I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Why so i still love a man that beats me...

HURT — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:47:29 -0400

I have been with my boyfriend for 5years and in that time he has cheated on me several times, beat me up to the point i have had to go to the hospital, he said it was all my fault because i knew he was stressed out and i deserved it.. not to long ago he shot me while he was on drugs, i catch him in lies all the time, i wake up in the middle of the night only to find him gone.. we have a newborn child togethor i want to leave him but my feet just cant seem to move.im not happy but i love him. He didnt use to be this way he was the sweetest man id ever met he was my bestfriend..... i just cant seem to make him happy no matter how hard i try im just not good enough, im the only one who works and have been the only one for years now.. I feel so lost at times without him. and when we did break up and i tryed to move on with someone else but he nearly killed the new guy i was dateing when he seen me with him months later { at that time my ex-boyfriend told me that he better not ever see me with another man or they will all end up going to the hospital like my new friend had too} but whats so crazy is my ex-boyfriend had a new girlfriend at the time.......it made me feel loved so i got bac with him...but now i just dont know how to feel anymore i stoped liveing for myself and started liveing for my son and him...after being hurt so much i just dont understand how/why i still love him?

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

How do I move on?

anrad — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 18:54:44 -0400

I am 28 years old and i have moved to United states to study. Last year, I met a guy who is 22 in the school. We were friends but we end up going out . He showed that he is very much into me,very sweet and mature enough to date someone older than him. But as time passed by I felt that he is seeing me for sex. What he said was kind of differnt than his action..Like , I miss you but i cant call beause I am busy! . anyway,in a date I asked him whats the next level for us? He said" I am having fun and I am too young for anything like relationship!!' I fall apart as I was allready fell for him hard. Anyhow, I broke up wth him that day.
Month after that, I called him and told him about my feelings and give us a chance. We spoke few times but he denied that there was something between us!! He said " we never went out!!! we just hung out !! " ( Since when date considered as hang out day? LOL)

I am hurt ,broken and very dissapointed.

How I get over such bad breakup?
If I see him in school what should I do?

Thanks.

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Easy flirts to get the guy?

TKDECH — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 11:49:58 -0400

After getting over each ex you feel your confidence growing lower. I start to forget my short and sweet flirts that are sure to get the guy coming besides my personality that they love.

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

How do I breakup with my girlfriend of 10 years?

writeguy — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 19:00:37 -0400

I've never had to breakup with someone before and it's time to end my relationship. To make things more complex, I don't hate her. In fact I care about her quite a bit and it's not like I don't ever want to see her again. We are really close friends but unfortunately anything romantic is just forced at this point. She cheated on me a few years ago. I walked away but she begged me to come back and I agreed to try to make things work. I moved on but the incident still changed everything for me. Of course it's not just that incident that has brought me to this decision. I have come to realize that our careers and lifestyles are just incompatible. The good news is that we do not live together. However, our families are very close and my parents love her like their own daughter. As you can imagine, I'm having a very difficult time working this out in my head.

So how do I breakup with someone? How do I do it without ruining their life or our friendship? How do I break the news to family without becoming an outcast? Help!

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Should I hang in there?

Blondie77 — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 16:58:58 -0400

I've been dating a guy for about 6 months. We are from the same hometown but were living in another city and hooked up. For the first 6 months he was the best guy in the world. Then all of the sudden he started to get very anxious about marriage and where the relationship was going. I never asked I was fine with just going along the way we were. We had a fight about this and he ran away, I mean just skipped town for a week and ignored me. He came back, apologized we talked and he surmised he is just not good at being in relationships and felt we were too different. He had some communication issues, which had he just verbalized his problems would have made things so much easier.

He keeps calling and we have agreed to be friends and hang out as friends. The sexual chemistry b/n us is outstanding and for the most part we really enjoyed each others company. Is this doomed or should I hold out hope that maybe he just got scared and after sometime apart will realize what he gave up?

