I recently read an article on 'Your Tango' speaking patience. It is a learned behavior some men give short shrift. Male patience is usually at low ebb when communicating with females, children, and other perceived life-bothers. My advice to men for gaining patience is this: next time you go shopping, take that one thing you came for and find the longest line. Unfortunately, it may also lend a negative view toward men generally: We're professional idiots.
Is he a gentleman? Is he direct? Is he faithful? If not, he may not be the one for you.
For some men, the art of being a gentleman is second nature. They ooze a certain sense of confidence and debonair. Whether they were raised well, its in their DNA or they were inspired by characters seen in movies, some men just know how to wow a woman. For others, it can be a challenge. Courtmanship and courtesy are as foreign as speaking Latin. In fact, speaking Latin may be easier. Saying "Bless you" after a sneeze is as close to chivalrous as they get.
I’m starting to realize it is the rare man who is actually a “gentleman”. Yes, I consider myself a feminist and a strong woman. But I am also … a “lady”. I believe you can be both at the same time. I want to believe that there are men out there who can appreciate a strong woman who knows what she wants AND who likes to be treated like a “lady”. By “lady” I don’t mean being treated with kid-gloves or holding back a curse word or two. I mean a gentleman who is genuine and kind and who really feels it an honor to be spending time with his date … and shows it.
A man who is a user is truly not interested in you–only what you can offer. All his initial questions relate to your job, career and income status. Do you have a car? What kind of car is it? What year, make and model? Do you have kids? Who lives with you? These are all probing questions a man with a user mentality will ask, in order to see where he can fit in and take advantage of you.
I find chivalry to be a gorgeous thing. Most women I know are a little like that. We love our modern independence in life and in love, but deep down, we love when guys treat us like ladies. As women in their twenties will attest, it's become increasingly rare. Case in point: My friend gushingly told me the other day that a man had been ultra-polite. ("See that guy? He held the door for me ... Like, awwww!") Gentlemanly behavior sets our hearts aflutter. We want to see it, and many of us are waiting on it.
Want to make a woman truly happy? It's not as hard as you think it is. But a lot of men still seem to struggle when it comes to knowing how to please a woman, so we've made a list of 30 entire things men can do that are practically guaranteed to make any woman smile. So now you have no excuse, dudes! The list was inspired by the Twitter trending topic #30WaysToMakeAGirlSmile.
Sometime between my high school years and full-fledged adulthood, it seems that it's become okay for men to not take the lead. I think I can speak for many women when I say we're not too happy about this trend. Here are a few things that we wish most men still did.
Welcome back to Sex and the Psychological City! If you have read the earlier posts, you are familiar with my confession that I was a hipper psychotherapist when my go-to girlfriends -- Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha were on the air, with fresh new material on everything from masturbation to marriage. Granted, their wardrobes and lifestyles were totally unrealistic, but the fashion and fabulousness worked well as a delivery platform for groundbreaking discussions about sex, commitment, friendship and love.
They say Italians do everything better: style, fashion, food, art, fun and yes, SEX. We can generalize all we want, but somewhere within lies the truth. So what is their secret? Why do they do it better? The secret ingredient is Confidence. Italian men are confident and self-assured. They dress the part, they look the part, they act the part and they also smell the part (I have to tell you, a good smelling man can flip the switch, if you know what I mean!). They walk out the door with “I am the MAN!” written on their forehead and just make it happen.
Note: Don't forget to follow my journey on my personal blog, So about what I said... I had just turned 15 when I started The List. It was a secret file on my computer that I just prayed no one would find. I rationalized it in my mind: Doesn't everyone make these sorts of lists? After all, it wasn't anything dirty (my early-teen mind had just been scared stiff from a semester of health class and Lifetime movies); instead, it was innocent and little did I know at the time that what started so private would turn into such an eye-opening experience. Over the years, the list grew and grew. And though nothing ever materialized beyond putting their names on the list, it didn't matter. I didn't just fantasize about these men from afar, I fell headfirst over the edge and into a deep, shallow ravine – a ravine of obsessing, analyzing, and of course, there was some drooling in there too.
The Nice Guy question had always vexed me, because I'm Nice—but really only in comparison to some of these hammers and nails I see in bars, aggressively hitting on you women. (I really don't know how you all deal with it.) Then it struck me one night while I was being Nice to a girl—I want to sleep with her just as much as that a-hole over there does. Which makes me just as much of a creep.
Is chivalry dead? Or has it just changed shape? One man weights in. "When I'm feeling jaded I can't help but agree with Dave Chappelle's assessment that chivalry is dead—and women killed it. Don't get me wrong, I honestly enjoy opening the door, picking up the check and planning dates (OK, planning dates can get a little old). But what really makes me nervous are all of the obscure rules, most of which seem a little antiquated to me."