I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

More then friends?

Lady — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 02:48:31 -0400

Been good friends with a co-worker for years. He tends to be on the shy side. Before i left for a european vaction this summer things were going good and ever since ive got back hes made unusual statements. recently we went out and i got really drunk and he spent the whole night dancing with me and caressing me even walking to his car hand in hand. The next time i saw him i played it off like i didnt remember now im not sure if i hurt his feelings or he just took adavntage that i was drunk and just likes the attention i give him. Not sure what to read from his actions since most things happen between us while were both drunk

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

He cancels a date, what to do now?

confusedlibra — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 10:33:18 -0400

Have been dating this man, seperated, with children for the last 6 weeks (phyiscally) and been talking since July. It seems like we always hit the sake when we do meet up at his place and that he can't really afford to go out and leaving his children at home (as they are young). That's fine. So last time when we met, after being intimate, I asked him to take me out this week and he said yes, and Wednesday would work for him. Came Tuesday night, not a word from him so I called and confirmed when and where to meet. He said he had to cancel because he had forgotten that his mother is coming to town to stay with him on Wednesday night when he set up the date with me, perhaps Thursday or Friday night would work and he'll give me a call on Wednesday to firm up.
I don't want to sound stupid or naive, but I am and rather give him the benefit of the doubts but i can't help to wonder, is he into me? And if he doesn't call back in the timely manner, what do I do then. I understand he has family and parental obiligations but if he could spend hours and hours on the phone with me before our first date and not call for weeks, finally picked up the call and only can afford to see me once a week and still claim we are not FWB because he has feelsing for me, why not pick up the phone for five minutes per day or every other day? and believe me, I have communicated this with him already.

I want to know and need to know that this is not abnormal in normal dating behavior. I don't expect him to get into an instant relationship with me but i do feel that I am pursuing him than he is pursing me. It it makes the matter more complicated, we have already be intimate.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do i convince her its ok to date me?

srussell10 — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 22:30:33 -0400

A girl i've been talking to as just a friend has liked me for around six months. I had no intention of dating her until about a month ago after she had another boyfriend. her relationship with that guy was horrible and now she is extremely nervous about going into a relationship with me. She also thinks we wouldn't get to see each other enough. We see each other on weekends and every day both of us are available to make plans. around 3 times a week at about 3-4 hours a time. Our feelings for each other are mutual. Should i wait or try to convince her its ok to date me now? if its ok to date now what should i tell her to convince her its ok?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

My wife isn't who she made herself out to be.

DarthDefault — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 22:12:58 -0400

Before my wife and I got back together after a eight year separation, we both talked a lot on how we had changed and grown. She made herself out to be my dream woman once again. The perfect, ideal woman I always dreamed of, but never got. She seemed very grown up, since we were just teenagers in our first try, much more responsible, more likely to get up and try to solve any problem, work with me, or pull me kicking and screaming to work on any problem we might have.
The first couple of months were wonderful. We talked a lot, about everything. Shared everything, worked together on everything.
Then, one day, I realized, I had basically told her my entire life story, including everything she missed during our separation, but she had told me very little about herself. We only shared when I started it, and she would usually claim there wasn't much to share about her life. We only worked together on things when I started it, and as long as I pushed her to finish it.
Then one night, when I asked what happened to the woman I wanted to marry, she hit me with, "She's lost and scared. I don't know where she is, or when she's coming back."
She admits to not knowing or thinking about how it would affect me when I found out, because she says she never thought it would last very long, the lie, I mean.
She says she thought she could easily become this type of person with the proper motivation, and doesn't know why it's so hard to just get up and be herself.
So I was left thinking I wasn't doing enough for her, and that maybe she doesn't really want me...

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Is he into me?

rselmon — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 16:42:24 -0400

Hi i've been dating a guy for 4 months and i notice that he doesn't have time for me we haven't talked since the 25th of August when i call him he says that he's busy and never return my calls should i wait for him

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

does my partner/wife genuinely love me

smokes — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 10:29:44 -0400

My wife and I been maried for almost two years. Before we got married we were lovers for a long time. We were palyers as well. I had plenty women and was still cheating when we got married. She may have cut all ties but im not a 100% sure. She caught me out there a number of times and i think she started cheating herself (whether it was physical, I dont know). We soon later had a baby and while she was pregnant i was still cheating and didnt have sex w/her. Now that ive finally matured i dont mess around and im dedicated and infatueated with my wife but know the tables are turned and she seems distant. She was but no longer is very sexual with me. She always wanted to have sex but since the baby, shes not really interested. I blame myself for it. If i was faithful from the start, i wouldnt be complaing right now. If i made her happy and gave her what she wanted, i would be good. Now i think shes cheating or i turned her off from sex. Im confused cause i love her to death but her attitude and her sexual appetite has went south. What could i do to rekindle her sexual apetite. Cause i tried!! but no cigar. We are very young and at our sexual peak. Im finna go back to my old ways if it doesnt get better but i rather not. I need some help.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How to keep a LDR strong?