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

How do I get my exgirlfriend back, after I know that I've been too clingy?

GoGetter — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 11:05:00 -0400

So 4 months ago, I started dating the coolest girl that I've ever met. She's a single mom, I'm a single dad, with custody of my kids. I have a feeling I might have been the rebound guy. We started dating and we totally clicked. We seriously share a brain. Finish each other's sentences, etc. All of a sudden she started growing distant. She said that I am like her BFF. I have a feeling that I was a little clingy which is TOTALLY unlike me. I'm usually so calm, cool and collected. I never cared if a girl liked me or not. I don't know what brought on or why it was this girl that it happened with. My buddies all say that she's cute, but that I have dated way cuter. I think it's just the fact that she's so awesome is the reason that I wanted to be with her so much.

I totally want her back, and don't know how I should go about doing it.

We're friends, she still calls me, we hang out on the weekends etc. I think I need to put an end to all of the friend stuff, because I don't want to become a permanent platonic friend.

One last important detail... She's a shrink. Yep. A therapist. What the hell did I get myself into...ha ha.

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

How Long Should You Be Separated Before Dating?

scstp — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 12:16:48 -0400

My husband and I are recently separated. He said he would like to date, and I'm ok with that. I might want to begin dating too.

What seems like a socially acceptable amount of time to wait before dating?

(We have a 12-year old son, so we would both have to go slow and be discrete for his sake.)

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

why doesn't my wife say she dosen't love me anyone?

tismooth — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 16:12:59 -0400

She said we fight alot over little things and she just can't let things go. She always thinking of what I'm not doing for her instead of what I am doing. She moved back in with her parents. We have a 10 month old son and everybody tells me that I made it 2 easy for her. I cooked and cleaned and worked and took care of everything. I was so hurt that she told me that because I didn't see it coming. She has a new job and drives 1 hour to and from. Everybody tells me it is only a matter of time before she realizes she made the biggest mistake of her life.Should I go ahead and file or wait for her. I can't make her love me.

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

How Can I Get My Boyfriend To Stop Being Selfish And To Stop Lying?

JazzyBee — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 01:58:01 -0400

My Boyfriend Tells Me When He Gets Money He Will Take Me To The Mall To Get A Belated Birthday Gift. Now That He Has Money He Keeps Telling Me He Will DO Things For Me And Take Me Places (Dinner And Shopping). N It Hasnt Happend.

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

Friends with benefits?

Atlguy39 — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 12:10:45 -0400

I'm recently divorced and probably not in a place for a new relationship. However, I've always been a relationship type of guy. So how do I play the field and have some no strings attached sex? I think thats what I need right now as a confidence builder, if nothing else. Any ideas?

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Any advice for getting over my ex?

sg15 — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 03:20:37 -0400

I broke up with my ex girlfriend for the third time in January. She couldn't make up her mind about being with me or waiting for ex boyfriend to come around. We were together a total of two years. She's 22 and I'm 26. The issue I'm having is I'm still in love with her. We tried to talk through emails and it failed. I honestly feel like she wants to keep me around because her ex boyfriend really treats her bad. The second time we got back together we had talked about moving in with each other in 2009. I've dated four women since her and it's been the same for me. I don't feel the same as I did when I was with my ex. We have seen each other around town before. Her with her boy friend and me with a woman I was dating at the time. I did have one incident when I walked into a bar on a date and she did her best to ruin my night. She made a scene and I was forced to leave. Her oldest sister is engaged with my best friend for 10 years and they have two kids who are like my nieces. The two of us are both in the wedding. I'm going to see my ex for the rest of my life. While we were together we had talked about marriage and back in September we were going to start a family but I was laid off from work so we decided to wait. I have my days where I do miss her. I guess it's because she made me feel special. I guess its because I thought she was the one. I caught myself one day looking at rings and I just knew I wanted to marry her. After our last break up I had some serious talks with some of her family. Her dad two of her older sisters and even her grandmother wanted to have a talk with me. They were upset with her treating me the way she did. They also said that I treated her very well and they missed having me around. I'm trying my best with this new woman I'm dating. I don't want to rush myself. Any help or advice you can give me will be greatly appreciated.

