When people close to us go through breakups, it's natural to want to help, but sometimes we end up doing more harm than good. The Romance Code points out five phrases to avoid when consoling our newly-single loved ones.
GETTING OVER A BREAK UP
Dating coach Sandy Weiner doesn't want you to date after you've been dumped. Instead, she suggests you take a dating time-out so you can heal. Read on to learn the 4 other great tips to finding your footing after a breakup.
You're desperately in love with him, but suddenly, he seems disinterested. You haven't heard from him for a few days. You replay all of your recent conversations, reread your texts and wonder why. But none of this is productive. If he doesn't have the courtesy to let you know what's going on, you shouldn't concern yourself with him. And that's the first step to getting over him.
You don’t need to be a psychologist to note the very harsh effects of a breakup on a person’s mental health. When a relationship ends, humiliation, rage, loneliness, anguish and grief all seem to simultaneously show up at the door, marching in arm-in-arm to parade noisily around our psyche. Evicting these emotions is a matter of healing, reconciling, finding peace within ourselves and somehow moving on.
While love songs are the norm this time of year, and are my favorite kind, there’s something special about the other songs out there. If half of the songs in the world are love songs, the other half are the anti-love songs: the ones about regret, broken hearts, and angry exes.
Breaking up is hard to do, but our favorite Tweeps are here to ease the pain with their bottomless font of wit and wisdom (but mostly wit). Get ready to cry happy tears.
We all have one person we just can't get over, and there's usually no clear reason why that particular person has a hold on us. Some say it is a past-life connection, while others say it is because we finally had a connection with someone that we hadn't had with anyone in a long time. Due to this connection, we hold onto that person longer than we should just because we do not want to lose that feeling we once had.
It’s hard but it happens. And it hurts. You love someone who may have loved you once upon a time; or You love someone who acted like there was a possibility of love in return, but now there’s not; or You love someone who simply doesn’t feel the same way and isn’t going to feel the same way, ever; or
Breaking up sucks. Even if the break up is really for the best it's so difficult to deal with the grief of losing someone who was a big part of your life. And when you're dealing with crappy situations it's hard to stay healthy.
When it comes to bad break ups, we've all been there—curled up on the couch with a bottle of wine, crying while we look through internet pictures of our ex, seemingly happier without us. The internet, for the most part, sucks for the broken-hearted. Facebook, twitter, and blogs provide an all-too-tempting outlet to obsess over pictures of your ex and desperately scan his status updates for any sign that he is missing you.
"My ex drove by me today and I almost threw up. I couldn't believe how that wave of nausea hit me. It has been a whole year and I thought I was over him. I can't believe it. Luckily, I was near a Starbucks so I ran in to the bathroom, sat on the throne and composed myself. Will I ever get over him?"