piratemistress91 — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 18:34:43 -0400

My boyfriend and I have been officially dating for almost a year and now since I'm away at college and he's going to college in state, we are now in a long distance relationship. And because he's in the corps and they have ridiculously strict rules, we can't talk to each other as much as I would like and when we do finally get to talk, it's only for a short time before he has to get off the phone, courtesy to "lights out." He doesn't want to be in the corps, but his parents are threatening to disown him and not help with tuition if he does quit, which makes really frustrated and that rubs off on our conversations and bothers me. This situation is really putting a damper on our relationship and is making me distracted. I really love him, but I don't know how to help him.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Should I confront the other woman my husband is having an affair with?

bellabella — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 12:54:01 -0400

We are not legally separated or divorced. He left me and my young son one day (told me he would do it but never when he would leave) and said that he needed time to figure things out. I did not assume that meant having an affair and now I fear that any chance we have to reconcile is squashed by this woman's presence in his life. She is a homewrecker and I will do anything to improve our marriage for the sake of our son, who misses his daddy very much and wants us to live together again. I just want her to know my feelings about what she is doing and tell her to backoff until my husband and I have cleared up our marriage one way or another.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How to do you deal with two conflicting political views in a relationship?

becca57 — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 08:19:43 -0400

He's fairly conservative. I'm liberal and just a little more passionately so. Every time a political issue comes up, we end up disagreeing and not so respectfully.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Do you snoop?

Leah8922 — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 21:18:43 -0400

Do you snoop through your partners things when you get the chance?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do you deal when you think that the other person's irresponsibility is the cause of your problems?

prdude79 — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 17:18:10 -0400

My partner and I have been together for 7 years. We've had our ups and downs, but every time we go into the downs, our fights tend to be about money. He feels like he just needs to survive life and although he has ambitions, he does not take the steps towards making the progress that we need so we can then move on to the next step.

He accuses me of being to compulsive when I ask him that he should find a way of making some money (like a job!), and that I need to relax. But the whole time, I've been paying the bills, yet whenever things don't fit our budget, he throws a fit because I say no.

Don't get me wring, I appreciate the things that he does around the house while I'm at work, but to me those things should not be the priority when we are struggling with something else.

To make things worse, he started having seizures that seem to be linked to stress a year ago, and I'm the one picking up the slack so we can reduce his stress. The stressful things do not go away, they just fall on me. I'm not sure how much of an enabler I am, but if something doesn't change things soon, I'm not sure how much I'm going to last. What do I do?!

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

how can i be more understanding of who he is?

Amanda Garrison — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 14:29:47 -0400

he gets excited and irritated very easy and we both get defensive and it escalates into a fight. i dont want to loose our relationship. how do i listen and understand him better? communicate and express how i feel without fighting?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

What is "Love"?

heykatiea — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 13:41:51 -0400

What's love? What does it mean to you? How do you know you're "in love"? Can you fall in love more than once?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How to handle still being angry the next day and not talking?

rachm — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 10:10:04 -0400

I was told yesterday when I asked if he made it to the store in time? Why did I need to know, that he had been running his a** off all day for my dad and that he is tired of having to account of every second of his day and that I should put a camera on his a** so I can find out for myself. I then came back with I have every right to ask anykind of question. I was then told it's realy not any of my buisness. I of course blew up because I am no the kind to just sit back and take it. So we stopped talking lastnight, could not even look at eachother, slept apart and still today have not said a word to eachother. Together for 14years and have 4 kids. No we did not have this fight infront of the kids, we were out for the evening.as you can see it went well. please advise. kinda lost....

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Is my ex bf interested in more?

PinkFlamingo — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 03:28:44 -0400

My ex and I dated on an off for 6+ years through college and after. We've known each other for ~ 10 years and now I'm 27 and he's 29. We just started talking again after a 1 yr hiatus and convo has been great. We txt, IM, and talk on the phone often - usually in extended 3 hr chunks of time. He txts me several times a day - and I usually know when to expect something from him now.

We live in diff cities and haven't seen each other since talking again, but I have mentioned that I will be moving soon for work (perhaps to his city). He often makes references to how we'd hang out at his place to watch movies or his fave shows or brings up how we went to a restaurant in his city before and could go there again. He also mentions things about me that he remembers/likes/that I did/do/etc.

I've also mentioned interest in getting a puppy - and he jokingly said I should get an icky breed. When I said 'oh I'd never' - he said 'good, I don't like those'. Why does it matter if he likes my dog? Perhaps I've thought more about that comment because I mentioned wanting to go rock climbing and he said '.. it'd be cute if you fell a little.. you know, just a little and caught yourself. Then we could all laugh and you could climb up and fall a little more.' (Btw, he jokes with me about being klutzy in case someone misinterprets that as mean.) That was cute to me ~ b/c who is this we and is he planning all this hanging out time? He often makes comments like those.