I want to deal with relationship problems.

Is he hurting too?

vsquared — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 11:06:34 -0400

My boyfriend of over a year an 1/2 and I broke up about 6 weeks ago. Our relationship started out rocky to begin with but the good times were really good and we've shared a lot of amazing things together. We've had some pretty knock out drag down fights over the past few weeks and have both exchanged and done hurtful things to each other. I find myself being angry with him every day, especially in the mornings and that feeling just won't go away. I do, however, miss him sometimes and worry about him meeting someone new (especially because he told me he wants to sleep with other girls - so hurtful!). I feel like he's abandoned me and like I've lost a family member.

We have spoken and he said he's living his life day by day and has missed me maybe once or twice. He also says he loves me and will say it but "it's not the way I think" and doesn't know why he treated me the way he did (putting me second and putting me down). While having this conversation he was distracted - playing on his keyboard and typing an email- telling me he had thins to do. Like I didn't matter.

He's completely blocked me from any of his personal online accounts for contact (gchat, AIM) but, will sit on our blog e-mail all day and occasionally e-mail me from it and ask me questions. I don't understand why he does this.

I just want to know is he hurting as much as me? How can he claim or act to be over me so quickly?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

How old is too old to start a family?

Catalina — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 23:39:44 -0400

I was in an 11 year relationship that went nowhere and ended over a year ago. I have been dating and it was a lot of fun at first to just go out and meet people. I just turned 38 a month ago and now i am not loving being single anymore, especially since I cannot get the tic toc of my biological clock out of my head! So how old is too old?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

Is it possible to date?

devilbabe1088 — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 12:22:43 -0400

I have been single for 1 year and 5 months so far out of a 2 and a half year relationship that i have a 2 year old daughter from. The father hasnt been in the picture for a year now. I put my daughter first before anything and anyone like i should, but its not easy for me to date anybody since i dont have a babysitter so i can go on a date since i dont want to bring my daughter around different guys unless its starting to get serious or is a serious relationship.

So my question is should i try to date or should i just wait a couple of years?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

How do i get her to fall for me again?

MANNERMAN — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 21:35:29 -0400

We were on and off after the 9 months pasted.Then she broke up with me after a year and 10 months. We didnt really expect to fall in love but we did.After she broke up with me for good we still messed around for a couple of months.We stopped messing aroung cause she felt bad cause she didnt love me,but i still loved her.Now were really good friends but dont mess around with each other cause she doesnt want to feel bad.Really i just want her to love and want me.Just like how it used to be.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do you let go of the anger after finding out your husband has been cheating on you?

anniemae — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 12:18:13 -0400

for 5 years with your brothers ex-wife?
I feel like a fool, an idiot for not seeing. Can't stop thinking about past details.
Yes, I am getting a divorce and yes, I have made an appt for counseling....in the meantime how do I cope??

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

What exactly is love?

atragon — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 10:54:09 -0400

I have a relationship. it runs its course, the emotions die down, the sex vanishes. I move on. I have no clue what real love is, or is it just a figment to sell Hallmark cards and jewelry?

I want to deal with relationship problems.

How do I get over being shy about making the first move?

Jinxy Peach — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 20:37:42 -0400

He knows when I want it.
I know when he wants it.
&& even when I do I can't bring myself to make the 1st move its like embarrassing for me almost. I can't get over it. So I let him do it. I know he's not tired of being the one to do it but I know he'd be happily surprised if I was the one to start it. But I can't help myself. Its like public speaking for some people. (Even though I speak very good in public) its the complete opposite for me in the bedroom. Help me :(

I want to make my partnership stronger.

