me, we hang out on the weekends etc. I think I need to put an end to all of the friend stuff, because I don't want to become a permanent platonic friend.

One last important detail... She's a shrink. Yep. A therapist. What the hell did I get myself into...ha ha.

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

Do I move 15 hours away from family for love and work?

booie05 — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 09:32:48 -0400

I have the opportunity to move 15 hours away to be with my boyfriend and for work. I am very close to my family, and my mom is having a hard time with me wanting to move that far away (she doesnt want to not be able to see me and her grandkids whenever that time comes.) I feel as though I need to get out and start my life, and not always worry about being close to home. How do i decide between being with the one i love and hope to one day marry, or being conveniently close to family? There are always planes and cars for visiting right?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

What should I do when my boyfriend suddenly says he needs space?

sarahkocourek — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 15:00:51 -0400

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. He recently moved to my town to be closer to me and to his work. I helped him move, along with his friends and family. He works second shift so I started stopping over (after being invited) for about a half hour on my lunch breaks to see him. Everything seemed great. Then last Sunday, he stopped over and didn't seem himself. He said he would call me later and we would go for a motorcycle ride. He never called. The next day came and he didn't call. I ran into him at a gas station and he said he'd call me later. He did call and asked if I wanted to come over for a bit. When I got there, we sat down and I expressed that I was hurt that he didn't call. He said that he is not used to this. He has only been in one relationship before in his whole life. He said it's moving too fast. He needs his alone time and his space. I'm 30 years old. I want to have a family. Please be frank. Am I wasting my time? What happened?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

How can my partner overcome a commitment issue?

stergs02 — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 13:02:19 -0400

My partner and I have been together for almost 3 years. We officially broke up in April but around May/June time frame we working things out and got back together. Things are much better than before but just recently I told her the I told her neighbors that we are back together. She just recently freaked out and told me that we are not together and she has a huge commitment issue. She has been married twice, she divorce them both. She doesn't like the labeling part....ie girlfriend. She feels trapped. Also, she had a very high libido and now she says that she isn't horny any more due to the fact that she feels trapped and smothered. How can I work with her to overcome this major commitment issue?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

What do i do if my bf is my only friend in the state i'm living in?

tory — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 06:08:26 -0400

I live in LA, and my bf is the only person i spend time with... i've lost all my friends tht i've known since the 2 years i've lived here. but now it seems that we keep arguing and its only been 4 months since we started dating. im so worried that i could lose him too... and i truely feel myself falling in love with him. the reason i've lost touch with all my old friends is because they've misused me, betrayed me and were never really my friends. the last argument i had wit my bf ... was because he had to cancel our date to hangout with a friend that's leaving the next day.. which i didnt mind...n he invited me to hangout with him but i felt that we needed our space even though it hurt me so much because i actually spent 3 hours straightenin my hair for him since he always wanted to see it straight and ended up waitin for him for 5 hours... n in the end he said... u can come over if u want... i felt like he was inviting a bum in the street to come over.... i feel like he dsnt want me there anymore cuz of how much i've been there... but wen im alone im so sad. i dont know what to do.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Whats wrong with him?

needhelpunderstanding — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 09:57:53 -0400

I've been dating a guy for about 10 mon. I moved in with him right away. He has a 12 yr old daughter. We had sex quite frequently in the beginning but lately for about the past 3 mon. he has avoided it with me. I did gain some weight,but not nearly as much as he has. He spends all his time looking at women on TV and looking at porn. When I ask him about the porn,he denies it. Also his daughter went away to camp for a month,and it only happened once that whole time.He uses the excuse he doesn't want to do it with her her,so we wait until she goes with her mother.But also the last ime she went with her mother,he did everything possible to avoid it.He will let me give him oral,but says no to sex.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

why can't I overcome jelousy?

kvs32 — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 18:27:16 -0400

I got married at the age of 18 to my high school sweetheart. Due to my parents upbringing, I was a very naive girl. I've been married for 14 years. I am now 32 years old with 2 boys. Through-out my entire relationship with my husband, I have been a jelous person. About 4 years ago, my husband confessed that had been unfaithful to me for about 2 years. He ofcourse appologized and I decided to forgive him, but I cannot forget what he did. This news ofcourse devestated me and I feel like it increased my jelous mindset. I get furious when I catch him staring at other women. I am constantly, wondering if he is still cheating. I tend to over analyze and sometimes struggle with letting me emotions get the best out of me.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Is an open relationship right for us???