It should be noted that he is talking to other girls and was before we got back in contact. He is casually dating them and has been quite open with the status of each of his relationships. He's dating them but said they're not his ideal. I asked what his ideal is and he said, 'well obviously - you.' I laughed and said 'oh, of course.' He made some jokes and said 'well, you but not like this and that (silly things) ..' and then said 'nah, my ideal is pretty and dumb' and then we laughed ..

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do I know we will be financially stable?

booie05 — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 10:27:59 -0400

We are young, 25, not married, just dating. We both make around $40K a year (I think.) He says he never wanted a job that he was well known at, but wants a family and to be stable. I come from a family that is probably on the higher end of middle class- we are by no means rich, but we never really had money issues. His family is always struggling for money-he even helps out on paying for the bills and such for them, but im not sure the other siblings do (I think its because he lives so close to his family and maybe feels obligated to do so-I dont want this to be something that he is doing the whole time-I think there comes a time were you have to focus on your own family ) I want to know that if we were to get married, that we would be financially stable in our lives, especially when the time comes to start a family. I dont want to be worrying about money all the time, or not get to travel to visit family because the money isnt there. How do I go about finding out this information without it becoming too personal?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do I breakup with my girlfriend of 10 years?

writeguy — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 19:00:37 -0400

I've never had to breakup with someone before and it's time to end my relationship. To make things more complex, I don't hate her. In fact I care about her quite a bit and it's not like I don't ever want to see her again. We are really close friends but unfortunately anything romantic is just forced at this point. She cheated on me a few years ago. I walked away but she begged me to come back and I agreed to try to make things work. I moved on but the incident still changed everything for me. Of course it's not just that incident that has brought me to this decision. I have come to realize that our careers and lifestyles are just incompatible. The good news is that we do not live together. However, our families are very close and my parents love her like their own daughter. As you can imagine, I'm having a very difficult time working this out in my head.

So how do I breakup with someone? How do I do it without ruining their life or our friendship? How do I break the news to family without becoming an outcast? Help!

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Anyone Else Successfully Made It Through a REALLY Rough Patch?

Rhett — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 17:46:04 -0400

The details.... okay, well, I'm just some dude. My wife's going through something of her own, something I don't fully understand. I'm trying to hold space for her. We've been married 15 years, together 20+. As far as I'm concerned, she's my soul mate. I love her more than anything, ever. She used to be *so* madly in love with me. I mean, sure, we had rough patches, good times & bad like anyone else. But, I always thought we were a permanent team, like an institution or something. I see her as my best friend, confidante, lover, partner in life ... and then one day she just stopped. After 20 years -- and some *damn* passionate ones in there, too -- she was just like, "Uh, I just don't think you're sexy... oh, and I *never* did." She'd met some hot dude in the desert one day who was *so* unbelievably sexy, she said, that it actually redefined sexy for her. I mean, here's a 40-year old woman... she's seen a LOT of hot men in her life, and has dated and made out with a lot of them, too. But NO ONE in the history of all men compares to this super-dude in the desert? WTF? Who was this guy? Like some sort of magical freakin stud from outer space or something? I mean, seriously! 40-years and all the hot men in the whole world, and *no* one compares with this?

Anyway, I know I'm anonymous here, but for the sake of argument, let's just say that I *AM* attractive, ok? And that she used hand-feed my ego on that level, for many years. So, I went digging through emails and love notes from her. I said, "What about this? What about that?" (all notes and things from her telling me how "sexy" -- yes, quoting directly -- she thought I was). I mean, Christ, there are love notes from our younger days that are too steamy for even this site! So, I showed her that stuff, some of it recent, and she got all confused. It was like I was showing her things she'd written that she'd forgotten about (or maybe had repressed in light of the super-stud from outer space).

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Why do I dislike being around my fiance's brother and sister??

