It doesn't take a nice car or a black AMEX to be a gentleman.It's not what you have,but how you act.
For some men, the art of being a gentleman is second nature. They ooze a certain sense of confidence and debonair. Whether they were raised well, its in their DNA or they were inspired by characters seen in movies, some men just know how to wow a woman.
For others, it can be a challenge. Courtmanship and courtesy are as foreign as speaking Latin. In fact, speaking Latin may be easier. Saying "Bless you" after a sneeze is as close to chivalrous as they get.
I’m starting to realize it is the rare man who is actually a “gentleman”. Yes, I consider myself a feminist and a strong woman. But I am also … a “lady”. I believe you can be both at the same time. I want to believe that there are men out there who can appreciate a strong woman who knows what she wants AND who likes to be treated like a “lady”. By “lady” I don’t mean being treated with kid-gloves or holding back a curse word or two. I mean a gentleman who is genuine and kind and who really feels it an honor to be spending time with his date … and shows it.
Being the victim of a user is a sad reality, but the sooner you recognize his traits the better.
A man who is a user is truly not interested in you–only what you can offer. All his initial questions relate to your job, career and income status. Do you have a car? What kind of car is it? What year, make and model? Do you have kids? Who lives with you? These are all probing questions a man with a user mentality will ask, in order to see where he can fit in and take advantage of you.
One writer explains what being chivalrous looks like, and why it's still so important.
I find chivalry to be a gorgeous thing. Most women I know are a little like that. We love our modern independence in life and in love, but deep down, we love when guys treat us like ladies. As women in their twenties will attest, it's become increasingly rare. Case in point: My friend gushingly told me the other day that a man had been ultra-polite. ("See that guy? He held the door for me ... Like, awwww!") Gentlemanly behavior sets our hearts aflutter. We want to see it, and many of us are waiting on it.
What things do men do that make women truly happy?
Want to make a woman truly happy? It's not as hard as you think it is. But a lot of men still seem to struggle when it comes to knowing how to please a woman, so we've made a list of 30 entire things men can do that are practically guaranteed to make any woman smile. So now you have no excuse, dudes! The list was inspired by the Twitter trending topic #30WaysToMakeAGirlSmile.
Decades ago, women were fighting for equal rights. Today, we're fighting for a return to chivalry.
Sometime between my high school years and full-fledged adulthood, it seems that it's become okay for men to not take the lead. I think I can speak for many women when I say we're not too happy about this trend. Here are a few things that we wish most men still did.
Sex and the Psychological City; A Relationship Blog and Love, Sex, Friendship and Intimacy
Welcome back to Sex and the Psychological City! If you have read the earlier posts, you are familiar with my confession that I was a hipper psychotherapist when my go-to girlfriends -- Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha were on the air, with fresh new material on everything from masturbation to marriage. Granted, their wardrobes and lifestyles were totally unrealistic, but the fashion and fabulousness worked well as a delivery platform for groundbreaking discussions about sex, commitment, friendship and love.
Italians do it better! Or shall I say, men from a foreign country do it better, or do they?
They say Italians do everything better: style, fashion, food, art, fun and yes, SEX. We can generalize all we want, but somewhere within lies the truth. So what is their secret? Why do they do it better?
The secret ingredient is Confidence. Italian men are confident and self-assured. They dress the part, they look the part, they act the part and they also smell the part (I have to tell you, a good smelling man can flip the switch, if you know what I mean!). They walk out the door with “I am the MAN!” written on their forehead and just make it happen.
Note: Don't forget to follow my journey on my personal blog, So about what I said...
I had just turned 15 when I started The List. It was a secret file on my computer that I just prayed no one would find. I rationalized it in my mind: Doesn't everyone make these sorts of lists? After all, it wasn't anything dirty (my early-teen mind had just been scared stiff from a semester of health class and Lifetime movies); instead, it was innocent and little did I know at the time that what started so private would turn into such an eye-opening experience.
Over the years, the list grew and grew. And though nothing ever materialized beyond putting their names on the list, it didn't matter. I didn't just fantasize about these men from afar, I fell headfirst over the edge and into a deep, shallow ravine – a ravine of obsessing, analyzing, and of course, there was some drooling in there too.