Skit16 — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 18:17:39 -0400

Okay, When I was in highschool (9th grade to be exact) I fell in love with a girl, i'll call her AR. She wasn't my first gf but she was my first at quite a bit of other things (if you catch my drift) However, we were both a little "unfaithful" so it didn't quite work out. She moved on to another girl named CJ and eventually they went off to the same school and moved in with one another (AR was in 11th grade when I was in 9th. That was probably our first problem) I moved on also to another girl named BC. But deep inside I always felt like AR was the one for me. We click so well and she is the only one who makes me feel like a better person just by being in the same room with her. I loved BC, but it felt like I was loving her with the corner of my heart that AR didn't own.
So fast foward, BC asks me to marry her. And, in my haste, I agreed. We planned to take a trip to Boston and do the real thing, and then have a ceremony at the botanical gardens in our hometown. This was back in march (this is all very recent) We were planning and everything, and I told AR and she seemed happy for me seeing as how she and CJ STILL lived together and seemed to be doing well. I invited her and she said she'd be there when the date came. Okay, so around this time I started having these dreams. They were always about AR. Some of them were sex dreams and some of the dreams just included us getting back together. I made the mistake of telling AR and that's when the flirting began.
In early May I told AR (in a joking manner) that I wanted sex for my birthday since my fiance' was back in GA (where im from) and I was in Alabama at school and had been without for a long time. I told AR this in a text. I was slightly shocked when she sent a text back that read "I got you" as in, she'd be the one to give it to me. So fast forward to May 19th. My b-day was great and I spent it with the people I loved. The night of the 19th I get a call and its AR asking if i'm at home in Ga.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do you know if your partner of 8 yrs is still in love with you?

hotmama30 — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 15:51:37 -0400

I have been with this man for 8 years and we have 1 child together but it seems like al we do lately is fight and bicker over the craziest things and it's the same fight all the time. We have hardly any intimacy anymore and we are a young couple in our thirties we should be alot happier together don't you think?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Is something wrong with me?

Avex — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 05:11:16 -0400

I'm a 32 year old guy , got married about a year ago and it was an arranged marriage. Even before we got tied up there was number times both our family had clash and quarells each other until it came to halt the wedding. After negotiations and compromising than everythiong went on . After the wedding another clash happenend and I'm not in talking terms with my inlaws . I accepted to this marriage after seeing my wife and some sort I like her even though she wasn't the type of girl whom i'll fall in love with or give a second look but she is a good looking girl. Since then I tried to fall in love with her but finding it quite difficult but i'll try my level best to be nice with her . There was numerous occasion that i showed my anger and used harsh words on her but I never raised my hands on her. Now even i'm finding it difficult to make love with her even once a month because i really don't have the interest on sex with her. I started looking around other women whom I may fall in love but i try to hold on to my feelings even if i see one on the streets or anywhere. I'm not sure where are all these leading too.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do I bring the love back into my relationship?

Beachluvinmommy — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 11:50:41 -0400

My husband & I have been married for 5 years. We have a 3 1/2 year old son and a 2 year old son. My husband snores - which makes it very difficult to sleep with him - so, I've taken to sleeping with my kids in their Queen bed - just to ensure that I get a good night's sleep. My husband has an apnea machine - but won't use it. My husband also has low testosterone levels - but won't use the medication because it's too expensive. He NEVER gives me compliments or ever says anything nice or appreciative to me. We never touch, kiss, hold hands.....anything. We haven't had sex in........months?
I can't even remember. I am miserable. I feel unloved and certainly not desirable. Can you tell me what we should do? I'm thinking divorce - but I'd hate to put my kids through that.