daisyst4rs — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:38:31 -0400

My fiance and I have been dating for almost 3 years and we're having a 2 year engagement because of financial issues. My fiance has 3 siblings, one brother and 2 sisters. He's got a rather large family as well. We're from different states, about 1500 miles apart. We met in college in his hometown 3 years ago. He lost his job 3 months ago and we've been living at his brother's small apartment for almost 2 months and half. I am grateful that we're able to live in an apartment for the time being to let us get back on our feet while we're searching for jobs. His family has always welcomed me ever since the day me and my fiance began dating 3 years ago (they were all excited that I'm obviously the ONE for him). I worked from home selling my own designs and websites online and I got about 700 a month doing this. But ever since his lost his job and we had to relocate 3 states over into a tiny apartment, I've not been able to do my business because of lack of office space. I'm trying to keep my sanity together. I still do some freelancing on the side and I work during the day. My fiance would be out playing basketball all day and his brother works from 8 to 5. I'm left at home cause I don't have the car. I do clean up the apartment and do the dishes, laundry, vacuum, etc etc as my way of saying thank you for letting us stay here til the first snowfall (hopefully). His brother is very possessive and not once have he said thank you for doing his dirty laundry. I'm peeved because I feel like I do alot and I even cook dinner for all 3 of us at least 3 times a week, I do text him (usually twice) to let him know that dinner will be prepared for him as well. He comes home with a sub and claims he never got my text messages about dinner. Pffft. I wasted my own money to cook an extra plate of food for him. He's so possessive to the point that when he does grocery shopping, he jam packs the fridge and freezer and leaving only half of the lower shelf available for me and my fiance.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do I get my exgirlfriend back, after I know that I've been too clingy?

GoGetter — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 11:05:00 -0400

So 4 months ago, I started dating the coolest girl that I've ever met. She's a single mom, I'm a single dad, with custody of my kids. I have a feeling I might have been the rebound guy. We started dating and we totally clicked. We seriously share a brain. Finish each other's sentences, etc. All of a sudden she started growing distant. She said that I am like her BFF. I have a feeling that I was a little clingy which is TOTALLY unlike me. I'm usually so calm, cool and collected. I never cared if a girl liked me or not. I don't know what brought on or why it was this girl that it happened with. My buddies all say that she's cute, but that I have dated way cuter. I think it's just the fact that she's so awesome is the reason that I wanted to be with her so much.

I totally want her back, and don't know how I should go about doing it.

We're friends, she still calls me, we hang out on the weekends etc. I think I need to put an end to all of the friend stuff, because I don't want to become a permanent platonic friend.

One last important detail... She's a shrink. Yep. A therapist. What the hell did I get myself into...ha ha.

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

why he doesnt call me back?

sexytzi — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 02:23:14 -0400

i met this guy like a month and a half,. we had a great times each other,dating was so sweet,hang out with our friends,watching movie,drove me at work and home,he cooked for dinner,and i was the one cooked for our breakfast and the problem is when he was away from me on his vacation he didnt call me just only sent a simple text message.i am waiting for him to call me first,like what he did calling me before our first and second week of dating.,i feel special to him when he told me that i am important with him.we had times each other and ive been sleep with him for like so many times but there's no sex happen yet. he told me that he respect me and he's willing to wait when i am ready. And dont know and what to think when he comes back if he can still remember me or stil wants to go out with me or continuing what we had before,.so confused! hope i can hear some advice to give..thank you

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Do I move 15 hours away from family for love and work?

booie05 — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 09:32:48 -0400

I have the opportunity to move 15 hours away to be with my boyfriend and for work. I am very close to my family, and my mom is having a hard time with me wanting to move that far away (she doesnt want to not be able to see me and her grandkids whenever that time comes.) I feel as though I need to get out and start my life, and not always worry about being close to home. How do i decide between being with the one i love and hope to one day marry, or being conveniently close to family? There are always planes and cars for visiting right?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Does my girlfriend really love me?

VicFirth2011 — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 19:01:08 -0400

Ok so i've been dating his girl for almost 1 month and i barely found out that she dated this other guy and that he was paying for her phone. so now that guy wants to fight me and he's talking smack about me. I really love that girl and i don't want to lose her again. This is the second time i give her a chance and i don't know if i did the correct thing. Please help get out of this dark hole. I want to make my relationship stronger with that girl

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Am I being taken advantage of?

zoey — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 20:03:17 -0400

I am in a relationship of 7 months with a recently separated man ( I am divorced as well) we both have children (daughters of the same age 4). I have begun to feel that he is treating me unfairly. He does not like for me to spend any time with a male friend of mine who happens to be my bestfriend (but who I dated briefly five years ago) but he has a lot of female friends he speaks to on a daily basis. He spends a lot of time with his daughter but unfortunately her mother is always there as well. I encourage his relationship with his daughter of course, but have started to feel like I am not a priority. He spends all of his time with her and his ex. They are constantly going to dinner, zoo, parks, beach etc...In addition to that, he is currently living in the spare bedroom of their home until the custody issue is resolved. He has saved up money and was advised by his attorney that he could now move out and is looking for an apt. Our entire 7 month relationship he has lived with her. We are a legitimate couple and are often seen at work or at other social outings. I have spoken to her on several occasions and have had playdates with her and our kids so I know she knows about me and they are no longer together. He says they have spoken and have agreed that the other is invited to any outing with their daughter in the future. Basically they will not live together but continue to attend the same outings together. His ex has asked that I not be around their daughter while the separation is happening so that she does not get confused so I cannot go to any of these places. Since he spends so much time with them he only sees me once or twice a week usually at night for a movie or whatever. It seems to me that he is getting to live his married life, while seeing me when its convenient. As a feminist, I believe that women should take care of themselves so I have not asked him to pay for anything when we go out or when I am tight on cash.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Is it a "He's just not that into you" situation?