Can we ever be friends again?

marriedsecrets — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 18:10:44 -0400

I met up with my teenage boyfriend about a year ago, and it turned into an affair. The first 2 months was really a friendship, but by Christmas it had become more. He was going through a really hard time in his marriage and I honestly wanted to help him. I tried not to have feelings for him, but I think because we had a past together, it became very difficult. I would call it off and he would always beg me to be with him. The seperation was done and he moved back into his home, after living with me for 6 weeks. During that time he said and promised several things. After he settled into his home again, everything changed. The text messages, phone calles and time we spent together was few and far between. He said maybe it was to early for him. I really want to be his friend, because we had a connection that neither one of us had ever had. I truly care for him and wonder if in time, we could go back and be friends. I had sent him a text and basically apologized for the way things were. And he hasn't responded, that was two weeks ago and not like him at all.

I want to deal with relationship problems.

Do guys think it's slutty when a girl keeps a condom on her?

jabber — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 03:24:21 -0400

Just wondering. I know it's OK for a guy to keep one (which I think is kind of a double standard, by the way), but what happens when a girl does? I asked my male friends but I get mixed answers. What do you guys think?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

What is going on with my ex and I?

vsquared — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 21:19:28 -0400

My ex and I broke up about a month ago. We were dating for a year and 1/2. This has happened before and we got back together and fell in love. We broke up because I didn't feel loved and valued like I wanted to be and he, was becoming more selfish than usual and I was pushy about things that took a toll on us and I have since apologized for doing. We've talked pretty much every day since the break up. We work on a music blog together so it's kept the communication waves open although I'm not so sure how I feel about it. We saw each other this past Monday and, after fighting, we said we were sorry and we love each other. We cuddled and he kissed and after a few hours of that in the park, we each went home. It was very sweet and romantic. We e-mailed the next day and he said he wants to take time to himself to determine that this is genune (which he said he thinks it is) and to miss me. We're both confused. I kinda feel like he's dragging me a long yet, feel like we could work things out.

It's Saturday nights like these where you don't have plans, and you miss your time together. I want to call or txt, to be with him right now. to cuddle, get ready to go out and have a nice evening together. A big part of me feels like he is my person. But this has happened before.

What's going on?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

How long before you give up on meeting someone you connect with online?

reticentdiarist — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 20:34:16 -0400

I met someone on OKCupid a week ago. We have exchanged about 80 emails in the last week. He hasn't asked for my number or mentioned anything about a face to face meeting. I realize that I could ask him and/or give him my number, but I'm too shy.

How long before I give this up for a dead connection?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

how do i know if my ex-girlfriend left me for another man?

aw — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 12:47:09 -0400

I was in a relationship with my ex- girlfriend for two years and suddenly she ended it. I asked why and she said "she was moving on with her life and she already moved on. My response was "are you seeing someone else? She says no, i don"t have to tell you what i am doing! So i did the wrong things, calling, texting, leaving msgs on her voicemail and she gave no response. My heart is broken and i am confused. I gave this woman my heart and she tore it apart. Where did i go wrong?

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

How to get over this ugly break up?

MISS TEE — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:47:10 -0400

Me and my five year old daughters' father who is now become my ex was together for 10 years and was living together for four years broke up two months ago.
He broke up with me saying the relationship wasnt going anywhere and we gave it our all but hes unhappy, now mind you just in March he was talking about us moving in a house and having another baby and then toward the end of April begining of May he was acting different he wasnt talking about our future plans together anymore. I notice a change in him and I wanted to know why the change all of a sudden, he also have a ten year old son by another girl I've been with him since his son was six months. Well to make a long story short comes to find out hes back with his son mother and its hard for me to get over him cause he still have all his stuff in the apartment where I live, he supose to be moving in his own spot in two to three months so he say. He comes to get clothes and he go spend the night with his son and his mom maybe four days out the week and the other three hes here to spend time with my daughter. I cant take it I'm really hurt by all of this he sleeps in the livingroom when hes here and we dont talk because I'm still hurt.

