Up with Masculinity I feel blessed to be a woman in our post 60’s culture, where femininity and female strength, independence and success are touted. Unfortunately, however, our changed views of women seem to have occurred at the expense of how we perceive manhood. In short I believe that we’ve lost a real appreciation for men being men. We women want our men to be breadwinners and rescuers (help us when the car breaks down or the sink sprouts a leak). We want our men to be strong, both emotionally and physically.
Have equal rights for women literally destroyed the balance in modern day relationships? What is the difference between present day society and from our society 40 years ago? Why are there so many divorces, broken homes, and single parents today as opposed to yesterday? What is the one variable in a relationship that has changed from that period until now? Women.
If you love someone, there is no excuse for cheating on them... Right? What sex is really like after having a baby. How to get him to quit porn. Don't focus on your guy's shortcomings. What he really thinks after a first date. What happens when sex makes her say things she doesn't mean? If your guy is a tad immature, cut him some slack. Guess what, being a little juvenile, here and there, is a great trait in a man. Harrumph.
As I was perusing the blogosphere, I came across an article on Very Smart Brotha's site which listed the life rules he will always follow. I enjoyed his list so much that I was inspired to publicize my "will always follow" relationship rules. A lot of my rules were learned as a child and there were some I picked up along the way that just made sense.
Movies, TV shows and songs—essentially, all of popular culture—would have us believe that no-strings-attached, casual sex is something that men are more interested in than women. It's true that over the years, gender-based stereotypes have assigned to guys the role of sex-seeking and to ladies the search for something serious. A new study, however, challenges those assumptions—while showcasing how such behavior affects a person's perception of a woman.
If you thought it was sexist to assume that girls aren't good at science, maybe you should think again. A recent study in the journal Hormones and Behavior found that genetics play a key role in the career choices we make.
The women's movement has made it easier for us to crush through many a glass ceiling, have children if and when we want, and enjoy casual hook-ups, but one effect doesn't exactly seem like something to celebrate: More women are popping the question. According to a poll from the online dating site Swoon, one in 10 gals have asked their guy to tie the knot, because they were fed up with waiting for him to do it himself. Gah!
Ladies, how do you prefer to be approached by a man? There is surely no single answer to such a question—unless, of course, you're talking about a one-night stand, according to a new study. It claims that when it comes to casual sex, women prefer straightforward and aggressive pick-up tactics, and men are more than willing to deliver them.
It's widely known that women are underrepresented in science, technology, engineering and math, but who knew romance was the real reason? New research partially funded by the National Science Foundation and published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin says that as soon as women start thinking about love, science and math quickly flee their thoughts.
Despite the onslaught of celebs who have come clean about infertility, including Hollywood A-listers Courteney Cox and Julia Roberts, the issue remains highly stigmatized. Both men and women feel the pressure to have kids, but, as with most things, the genders deal with and communicate about the problem differently.
All around the world, a concept called "sexual economics" is at play. The principle goes something like this: Women have something men want, and it's called sex. Women's sexuality has a price that men's does not, so men trade resources with women just to get some: money, promotions, marriage proposals. This is why, according to a recent study, in countries that rank higher in gender equality, people have more sex.
Do you want to be a powerful woman without isolating your man? YourTango Expert and relationship coach Kat Knecht has the answers to being both powerful and feminine in this Ask An Expert video.
My husband and I seem to parent our children differently based on their genders, a tendency I never expected, being the enlightened and empowered woman I am. (“Roar” and all that.) Once we had both a boy and a girl, though, this tendency became obvious.
Ladies, when you've finished cooking dinner, washing the dishes, folding the laundry and sweeping the floors, what kind of reward do you receive from your husband? A kiss? A foot massage? A week-long getaway with your girlfriends? Wait, you don't receive any of those things? That's what we thought. But, despite the fact that women do the housework with no promise of praise upon completion, an Australian news host has proposed an incentive program to encourage men to chip in around the house.
Gender is a funny concept. In our society, we are typically taught as we're growing up that boys act one way and girls another. Boys like trucks and wear blue and all little girls want to be mommies one day. A lot of us don't bother to question it; we just go along with what we're told. But what about the people who decide to raise their children with no preconceived gender whatsoever? Maybe we don't all want to go along with the boys wearing blue and girls are all mommies ideas, but how do we react when someone abandons all gender roles altogether?
It seems clear that we are in a time where gender roles and expectations are rapidly being redefined and altered. Although these new definitions are, no doubt, giving both genders some more freedom, are they simultaneously making a handful of people a bit more uncomfortable as well? Madame Noire took to the streets to try and discover just this. They interviewed several New Yorkers to see how they'd feel if a husband, instead, decided to take a woman's last name. You won't believe some of their responses.
Tonight I got off work and did a bit of grocery shopping with the family. Then we came home and I proceeded to sit on the couch, eat bean dip and watch the Heat play while my husband made dinner. Is it a little bit of role reversal? Maybe. But the thing is, in our house and in our marriage, traditional gender roles—mom and dad, man and woman—mean almost nothing. My husband does a lot of the housework, he does most of the cooking and he takes care of the boy when I'm at meetings or working late. And we are remarkably happy with this arrangement.