gaiadaughter — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 18:03:37 -0400

I met a boy about 5 months ago, We were talking on a daily basis though due to conflicting job schedules we had limited time to spend together. On the third date I slept with him, we continuted to talk regularly and about a month later we were able to plan another date, unfortunately he had to cancel because his work schedule got changed around. Suddenly after that we stopped talking regularly. He got super busy started grad school, a family member had passed very little contact. We went about a month in a half only talking for about 20 minutes once. I figured he was just over it, however I had forgotten a jacket at his place. So when I sent him a text to ask about it, he apologized for as he put it "not giving you the attention you deserve." going on to tell me that he wasn't being fair to me. Before I had even asked about the jacket we had set up a date for the weekend, he was going to call me and let me know what time he got off of work. Yet the weekend came and went with no call, after two weeks of no contact I sent a text and asked directly about my jacket. I went to get it this last weekend, and slept with him again, I figured it was a goodbye "jolly" yet the way he talked to me, made it seem like when "work calms down in september" we'll be back to hanging out often. Should I wait, or is he just dragging me long, for a possible fun time?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Are my reasons for leaving justifiable?

Anonymouss_soul — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 19:13:40 -0400

My fiancé and I have ben togather nearly two years and I'm just not happy anymore. Honestly I wasnt happy after one year I told her this and tried to end the realationship, but she started crying and begging, I felt so bad I couldnt.(I'm very aware this makes me a weak person) I care about her enough to not want to hurt her but I must to leave so I can be happy.

As if that wasnt enough on the plate, we now have a 4 month old son.(I am 21 and she is 20, and yes I know it was stupid to have a child this young) I love my son to death, and it will pain me very much to have to have shared custody.( I grew up with out a father but thats not a story for here.) Anyway, I have tried multiple times to leave but it's always the same.

The main reasons I'm not happy in this realationship are, her jeaoulsy and controling ways. I have dated jealous women before, but hers is extreme. The only women I can talk to and not get my head chewed off for are My mom and my sister, plus her mom and sisters. I have many long time(6 years plus) female friends who I have turned my back on for the sake of this realationship. She tells me how I should look/act/speak. (she got with me knowing I was a lower class "Metal head")

In the past year I have been so moody and down it drives me crazy. I do care for her alot, but at this point I don't belive I can honestly say I'm in love with her. Topping all of this off another woman is constenly on my mind. An ex of mine( ok quite frankly my first serious Gf) who I was talking to again, right before I got with my current.

I know I want to leave, I know its going to be hard, but at this point in my life she has cut me off from all of my friends so I have no one who I can confide in for advice or someone to simply just talk to. I guess thats why Im writing here. You're taking of the time to give me you're opinion would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you Anonymous

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

What should I do when my boyfriend suddenly says he needs space?

sarahkocourek — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 15:00:51 -0400

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. He recently moved to my town to be closer to me and to his work. I helped him move, along with his friends and family. He works second shift so I started stopping over (after being invited) for about a half hour on my lunch breaks to see him. Everything seemed great. Then last Sunday, he stopped over and didn't seem himself. He said he would call me later and we would go for a motorcycle ride. He never called. The next day came and he didn't call. I ran into him at a gas station and he said he'd call me later. He did call and asked if I wanted to come over for a bit. When I got there, we sat down and I expressed that I was hurt that he didn't call. He said that he is not used to this. He has only been in one relationship before in his whole life. He said it's moving too fast. He needs his alone time and his space. I'm 30 years old. I want to have a family. Please be frank. Am I wasting my time? What happened?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.

How can my partner overcome a commitment issue?

stergs02 — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 13:02:19 -0400

My partner and I have been together for almost 3 years. We officially broke up in April but around May/June time frame we working things out and got back together. Things are much better than before but just recently I told her the I told her neighbors that we are back together. She just recently freaked out and told me that we are not together and she has a huge commitment issue. She has been married twice, she divorce them both. She doesn't like the labeling part....ie girlfriend. She feels trapped. Also, she had a very high libido and now she says that she isn't horny any more due to the fact that she feels trapped and smothered. How can I work with her to overcome this major commitment issue?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

What to do with total opposites?

_janalee_ — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 12:15:15 -0400

So my significant other is a major baseball fan and I get that but I don't enjoy spending so much time talking about it and watching it. Then there's the fact that I love animals, and he's allergic to most which granted i understand that. I even tried just geeting a bearded dragon. which he was so unhappy with that he wanted to get rid of her. I'm not sure what to do about this any ideas?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How often should you be talking to your boyfriend?

soccermom67 — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 11:42:24 -0400

If you are supposedly in an excusive relationship with a guy, how often should you be talking or texting with him?