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Do the nice guy always finish last?

ImaNguyenER — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:21:52 -0400

How come girls normally are more attracted to the bad boy, then get hurt run to the good guy, and later run back to the bad boy?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do I handle being with someone who has 2 kids? (Please Help)

cupidsfool — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:57:10 -0400

I enjoy every minute when I am with my guy, but when he has his kids sometimes I feel like I have to put a lot of effort into the relationship. I am 24 and he is 29, and he has an 8 year old son and a 4 year old daughter. His kids are great, but sometimes they can be real brats. I know that sounds awful to call them brats, but they can be.

I find myself staying quite when they do things that bother me. For example his daughter goes through my purse and plays with my phone. In the beginning it didn't bother me, but now I am annoyed by it. I know this is something small, but this is just how I feel.

Lately I've been feeling like I will never be his number one priority in his life because his kids are his number one. I respect that. He is a great dad and that is one of the best qualities I love about him.

I feel like there is something wrong in our relationship and I feel like it is me. Maybe I am not mature enough to be with someone who had kids, and if this is the case then how do I let him know that?

I feel very confused at the moment. If I were to make a list of all the good things and bad things the good list would be longer. Am I being too jealous because I want him all to myself? Should I force myself to grow up a little faster? It's all about sacrifice right, but what do I sacrifice? I don't know if I am ready to be step mom.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Should I be a friend for my ex-boyfriend?

rainbowrica — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 04:14:35 -0400

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years. Although I'm not in love with him anymore, I get worried about him because he is always playing video games (we're talking 6+ hours a day), and he has no friends; he is always in his apartment alone, refusing to socialize. Should I worry about him and try to be a friend, or should I just let it all go and have him fend for himself now?

I want to deal with relationship problems.

How to manage anger after a break-up?

sweetpain — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 14:51:40 -0400

How do I deal with all the anger build up after the break up?? I get so angry at my ex that I want to explode. Just thinking that we broke up - it wasn't 100% mutual, he wanted it more, and he started dating another girl right away, like he couldn't wait to get rid of me - it makes me furious. I want to stop all this anger and be at peace. I'm trying to take it one day at a time - keep busy ect. Are there any other ways?

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Why are guys so quick to judge today?

Shana Moonmist — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 10:49:10 -0400

I understand that alot of us have been hurt... but the constant judging is driving me batty! Why not give a women a chance to prove herself before judging her based on just a few days of conversations!

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

could she want me back?

waiting — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 20:35:42 -0400

alot of the times she will act like we are buddies just friends andthen there are other times when she will act like she wants something again does she really want me back or am miss reading?..

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

He broke my heart, why is he contacting me?

cupcake — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 23:19:49 -0400

I'm confused. My ex-boy broke up with me about a month ago. We never had an argument and this came out of nowhere.

He "said" it was one of the hardest things because he cared for me so much and he had seen me in his future, but he was lost and didn't know what he wanted. He seemed sincere in what he was telling me as well as torn and sad.

I've been overanalyzing my breakup to no end. Just as I'm trying to move on, he sends me an e-mail saying he's been thinking about me and alluded that he may want to call me.

What I'm confused about is why he contacted me. I was devastated when we broke up and did not contact him until he e-mailed me and I responded back. Now, nothing. What's he "fishing" around for?

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Why didn't my ex give my things back to me?

serenity — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 10:34:53 -0400

We mutually decided a breakup was the best thing several months ago. My ex kept many of my things as I moved to a different state. We had not had contact except via e-mail as I asked about getting my stuff. He kept postponing each time I asked. Then I get an e-mail from his sister that I need to get my animals. . . so I showed up one morning (9 hours away from my home!) to get my things. I got about half of my stuff (he even packed it and took it to the car) and said the other stuff was in the attic and he would bring it down when he visited one of our friends. He had his new girlfriend living there with all MY things in the house too! I mean, what gives? When I was leaving and told him bye, he hugged me so tightly and the hug lasted quite a long time. He gave me his new number and told me to be in touch. ???? I just don't understand.