I want to make my partnership stronger.

How can I get my Man not to talk to his ex-girlfriend anymore?

Craigsgrl1 — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 17:12:56 -0400

She isn't a part of our lives yet he still keeps in touch with her even though their are no ties to her anymore.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How soon before introducing him to the child?

Symian — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 17:02:15 -0400

I have been in a relationship for a year (yay!) but it's actually the only relationship that I've been in since shortly after my daughter (almost 7 now) was concieved. Because she has a very active social life (weekends at Nana's, church, dance classes, swim classes) I've managed to schedule almost all of my dates for nights when I know she won't be home. I have never really discussed my personal life with her (or lack thereof) and only recently has it come to be of interest to her.

I haven't hidden him from my family, he's met both of my parents and has conversations with my sister. We also have a shared associate or two through work and friends, but I've shielded little Monkey because I never wanted her to share in any heartbreak I might experience.

Sooooo, I think I'm ready to introduce him to her because I feel that our relationship has stability and longevity, and he's been bringing up the marriage word.

Although I completely feel that based on some events of my past I have done the right thing in keeping her sheltered, I'm curious to know how other people deal with this same situation. I see so many of my friends' living with men coming in and out of their lives and I feel so bad that they don't have stability in their home (did I mention my guy's never been to my house??) . I feel like my home is her sanctuary and she shouldn't have to feel like someone is leaving her because they don't want to be with her mommy. Am I strange or overprotective? I'm just curious to see how everyone else sees this topic.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

What keeps you feeling sexy?

bayangel — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 15:53:12 -0400

Trying to rediscover that sexy feeling after going through some serious life issues. What are your tricks to feel sexier?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Should I end things for good? Or just have a talk with my guy?

samanthax — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 19:13:17 -0400

I've been with my guy since February, and although our relationship is far from perfect, I love him with all my heart. I can't imagine my life without him, but at the same time, I can't imagine why I feel that way.

I only see him once a week, if that. He works and doesn't have a car, and apparently it's too much of a pain to come see me more than that. (Where he lives there's only one bus that comes, and it comes every half hour if that)

In addition to not seeing him that often (which I'm constantly told, "when a man loves a girl, he'll do anything to see her." Is this true, or it is based on circumstances?) Anyways, we don't even talk that much, which drives me crazy. He usually just texts me, and I usually initiate it, which drives me crazy.. I want him to put something into it too. So I texted him Sunday and I'm still waiting to see how long it takes for him to get in touch with me.. still nothing.

Now he does have problems at home, with his Mom's health, so that is why I've been letting so much slide. But when is enough, enough? I think I deserve someone that will put more into this relationship. I just don't feel important to him; but yet when we're together it's amazing and I can't imagine loving anyone the way I love him. I just don't know what to do : /

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How can I get the best i want out of him without offending him?

daqueengurl — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 08:29:16 -0400

I just met a guy that i actually fall in love with. I discovered there is something missing in this guy that i would not like in my man. I don't want to break his heart and besides, this is something that can be corrected. So, if it can be corrected, why leave him? but the problem is, how do I tell him to correct himself in this area without hurting his feelings? Or I should probably get another man that will have this missing quality in my present guy.

I want to make my partnership stronger.

How do I help him trust me again?

xGarble___x — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 22:32:13 -0400

I cheated on my boyfriend by kissing another guy, and said some things to someone I shouldn't have. It's been a long time, and I haven't done anything like that since, because I love him and I want him to trust me. But, he's really intent on finding reasons to stop trusting me and bring up the past. What do I do?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

What Did I Do Wrong?