Daily? How many times
Every few days?

What kind of red flags are raised if you are not speaking/texting daily?

Is he just not into you?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

What about different eating and exercise habits?

runningdoc — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 07:19:45 -0400

He loves to watch T.V. (sports and sitcoms) and prefers foods high in saturated fats and cholesterol, and I try to exercise daily and eat extremely healthy. Eating out at a pizza place is challenging for me and eating at home can make meal planning difficult too....you can only eat grilled chicken so many nights a week (we'll both eat that). And I can't sit and watch T.V. for hours. I need to be active. I love him (after 1.5 years together) but am I signing up for what will ultimately fail?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

What if he just doesn't get me?

acntrygirl65 — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 07:06:47 -0400

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

What do i do if my bf is my only friend in the state i'm living in?

tory — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 06:08:26 -0400

I live in LA, and my bf is the only person i spend time with... i've lost all my friends tht i've known since the 2 years i've lived here. but now it seems that we keep arguing and its only been 4 months since we started dating. im so worried that i could lose him too... and i truely feel myself falling in love with him. the reason i've lost touch with all my old friends is because they've misused me, betrayed me and were never really my friends. the last argument i had wit my bf ... was because he had to cancel our date to hangout with a friend that's leaving the next day.. which i didnt mind...n he invited me to hangout with him but i felt that we needed our space even though it hurt me so much because i actually spent 3 hours straightenin my hair for him since he always wanted to see it straight and ended up waitin for him for 5 hours... n in the end he said... u can come over if u want... i felt like he was inviting a bum in the street to come over.... i feel like he dsnt want me there anymore cuz of how much i've been there... but wen im alone im so sad. i dont know what to do.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Whats wrong with him?

needhelpunderstanding — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 09:57:53 -0400

I've been dating a guy for about 10 mon. I moved in with him right away. He has a 12 yr old daughter. We had sex quite frequently in the beginning but lately for about the past 3 mon. he has avoided it with me. I did gain some weight,but not nearly as much as he has. He spends all his time looking at women on TV and looking at porn. When I ask him about the porn,he denies it. Also his daughter went away to camp for a month,and it only happened once that whole time.He uses the excuse he doesn't want to do it with her her,so we wait until she goes with her mother.But also the last ime she went with her mother,he did everything possible to avoid it.He will let me give him oral,but says no to sex.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

why can't I overcome jelousy?

kvs32 — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 18:27:16 -0400

I got married at the age of 18 to my high school sweetheart. Due to my parents upbringing, I was a very naive girl. I've been married for 14 years. I am now 32 years old with 2 boys. Through-out my entire relationship with my husband, I have been a jelous person. About 4 years ago, my husband confessed that had been unfaithful to me for about 2 years. He ofcourse appologized and I decided to forgive him, but I cannot forget what he did. This news ofcourse devestated me and I feel like it increased my jelous mindset. I get furious when I catch him staring at other women. I am constantly, wondering if he is still cheating. I tend to over analyze and sometimes struggle with letting me emotions get the best out of me.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

what to do after a first kiss?

BiBocaSmiley — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 20:43:09 -0400

I met my friend for a talk because he considers me one of his best friends and we ended up kissing! It was my first kiss ever.

what does that mean? what should I do?

Beatriz, Portugal

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Is an open relationship right for us???

Skit16 — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 18:17:39 -0400

Okay, When I was in highschool (9th grade to be exact) I fell in love with a girl, i'll call her AR. She wasn't my first gf but she was my first at quite a bit of other things (if you catch my drift) However, we were both a little "unfaithful" so it didn't quite work out. She moved on to another girl named CJ and eventually they went off to the same school and moved in with one another (AR was in 11th grade when I was in 9th. That was probably our first problem) I moved on also to another girl named BC. But deep inside I always felt like AR was the one for me. We click so well and she is the only one who makes me feel like a better person just by being in the same room with her. I loved BC, but it felt like I was loving her with the corner of my heart that AR didn't own.
So fast foward, BC asks me to marry her. And, in my haste, I agreed. We planned to take a trip to Boston and do the real thing, and then have a ceremony at the botanical gardens in our hometown. This was back in march (this is all very recent) We were planning and everything, and I told AR and she seemed happy for me seeing as how she and CJ STILL lived together and seemed to be doing well. I invited her and she said she'd be there when the date came. Okay, so around this time I started having these dreams. They were always about AR. Some of them were sex dreams and some of the dreams just included us getting back together. I made the mistake of telling AR and that's when the flirting began.
In early May I told AR (in a joking manner) that I wanted sex for my birthday since my fiance' was back in GA (where im from) and I was in Alabama at school and had been without for a long time. I told AR this in a text. I was slightly shocked when she sent a text back that read "I got you" as in, she'd be the one to give it to me. So fast forward to May 19th. My b-day was great and I spent it with the people I loved. The night of the 19th I get a call and its AR asking if i'm at home in Ga.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Im not in love with the father of my child, what should i do?