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Was Married. Now divorced. Share a son. How do i move forward?

Worried — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 17:08:19 -0400

I am in a new relationship. But the ex wife/son will always be there. How do i move forward? Get healthy....

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Is it ok to never get over someone?

JohnP — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 17:02:23 -0400

It's been almost 30 years and I still think of her everyday. I married and we have an ok marriage - tough times and good times. I know I can't be with her but I can't help think of her.

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Why is closure so hard to achieve after divorce?

bosmith — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 16:35:49 -0400

After 21 years of marriage, my ex told me that the man she was going to marry, about 2 years before we met, still had her heart and she really did not love me! She stayed only because of our two children who are now grown. She left the state to work for her mother and dad and within a month of the move, contacted her ex-fiance to resolve issues that lingered all these years. Her ex-fiance, 60 days prior to their wedding date, met another women and she became pregant, so he left with his new wife and moved away. Now, after resolving her hurt feelings of abandoment, she plans to meet him in July. I only assume, after 23 years, he is now divorced and she hopes to rekindle those feelings she has held onto during our entire marriage. I feel anger and a deep pain in my heart. I have asked her to admit to me that she only cared for me, and was not a true partner all of hese years, only to be rebuffed with no honest answer. I now believe she tried to make me into the reflection of her ex-fiance and I could not be him. I do wish her well, but I also believe you can't go back to reclaim those same feelings. People change over time and 23 years is a very long time. In my heart, I believe she has lied about our relationship and cheated almost if she had been seeing him in person during our marriage. I want a true partner in life that I can bond with emotionally as well as intimately.

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

Why can't I just tell him it's over?

Lettee — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 16:24:35 -0400

He is severely abusive - mentally, emotionally. Including screaming cuss words in my face over and over. He's an alcoholic. I do not find him attractive in any way I used to. I have even been able to get myself out with my own place again. But, he has a great deal of problems and I feel so very very sorry for him and keep bringing myself to him to help him out.

I have been mentally beaten down so bad that I think ALL men will see the way he "controls" me to stay.

So, why can't I go away?!!

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

What to do when he won't accept you breaking up with him?

LiamsMom83 — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 15:55:09 -0400

I broke up with my ex 9 months ago, 6 months after he took a job that kept him away from home for over a month at a time after begging him not to go, and 3 months after finding out I was pregnant with his baby. A month later he gave up that job to come home. The only problem was that I had shut off the love valve by that point and no longer wanted to be with him. Unfortunately, he didnt have a place to live and so we ended up living together anyway. Throughout the pregnancy he kept pressing to work things out and while I gave it my best effort, my feelings for hi just didnt end up coming back. I thought maybe it was hormones and that my desire for a relationship would come back after the baby was born. Well our son has been here 2 months and I still do not want to be in a relationship with my ex. I told him this and that I thought we needed to separate completely because our situation is not healthy as all we do is fight. Well he has been unable to accept this and just indirectly gives me guilt trip after guilt trip by telling me how he just wants us to work it out and that he doesnt want to be apart from me and our son everyday and that its not fair that he has to leave, etc. I feel bad for him, I truly do, but I dont know what to do to sever the cord without being cold and heartless. Anyone ever dealt with this?

I want to deal with relationship problems.

