Men Need to Earn Her Words Honestly: You Make Me Feel Safe
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Men Need to Earn Her Words Honestly: You Make Me Feel Safe

For the longest time I was convinced that the only man who could make me feel safe didn’t exist. When I was 24, a man told me that my defenses and intellect were so over-developed that the only man capable of penetrating my walls would be dangerous. The man suggested I become more fluid in my boundaries so that the good men could enter my life. His words were etched in my mind. He happened to work in law enforcement as a Detective and his warning came to pass years later. Why? I didn’t listen.

How To Choose A Love Partner
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How To Choose A Love Partner

Looking At Yourself First Am I feeling needy? Do you feel as though, without this person in your life, you would become mentally, physically and emotionally impoverished? If so, think about why? Is he appealing to the part of you that never had enough nurturing, that could never please your parent(s) causing you to want even more from him/her? You might end up feeling smothered or smothering your partner.

Stop Running Away and Walk INTO...Self!
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Stop Running Away and Walk INTO...Self!

We, as individuals, are daily in a state of being with others, our higher power (some of us), and ourselves. How much of that time do we spend fully affirming ourselves rather than running from ourselves, taking on what others want us to be (or not be), and taking on others’ “stuff” (e.g. biases and negative attitudes about matters important to us)?

Lying as a Form of Control
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Lying as a Form of Control

All of us, as we were growing up, learned a myriad of ways to try to have control over getting love, avoiding pain and feeling safe. One of the ways we might have learned is to lie. We all had many opportunities to learn this way of protecting ourselves, which is a form of manipulation/control: • A parent or caregiver interrogated you about something you knew you were not supposed to do. Did you tell the truth or did you deny that you did it?

7 Things Our Daughters Need to Know
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7 Things Our Daughters Need to Know

I find it haunting to know that many terminally ill mothers have left their children video diaries of all the important life lessons they want them to know.  They do this knowing they will not be around to reinforce these teachings repeatedly or even answer a follow up question.  I can’t even begin to put myself in their shoes, but I so completely understand.  Speak with your children every day about your values, model empathy, and impart wisdom.

Artful Flirting
Are you an artful flirt or a shameless flirt?
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Artful Flirting

Flirting is essential, especially on the dating scene. We can tell if we like someone just minutes after flirting begins. However, there is actually an artful way to flirt and our expert reveals the 5 way to do just that.

Are You Magnetically Attractive?
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Are You Magnetically Attractive?

You dress to kill, hair perfect, outfit hip & hot, yet as you step out into the world, you notice that you go unnoticed. You’ve heard all the savvy tips on how to attract your mate and diligently practice them only to find that even if you do get a date, they don’t call you back for a second one. You observe a ‘plain looking’ woman surrounded by attentive men and wonder what the heck they see in her and why they are not bothering to give you any attention.

3 Ways To Bloom During This Spring
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3 Ways To Bloom During This Spring

With the change of the season and the beginning of a new quarter, now is a good time to take a look at all those “New Year’s Resolutions”; what have you done towards accomplishing them?  Did you forget about them?  Are you tired of starting a task but not finishing it, or feeling stuck and unhappy?  It is time to wake up and bloom during this spring.  Spring is typically a season most people think that rebirth and renewal happens.  Yes that means it is time to get up off your butt and start to put energy and time behind your heart’s desire

Why You Shouldn't Take Everything So Personally
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Why You Shouldn't Take Everything So Personally

In the middle of a serious conversation a few weeks ago, my husband got up to get himself a cup of water. I was incensed! Here we were, having this serious discussion and he has a sudden urge for water that he couldn't control? In a fury I tell him, "I would never have done that to you!" I felt totally dismissed by him. You know what else he does? He sleeps when he is tired, and he goes to the bathroom when he has the urge. For women … these actions are revolutionary. For men, setting aside these needs would be insanity.

Top 5 life changing books to read in 2013
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Top 5 life changing books to read in 2013

The following was originally published in Examiner.com: Get a new perspective for 2013. It's now February but it's not too late to start changing your mind towards a healthier mindset. Just like exercise, how you perceive and think about the world can affect your sense of well-being. Here are some titles to get started:

New Year, New You, New Life, New Love Part II
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New Year, New You, New Life, New Love Part II

Well, it’s a New Year. Can you feel the excitement? The possibility? The opportunity? Even if you’re still reeling from a major break up or divorce, there’s nothing like a fresh calendar year to get you feeling energized about changing your life and creating more abundance and love for the next twelve months. I’m here to tell you that this can be the year that changes everything for you, but first, you need to adjust some things within.

seth rogen and barbra streisand at "the guilt trip" premiere
Seth Rogen stars opposite Barbra Streisand in this poignant comedy.
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3 Love Lessons From 'The Guilt Trip'

I winced a couple of times while watching The Guilt Trip when I heard Joyce Brewster, the endearing yet nagging mom, say word for word some of the things I have said to my own, grown sons.

Holidays, And 7 Other Things To Change Post-Divorce
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Holidays, And 7 Other Things To Change Post-Divorce

You know how people and their dogs often look alike? Sometimes they even seem to have the same personality. It can be that way with spouses as well. Live together long enough and before you know it you eat the same food, dress the same way and do the same things. It's easy to lose yourself in the relationship, subjugating your wants and needs in the name of peace and harmony. I'm not saying that's a bad thing.