perrykaty99 — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 12:35:55 -0400

I am 20 years old. I have a one year old son. I have come to realize that i am not IN love with the father (my boyfriend) of my son. That i am IN love with someone else. I love my boyfriend, but not in the way that i should, when you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. I have more of a friendly tie to him. We do not get along as a couple should. We get along as a divorced couple does. I have a really guilty conscious and i find myself making a hard decision that i can not make alone. I know it is my decision in the end. But i need some insight. Here is where i am at...We are still living with his parents and his mother and i do not get along, AT ALL. i do not know that if we eventually move out, uf the strain between my boyfriend and i would life or just be worse. And i have nothing buy a high school diploma behind me so i can not support my son alone. The man i am in love with, (no i have not cheated on my boyfriend) he is now a marine and lives far away but loves me more than anything and excepts that i am a mother.
I am lost and stuck in a rut i have not idea what to do...

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

I'm falling for my best friend... and he's engaged.. what do I do?

miss_emt_hottie — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 02:28:52 -0400

I went through a really tough 4 years... lots of bad, abusive relationships. finally, I meet a great guy. I went back to school, changed everything! so far so good! I met at a local store a really cute police officer. we chit chatted for almost half an hour, i left thinking WOW!!!! anyways, as part of my new life, I'm on my local fire dept, where my sister is asst. chief. I got to talking to her about this nice guy and she has known him for 5 years, said, he has a fiancee, just so you know. he is the nicest guy in the world! GO! MAKE FRIENDS! he initiated contact through facebook, gave me has number, said text me:) well I did, we just hit it right off as buddies, he is also a firefighter, and emergency medical provider like me, he also happens to be a police officer, big change from jerky felons I'd allowed my lack of self worth and esteem to get involved with. This guy is my biggest cheerleader, right there for me, I can go see him at work when I just need someone to say, hey, be strong babes, you'll handle it just fine... we cuddle and watch movies when he has a night off. he works literally 65- 75 hrs between his 2 jobs and volunteer positions... and I fall more and more every day for him... I drunk texted one night.. and he is a total gentleman! when I appologized next day, he admitted to having feelings as well, but that like ive known since we met that he has a fiancee but she lives 2 hours away going to college. that he rarely sees her, maybe 4-6 days in a month and that he loves her, and he thinks he wants to marry her. but also that they have been together for 7 years, and that they have only ever been with each other.... how romantic right? then he pops off with and I don't know if I want to be with her bc it's all I know, or bc I really want to be with her. ........ he's just as confused as I at this point, we haven't kissed or done anything, we've talked around it...

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Is my man still in love with his ex?

sweet_nothings79 — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 17:18:53 -0400

Yesterday my boyfriend wrote a blog on myspace about karma.. This is what he said.....

" I just relized I am right about alot of things and others should listen to me. I also now believe in KARMA and what goes around comes around!!
The grass is not always greener on the other side and people should think before they react on things!! Communication is needed in a relationship and I believe things can be worked out but once you make your bed you must "lie" in it!! Good Luck to all!! "

After talking to me on the phone he wrote this under the blog for all to see..

"First of all I love Karma, not any other girl....so I hope you didnt think that. I dont think you need to be upset because that is just a general statement that alot of people believe in or say. I dont care about how my x is or what is going on I just find it amusing that for once things are going my way and that karma is doing its job on the people that treated me like s**t. I'm sorry you took it the wrong way but I dont know what else to say. I told you on the phone the same thing I just typed."

what do you think about this? He told me I guess that his ex and the guy she dumped him for arent doing well now that he found this out.. To me it seems he isnt over it because he is all happy that she is miserable.. Am I overreacting or should I be concerned????

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How do you know if your partner of 8 yrs is still in love with you?

hotmama30 — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 15:51:37 -0400

I have been with this man for 8 years and we have 1 child together but it seems like al we do lately is fight and bicker over the craziest things and it's the same fight all the time. We have hardly any intimacy anymore and we are a young couple in our thirties we should be alot happier together don't you think?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

when does the age difference matter?