S0o_Beautiiful — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 18:56:19 -0400

I was in a relationship with this guy for three years and i was in love with him. We lived together for 1 year within that time we broke up because our relationship ended badly but then a month later I met a new guy and it was harmless. We enjoyed each other company and then one thing led to another, we were on the phone talking about our past relationships and how we were both afraid to get hurt or falling in love again but it happened to us. We were in love with each other within two months of knowing each other. We talk about everything that is bothering us and everything is good but there is a factor with us. Now here we are 7 months later he just moved away to be closer to his kids in Pa,(1,000 Miles away. I am in Fl) and now our communication isn't as good as it was before due to the fact that he has a security company and he is getting all of his business together but two weeks ago he asked me to marry him and I told him that I don't know if that is something that is something he needs to focus on right now. He wants me to come visit him in October and an I have a feeling that he is going to propose to me and i want to say yes but I don't want him to feel trapped later even though he says he won't plus he has been married before and she left him because she couldn't stay faithful. He's 32 and I am 24. I spoke to him on the 23rd of July, two days after he asked me to marry him and then I didn't hear from him again until the 28th of July and he told me that he had a job to do for a couple days and that he would call me on Saturday Aug 1st but Today is 3rd of August and I haven't heard from him. I left him a message but he hasn't called....Should I be worried?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Was it too soon to move in?

prettygirl8841 — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 22:55:42 -0400

I met him about 5 months ago. I was working at a hotel that was still under construction and he worked for the company building it. It started out just having little chats on breaks and in between passings. I was having a bad night one evening and decided to go out to get my mind off of my long evening. He had asked me out for a drink before but i wasnt really interested. It had been a long time since i had been out and i didnt really wanna go alone so i called and invited him. We met up and had a few drinks. Actually we got extremely too drunk and ended up making out. Things were kind of uncomfortable the next day at work but we just made jokes of the whole night and continued to talk on a regular basis. I would watch him at work while on break and couldnt understand why i was thinking about him so much. Plenty of other guys to look at but i couldnt seem to stop thing of him. He asked me out to lunch a few time during work. We went out again and ended up spending the night with eahother. We really hit it off! He's not like most of the other guys i've dated. He's intellegent, akes money, experienced in many different ways, honest and funny.ontinued to see eachother for weeks. Finally the hotel was finished and it was time for him to go home. He lived about 3 hours away. Neither of us wanted it to end so we continued with conversations over the phone. We talked to and texted eachother everyday several times a day. After only a few weeks he came back to my hometown and we spent a few nights together. We confirmed that night that we were officially dating. Now after only 5 months were living together, my two children and i moved in with him. He's great with my kids and he treats me better than i could ever imagine. Its been crazy perfect. Im just worried that it was way too soon to move in together. I just got out of a 5 year relationship and im still on guard. I've never really been treated like this before and im scared.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Is it normal to be so insecure with my relationship?

prettygirl8841 — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 21:49:11 -0400

I moved in with my man after only 4 months. Its been 5 months now, i've lived with him for a month. He has lived all over the place in his past and i've lived in a small town my whole life. I moved really far away from my friends and family for him. He has alot of friends all over the world but there is this one impeticular girl that he talks to more than others. I noticed that he talks to her around the time he goes to work and sometimes in the same day directly after i go to work. I've even seen text from before we moved in together but while we were dating that sounded a little "iffy". I asked him about her and he admitted that they had done some things in the past but that they were strictly friends now. Im still in doubt and im not sure how to handle this...??

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Should i Stay With Him?

longstockings — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 12:16:27 -0400

Alright me and boyfriend have been dating for a year and a half and i love him just as much if not more than when we started. He's kinda on the nerdy side but i like that and it fits. But somewhere along the way he just stopped being attentive. But we still have fun together and get along really well. Well a couple of weeks ago we broke-up becuase he thought he was being unfair to be and he wouldn't be able to see me when we got back to college all that much(go to the same one) But i told him i didn't want to be with anyone else and i still loved him. So he said that we could still try and make it work. Well last week he told me that he didn't want be physical beyond kissing for a while. That was a blow and i wasn't expecting it. So in the last two weeks my relationship has flipped upside down and i didn't see it coming. Should i stick it through or should i let it go. I mean i don't wan tto be with anyone else and i think i would go insane if i saw him with anyone else. btw he just wants space and doesn't want to date anyone else, and plus i dn't think he could find someone else that quickly he doesn't know how to flirt and he took him i while to realize i was with him back in highschool. So any advice would be grea. i'm just afriad if i stick it out he will mentally let me go. but i'm also afraid if i give him space we'll grow apart and not be in each other lifes help~!