I just broke up, what should I do?

ablackcoldwind — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 15:46:08 -0400

I just broke up with my real first love and I loved her very much. Also, I'm also the one that did the break up; however, I still love her very much and I really want to be together again. But she does not. Lately I acquired some new friends, and one of which is a girl which I have some feeling for. I just ask the new girl out and she said yes, but something doesn't feel right at all. I don't feel happy. Should I keep this new relationship or break it up?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Do I give him another chance???

kmoc123 — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 12:26:20 -0400

I moved out of a 6 year relationship that is just not working. We still see each other and he asked me to marry him Mother's Day, but he has not told his family. It reallly hurts my feelings. He doesn't like my family and I am tired of trying to be the Mother to his family. He wants me at his house to watch him watch tv and be on the computer. He never wants to do anything, but go to the grandkids baseball games, I am tired of that. When I have had my family over to our house (when we lived together) he would hide away in the bedroom and stay on the computer. He has many nice things for me and my son, but our relationship is like trying to carefully unfold wet Kleenex. I have tried to break this off, but then he stalks me...hacking into my Myspace and watching me on Facebook. Kinda creepy....he is very jealous. I think there are many red flags, how do I handle this???? I want more...not material things or money, but someone to spend time with ME...I don't feel like I will ever be a part of his family.

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Where can I meet single guys?

Lauren Taylor — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 11:42:53 -0400

There are NO places to meet single guys at except for like bars and clubs...and I don't think I'm gonna meet a classy man at a bar...no thank you...any suggestions?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

How can I keep the memories from continuously flooding my mind?

grandude1 — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 11:24:03 -0400

After the happiest time of my life, so far, my 36 year old Chinese fiancee broke up with my due to her parents not accepting me and the economic situation. I made 3 visits to her in China. We fell in love through our letters and confirmed our feelings when we first met in person. From that point, we were like a perfectly matched husband and wife, compatible in every way. We were in the process of applying for her fiancee visa. She was planning to come to America to live, and even planned to have a baby the first year. All of my plans were about her. We video chatted every night after that first visit. On the second visit I brought her engagement ring we had shopped online for. My last visit was for her birthday in December, but by the end of the month, she sent an email saying she always felt we were right for each other, but that we met at the wrong time, siting the economic conditions. She would not accept the fact that this situation is temporary, and afterward ended all communication. Her photos once covered my walls, and I called her my goddess. I am presently chatting with another woman from the same city and writing 2 others. I have an attractive Puerta Rican neighbor that is very affectionate, but respects my desire for a Chinese wife. I also have an intense exercise workout everyday. Despite these relationships, those beautiful memories are constantly torturing me! I stayed in denial for months, at times feeling like I was loosing my mind!! Last week I received the engagement ring by UPS, which brought back the whole scene of me placing it on her finger when she picked me up from the airport in the rain and driving back to her apartment she called "our Changsha home"! How can I move on?

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Why would I miss someone who I know used me?

keykam — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 08:43:15 -0400

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

What are the best ways to move on when I have to see him everyday?

jai85 — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 08:36:09 -0400

I dated my exboyfriend for over 3 years. we broke up two months ago and within two weeks of our breakup he started dating another person. I work for a scholarship program and my boss just hired my ex to work for her. she put us on the same project that requires up to work together. We will not be out of our contracts until may 2010...I am really hurt by the relationship and I hate to look at him because I get really angry. I can't blow up about anything because I am forced to have working relationship with him but I cannot move past the breakup and the hurt because everytime I see him thats all I think about. I know that I deserve happiness and to be with a person who truly loves me but I can't heal from this relationship because I am stuck being around him all day every day...How do I get past this?

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Why is he doing this?

Beeper — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 07:12:16 -0400

My former husband and I have not seen each other for three years and have had no contact for two. Suddenly, he starts IMing me, saying he wants to mend our relationship, he's a better person, he was the problem, what can I do, how is my family, blah, blah. I take the opportunity to tell him how he almost broke me, how his actions affected others and how he has to fix his own problems. We also both express our feelings for each other. Then, in an email, he tells me he got married again 6 months ago, but that we have a relationship that goes beyond that and that we have to work things out. Why did he lead me on and then drop the "married" bomb?

I want to deal with relationship problems.

