Thanksgiving is the gateway to the winter holiday season, which can feel challenging for those who are dealing with divorce. Tap into some real healing and find joy.
GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS
Every year all across America, millions of people take time off from work, school and responsibilities to gather in back yards, pools and parks to hold barbeques and parties to celebrate Memorial Day (AKA, the start of summer) We happily engage our children in the traditional activities associated with the holiday; we toss water balloons and play volley ball, plant gardens, host cook outs and go camping…but if you really think about it, NONE of these activities alone are in alignment with the true meaning of the Holiday, which was created to commemorate the Union and Co
As much as I enjoy the enormously busy season from Halloween through New Year's, I'm relieved just as equally that it's over. I managed to make it through constructing another homemade costume that kept me up more hours than I can recall. I survived a massive food overhaul that provided enough leftovers to stockpile the fridge for at least a week thereafter. My finances were pinched yet wisely managed when it came down to the annual gift purchasing, wrapping, and eventual dispersing among friends and family.
For some single women, the holiday season is the absolute worst time of year. Answering awkward questions from nosey relatives. Going to parties and functions alone. Not having someone to kiss at midnight on New Year’s Eve. Another year has passed and you didn't find love. I was still single at 40. I vividly remember the sadness, loneliness and disappointment. Yet, this is supposed to be the season of hope and a time when people renew their belief in miracles. A time when:
We are all in touch with some of the downsides of Christmas holidays—spending money, others’ expectations, travel hassles, relatives we may prefer not to hang out with, and the ending of the year with its accomplishments and intentions, met or unmet. I’m convinced that if you follow these 7 practices, you’ll look back with delight on this December.
So, what is it? Have you been Naughty or Nice this year? The journey of divorce will undoubtedly bring out our Naughty, Nice and everything in between sides. As I reflect back on my year, although I am Jewish and Santa doesn’t exist in my world, I am careful to be honest about whether or not I have been naughty…or nice. The first year or two after divorce, the pull towards Naughty was really strong.
But what if we don't have a family, or are estranged from our family of origin? What if we have lost the ones we love? What if we are alone? What if we are widowed, divorced or looking for that special someone? Then the holidays can be an intensely lonely time, a time of sadness, regret, questioning. Feelings of sadness or loneliness that may already have been present are magnified many times over during this time.
Rather than shooting your wonderful man a demeaning look when he overeats or indulges in lots of sugar, help him. Chances are, he'll be grateful and totally on board. Here are some tips for you to lovingly support him during the holidays.
The holidays bring with them a lot of things: Festive gatherings with family and friends; lights and decorations, presents, meaningful rituals and... A lot of “have to's.” Along with the celebrating and fun, many people feel pressure this time of year. You feel like you have to visit your complaining great aunt or you think you have to buy an expensive gift for the cousin you don't really like or spend much time with.
There's so much going on between Thanksgiving and New Years that causes couples to forget about each other. Despite all the added obligations that come up with family, friends, children and just being involved all the time, single people still need their weekly dose of spicy sex, no matter the time of year.
The holiday season has officially begun and soon calendars will be filled with holiday parties and family gatherings. For a single person, even one who’s happily single, this season usually includes inquiries from well-meaning family and friends as to the nature of your relationship status. Does your single status have you dreading going home for the holidays? Don’t fret my pets! There are benefits that come along with being single during this time of year. The Perks of Being Single
Being single during the month of December can pose challenges that you don't have to think about at other times of the year. People who are newly single may struggle as they try to figure out what to do when there isn't a built-in place to go for the holidays.
How about a lover for Christmas? It's the last seven weeks of the year. Why not try a new lover for the rest of the year? We spend so much time alone, and so many women spend so much time thinking and wanting and waiting for Mr. Right. What about Mr. Right Now for the holiday season?