The holidays can be a wonderful time for family get-togethers, parties, traditions and customs, yet all the added stress and pressure can certainly take a toll on our personal relationships. The obligations of gift-giving and demands from our friends and families can greatly affect our mental, emotional and physical wellbeing. Many of us seem to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of shopping, seeking out all the latest and greatest gadgets that the retail markets have to offer.
GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS
The other night as we walked home from work, we heard a young woman say to her friend, "My mom asked me what I want for Christmas. I told her, 'Can you buy me a boyfriend? You know, if you see anything tall or handsome.'" That really cracked us up. But this... this isn't as funny.
I remember how excited I would be if I met someone who showed some real relationship potential in the months or even weeks leading up to the holiday season. Finally! This Christmas I might actually be a part of a relationship - a couple! I might actually have someone to show up with me for the office holiday party and family Christmas gathering! Someone to exchange romantic gifts with and to snuggle with in the cold nights; to kiss under the mistletoe.
Overeating, overspending and just plain overdoing it are three of our main indulgences, especially during the holidays. There are a few simple ground rules that when applied, can make the difference between feeling happy or funky come January.
If you're single and you'd like to be in a relationship, this time of year can be excruciating. There can seem to be countless ads showing happy-in-love couples giving one another romantic gifts: Cars with big red bows parked outside the house. Glittering jewelry. Even those “Forever Lazy” wearable blanket things. In television ads and in the real life examples of people around you, it can appear that everyone else has a partner to exchange gifts with and to share the season with. Except you.
Buy, buy, buy. I cringed that the verb was dominating my Christmas to-do list, and it wasn't even December yet. Looking back on my childhood, I remember magical moments with my family more than I remember specific gifts. I want my kids to have these kinds of memories, too, and not just a solid lesson in materialism...
Jane is planning for the holidays. The majority of her time is spent planning menus, dinner parties, and shopping excursions. She's also planning gift-giving, card-sending, trips to visit family. Volunteer work and end-of-year giving activities are planned by Jane as well. Now, Jane feels stressed. What has she forgotten?
This is the time of the year that brings holiday parties, buying gifts for family and friends, spending time with relatives from out of town and a myriad of delightful dishes. Add to that, festive lights, excited children awaiting Santa and a sense of merriment by even the grumpiest coworker. It sounds like a wonderful time, doesn't it? So why do so many couples feel so stressed? Instead of enjoying this special time of the year, they resort to cool withdrawal or heated arguments.
Being alone is a challenge for many people. This challenge may loom especially large during the holidays if you are single or newly divorced and without family around you. Holidays are a time to share love, and many people end up feeling depressed when they do not have people around with whom to share love. If you are in this situation, what can you do to make the holidays joyous rather than depressing?
Thanksgiving is tomorrow and I'm home. Most years at this time I'd be on the road. Traveling to visit my sister and family. But last year my friends and I spent Thanksgiving together and a week later I lost a friend and one of my friends, a brother. My Mother always loved Thanksgiving and taught me how to make all the specialities my friends and family now request, but also left us right before thanksgiving.
Jealousy can sneak up, catch you unaware and leave you feeling confused and beaten up. Jealousy can also end up destroying your relationship and compromising your health and well-being. This is why jealousy is sometimes referred to as the "green-eyed monster."
The holidays are special because of the opportunities we get to connect or reconnect with friends and family. But we all know that they can also cause a lot of stress because of the complexity that is added to our everyday lives: travel, in-laws, financial pressures, cooking, and shopping all start to pile up in our already busy schedules.
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For as much as my family members love one another, sitting down to Thanksgiving dinner can feel not only like a feast, but also a battle. There are ups, there are downs, and we always feel like we’re in one and others’ territories. This is natural and inevitable, because with the fun of seeing your family also comes the stress of hosting guests or being a guest, crowded kitchens and living rooms, arguments over the responsibility/privilege/annoyance of who gets to cook which part of the meal, and the inevitable debate over football vs. parade on TV.
With the holidays approaching it can be very trying on relationships… especially if you are in a relationship with someone making a go at being in recovery from drugs and alcohol. Most holiday gatherings are centered around alcohol and family – two things that are problems for most addicts. Having a roadmap to navigate this time of year is the key to keeping your relationship healthy and supporting your partner through recovery. Here are our Top Five Tools to Surviving the Holidays with a Recovering Addict:
When you get down to what separates great, long-lasting partnerships from ones that start with the best intentions but fizzle out over time, there are a few very basic rules and behaviors that while seem to be common sense, most people don't have a clue how to go about.