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

how can you see if an old flame still loves you?

tshamblen — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 18:00:59 -0400

me and my ex are just friends right now, she said she wants space and she doesn't know if she has feelings for me anymore or not, how can i find out if she still has feelings for me or not?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do I get over being shy about making the first move?

Jinxy Peach — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 20:37:42 -0400

He knows when I want it.
I know when he wants it.
&& even when I do I can't bring myself to make the 1st move its like embarrassing for me almost. I can't get over it. So I let him do it. I know he's not tired of being the one to do it but I know he'd be happily surprised if I was the one to start it. But I can't help myself. Its like public speaking for some people. (Even though I speak very good in public) its the complete opposite for me in the bedroom. Help me :(

I want to make my partnership stronger.

What do I do if I feel unappreciated?

laboiztte — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 18:23:42 -0400

I am a busy person with lots of ambition and goals; but I make time so that my girlfriend and I can spend time together.

There are several times when I would cook dinner for the both of us and she forgets to tell me that she is running late from work. This is not okay with me; but I am wondering if others find this inconsiderate of my gf or if I should be more flexible.

Also, I want to feel desired but I don't want to cheat on my gf. There have been ample opportunities for me to seek attention or intimacy with other women; but I just don't want to hurt my gf. We live 20 minutes apart and yet only see eachother once at most twice a week. Is breaking up the only option?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do i get a boy 2 want a relationship w/o having sex?

Larrissa — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 22:19:17 -0400

Well its a boy that I tawk to and all he do is ask me for sex and everytime I tell him no...He gets mad and one day I asked is sex all he want from me...He said no...Then I asked him Can we get 2 know each other 1st ...?He said he guess...but he still asking for sex...So what do I do?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

Should I try and make things still work out?

Tue, 21 Jul 2009 21:42:16 -0400

I recently am single but not that long ago i was with a guy that was so nice and sweet but then he broke up with me just cuz i didnt like text him everyday or call him everyday and he wanted to get back together but then i found out that he was going out there and trying to hook up with other girls right after we broke up ..one day we got together and talked and i gave him hints about it to tell me about that and he acted as if i didnt know anything until later on he told me yes that he did that but that he didnt mean it and i had to get it out of hiim to tell me ..then i just didnt wanna get back with him cuz he would tell me that he missed me and that still liked me and that he wasnt looking for another girl bllah blah blah and so we left it as it is and i still like him and he does too but idk if i should go back with him cuz he also told me that he never believed in me or trusted me
so i was stuck with the whole i didnt trust you and never believed you thing and i didnt go back with him but i would wanna try things out again .

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Why do women have such a hard time accepting compliments from a man?

justaguy — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 18:34:49 -0400

I have watched women reject compliments from, "You like nice" to "I'm proud of you". Yet, it is often the same women who reject the compliments, complain no one gives them any.

I want to make my partnership stronger.

Is he still into me?

Princess Grant — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 21:04:04 -0400

Am with this guy for 3 months now. At our 1st month we see each other almost everyday, but he never touches and kisses me. Until he opened up that he feels awkward that he can't even touches me, and even his slightest touch is unwelcome. At the end of the 1st month, he invited for an out-of-town trip, and 1st touch, 1st kiss happened. By our second month, we see like once a week, it didn't bothers me at first, because he still texts me once and a while. And we become sexually involved too. As the 3rd month approaches, he again invited me for a trip. I was so confuse then, so I confronted him about us two. I asked him about our dating thing. I know, it was the dumpest thing I did. But I wanted to know where I stand because, I will be meeting friends of family, best friend, of course. I don't want to mess up my life with those people. He replied that we are now dating constantly. But after that day, he did not texted me for a week. I was confuse then. Two weeks after, he texted that he wanted to see me. First invitation, I said I was busy. On the next day, we make out. After that night, he hurriedly went home, and did not bothers to text me. The scene now is, he is not texting me until I texted him. He only replies on my text, and that's it.