LaMae 4766 — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 01:10:00 -0400

I am twenty and he is thirty, he flirts it up with me, and on more than one occasion has told me that if i was a bit older we could happen. But what i don't get is that we have tons in common, and have great times together.Probably one of the only few guys that i feel equal to. To me it seems like it could work, but he is just hung up on the whole age thing. I dont see why. Any help?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

I think my man is cheating,not sure if I should stick around

Phenomenal — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 23:02:37 -0400

I have found plenty of clues that tell me he's cheating or attempting to do so,I've caught him in numorous lies.He texted his ex and sayed he loved her nasty pic,and just days ago,he got on a website that tells men how to get their ex back and lastnight I caught him checking her horoscope,lol.We very rarely have sex,when we do,it's because I aggressed him.He jacks off to porn while I'm in the bed,and sometimes he waits till I go to sleep to get on the computer.Most of the time he locks his phone,and recently he blew up at me for the first time and accused me of cheating,huh?A big part of me,doesn't want him anymore,I'm loseing my love for him.But,a part of me is still trying to hold on.I didn't come into this relationship being insecure,I only am now,because he's making me that way.And the worst part is,I've been thinking of cheating on him lately.only because I think that maybe I can build with someone else in the meantime and have a backup,or just because sometimes I need to feel wanted and thats something I don't get from him,so,I want it from someone else.I'm getting anxious and ready to tango with another man.Help me please,what should I do?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Is something wrong with me?

Avex — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 05:11:16 -0400

I'm a 32 year old guy , got married about a year ago and it was an arranged marriage. Even before we got tied up there was number times both our family had clash and quarells each other until it came to halt the wedding. After negotiations and compromising than everythiong went on . After the wedding another clash happenend and I'm not in talking terms with my inlaws . I accepted to this marriage after seeing my wife and some sort I like her even though she wasn't the type of girl whom i'll fall in love with or give a second look but she is a good looking girl. Since then I tried to fall in love with her but finding it quite difficult but i'll try my level best to be nice with her . There was numerous occasion that i showed my anger and used harsh words on her but I never raised my hands on her. Now even i'm finding it difficult to make love with her even once a month because i really don't have the interest on sex with her. I started looking around other women whom I may fall in love but i try to hold on to my feelings even if i see one on the streets or anywhere. I'm not sure where are all these leading too.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Should I bother keeping in touch?

kalakar — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 03:37:55 -0400

I knew this guy in college, we were both interested in each other but neither one of us acted on it. He wasn't dating anyone and I didn't try to initiate anything because I figured he just wasn't that interested if he didn't try. There were occassional times when he asked if I was seeing someone and although I avoided giving a straight answer at first because I was talking to someone else, I later told him no. However, he never did anything after getting that answer.

About 8 months after I left school, I started hearing from him randomly. He always had a lot of gal friends so I was weary of that and politely responded to him but did not initiate anything.

Then, when on his way to a medical school interview, he called me and told me he would like to drop by my town (which is on the way to his interview) and I accepted. We started dating but the distance between us (his family lives about 70 miles away) and our work schedules were troublesome. Over the course of 3 months, we only saw each other 1-2 times a month and spoke anywhere from 1-3 times a week.

About a month a go, I asked him if he wanted to become exclusive but came off very strongly because I mentioned marriage (crazy, I know, but all of my friends are getting married and I blurted out that I want to be in a serious relationship that would lead to that a couple years right now). He said he didn't want to become serious now because he is going out of state for medical school but would like to continue to date to see if it becomes anything serious later. I don't know if I'm right but I took that answer to mean he just isn't that interested.

He invited me to his birthday the next week and of course I went to see him so he knew there were no hard feelings. Things between us were awkward but he was attentive to me. The odd thing was, though, that there were only gal friends at his birthday.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Is it ok to date a girl 4 1/2 years younger?

soxfan14 — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 00:44:23 -0400

A 21 year old and a 17 year old are very much in love and have been for 2, almost 3 years. Is there anything that should keep them from being together? Whatever seems to happen they always find themselves back with each other.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Can my relationship be saved if I cant trust him?

hkrame1 — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 16:58:15 -0400

After I decided to be exclusive with a friend of mine, I let him into my apartment cause he was about to be homeless but now I find out he stays up all night on the computer, and when he makes phone calls he talks out on the balcony so I cant hear him. Should I kick him out of my apartment? How can we build our trust?

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

how can i find out if my ex still loves me?

loser — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 12:48:24 -0400

even though she is married she calls me, texts me and will do things with me. i've told her how i feel about her and she knows how much i love her. she has said she asks me things she can't ask her husband.

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

How can I tell if my man is in love with me?

sweet_nothings79 — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 14:39:03 -0400

What are some signs he's in love? I know he likes me a lot cause his actions show it but I'm just curious.. I've been led on a lot in the past and am just scared of getting used and hurt again....

I want to figure out where my relationship is going.

Did I say the wrong thing at the wrong time?

Mockey — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 05:19:54 -0400

I've recently become quite interested in a woman from my work place. The catch is she's in a relationship albeit a very unhappy one. I had decided that I didn't want to get into "the friend zone" and resolved to tell her I was looking for more then just friends. However she had a very rough 2 weeks prior to the day I told her this and it culminated with her boyfriend going through her cell phone messages and texts. What he saw didn't make him happy (just guy friends texting her and saying hey - apparently she's not allowed to have male friends). Now my question is could I have chosen a worse time to tell her of my feelings for her? Or was it actually a perfect time to do it?

I want to meet someone and fall in love.