How acurate are zodiac signs when determining compatibility?

Shortcake — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 03:14:12 -0400

My recent ex is a virgo and i am a sag. We've always know there were challenges present and future, however, after a little over 5 years it was ultimately the cause of our break up. We're both in out late 20's, so does that also play a role as to tolerance, maturity, and responsibilty.
...he has immediately become interested in a capricorn with a very different background from myself.

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

How do I get over her?

justice86 — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 02:34:58 -0400

I try sooooo hard and the more I try to fight it the more I actually pick up the phone and call or text. Then if she doesn't answer or respond it makes me continue over and over like a psycho and I keep telling myself to stop that I must seem crazy when she sees her phone light up 687654321 times from me calling! And I want her back but it seems she's moving on. I want her to be happy but it seems every time I do end up talking to her she seems happy now so I start being rude and ugly to her beacuse I miss her and want her back. So then I end up pushing her further and further away. I feel I have truly change for the better and could be great for her now. I wasn't so good before... I never cheated or anything like that, I took her for granted though and literally didn't realize what I had until she was gone. We've only been broken up for about 22-23 days. But she told me she's been seeing someone for about 2 1/2 weeks. Don't you think that's a little soon? I just don't know how to get over her and what's worse is I don't want to. She keeps telling me she wants to try and start the relationship over and start off dating with no "commitment," like a together but were not together. But how can I be OK with this while she's dating someone else? She just seems so mad and irritated now, I'm so sweet to her all the time I never lose my temper like I used to and she can just be so rude now. So it makes me wonder why I try. I just don't want to hurt anymore. I know its not realistic but she was my bestfriend so its hard to think about the no contact rule. She's the one person I've literally told everything to, the one person I trusted with absolutely everything I had/have. Help me... What do you think I should do? Oh P.S. we were together from feb. 08 to may 09

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Should I move away to help me move on?

erin — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 00:22:38 -0400

OK, this is my first question posting, so be gentle.

I am living in the same city I grew up in (only went away for college), and I am looking for a change. I moved back here to be with my then fiance, we married, had children... then he went to treatment and, long story short, left me and our children in the middle of the night over a year ago. I am still living in the house we had because I wanted to keep my children in a safe and familiar environment.

My kids are doing great after lots of hard work, which undoubtedly needs to continue, and I am doing well after some rough spots myself.

I would really like to move to a city I love that is 5 hours away from where I am and start over. This safe and familiar environment I've provided my children has felt like a prison to me, and I need to get away.

There are two things that are holding me back: one is that my ex lives close and the kids get to see their father and that would be diminished with a move that would put us 4 hours apart... the other is that I am concerned about uprooting my children for the sake of my own needs.

Is it wrong of me to want to go elsewhere and start again?

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

Why is it so hard to get over an affair in marriage?

skarin534 — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 13:44:36 -0400

We were married for 12 years, togrther for 19 years. Then I caught him with someone half his age. I was thinking midlife crisis but I'm not sure. He said he didn't want to be married any more.

I want to get over my ex and start a new life.

How do I know it's really over?

Stephanie Schiller — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 20:28:22 -0400

I dated this guy for 10 months, the relationship was perfect, except my jealousy later on. He has a close friend (who I now know is just a friend) and he went to see her in Maryland these past two weeks; before he left though, he was really into me, and was considering us dating again, yet when he came home, his feelings seemed to disappear. He was uncertain of what he wanted, and I accepted that, and now, he's certain that he doesn't want to be with me. The signs are there, but I think i'm too naive to come to terms with it. Is it really over? or should I see what happens?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

What does love mean to you?

torrieg — Tue, 19 May 2009 17:30:04 -0400

According to the dictionary Love means 1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. 2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. 3.sexual passion or desire. 4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart. What is your deffinition of love, what do you mean when you say it and how do you show it? Just curious to see your answers!

I want to meet someone and fall in love.