No more sweet words from him. By the way, he used to tell me that I should give time to myself, being to busy is not good. We usually meet up during lunch. And have quickie at night, if we go out. And we also have a language barrier, he can't open much about us.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

What is going on with my ex and I?

vsquared — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 21:19:28 -0400

My ex and I broke up about a month ago. We were dating for a year and 1/2. This has happened before and we got back together and fell in love. We broke up because I didn't feel loved and valued like I wanted to be and he, was becoming more selfish than usual and I was pushy about things that took a toll on us and I have since apologized for doing. We've talked pretty much every day since the break up. We work on a music blog together so it's kept the communication waves open although I'm not so sure how I feel about it. We saw each other this past Monday and, after fighting, we said we were sorry and we love each other. We cuddled and he kissed and after a few hours of that in the park, we each went home. It was very sweet and romantic. We e-mailed the next day and he said he wants to take time to himself to determine that this is genune (which he said he thinks it is) and to miss me. We're both confused. I kinda feel like he's dragging me a long yet, feel like we could work things out.

It's Saturday nights like these where you don't have plans, and you miss your time together. I want to call or txt, to be with him right now. to cuddle, get ready to go out and have a nice evening together. A big part of me feels like he is my person. But this has happened before.

What's going on?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

How do I go about finding out where I stand?

mightymouse — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 10:16:25 -0400

I been seeing this guy know for about 8 months...Here latey he been letting me down..I feel he goes from hot to cold..I really care for him..But I would like some advice on how to handle this....Should I try to talk with him or else anything else...Any advice would really help...Thank you...

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

why do i like to be dominated?

melanierose7 — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 16:01:08 -0400

i LOVE it when my boyfriend dominates me and i have rape fantasies all the time, why is this? considering i enjoy dominating him a little from time to time.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How can I get my Boyfriend to be more open with me?

MissRadioactive — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 19:28:49 -0400

My boyfriend and I have a really good relationship, but he has had a hard life and he finds opening up to anyone really difficult, I think he see's it as a type of weakness or like he's making himself vunerable. I totally understand that, but I want him to know that being open with me is a totally safe thing to do.
This emotional closed nature makes it hard for me because when I tell him how i feel, he doesn't really give a response and that makes me feel slightly rejected. He's really hard to read.
What can I do to help him open up and be more emotionally engaged?

I want to make my partnership stronger.

How do I handle being with someone who has 2 kids? (Please Help)

cupidsfool — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:57:10 -0400

I enjoy every minute when I am with my guy, but when he has his kids sometimes I feel like I have to put a lot of effort into the relationship. I am 24 and he is 29, and he has an 8 year old son and a 4 year old daughter. His kids are great, but sometimes they can be real brats. I know that sounds awful to call them brats, but they can be.

I find myself staying quite when they do things that bother me. For example his daughter goes through my purse and plays with my phone. In the beginning it didn't bother me, but now I am annoyed by it. I know this is something small, but this is just how I feel.

Lately I've been feeling like I will never be his number one priority in his life because his kids are his number one. I respect that. He is a great dad and that is one of the best qualities I love about him.

I feel like there is something wrong in our relationship and I feel like it is me. Maybe I am not mature enough to be with someone who had kids, and if this is the case then how do I let him know that?

I feel very confused at the moment. If I were to make a list of all the good things and bad things the good list would be longer. Am I being too jealous because I want him all to myself? Should I force myself to grow up a little faster? It's all about sacrifice right, but what do I sacrifice? I don't know if I am ready to be step mom.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.