How do you feel about your body? What do you say to yourself every day when you drag yourself out of bed and look in that bathroom mirror before you start your day? Do you go over the litany of things you hate about the way you look? Do you in fact tell all your friends about everything you hate about the way you look too? Women, why do we do this? Why are we always finding ways to bring ourselves down?
GAY MEN, BODY IMAGE, LOVING YOURSELF, SELF-LOVE
What do homosexuals and heterosexuals have in common? The innate ability to go into their own heads, create crazy making scripts that incapacitate their ability to be independent yet dependent in a relationship. That was a mouthful. Whittled down interpretation...we’re all clingy and needy in our own ways! Yes, even you Mr. Gay Man!
I turned 50 this year. In gay years that’s like turning 70. To some, I’m now a daddy, even though I’ve been a daddy for over 18 years. To others I’m a poppa bear. Whatever! I may be a big, tall, stocky, gay man, but the last time I looked, I wasn’t covered in fur, except in all the right places. I really don’t care how I’m labeled, because I’ve learned, fingers crossed behind my back, to let it go.
Are you still trying to "come out" and come to terms with your homosexuality? Take control of your life and embrace who you really are; the benefits reach far beyond your love life.
This article was originally written and featured at MUSED Magazine Online. Why are you single? A simple but effective question that all singles ask when they jump into the dating process. As Chicago’s resident gay matchmaker, I make it point to ask all of my clients why they feel that they are single, because it gives me an idea as to whether or not they are even ready to pursue a relationship.
The Jack O’ Lantern’s have hardly hit the compost heap these days before the first overt whispers of the holidays invade the retail shelves. On top of that, now Mom has declared Thanksgiving Dinner is now Brunch so that she and Aunt Tilly can get to Wal-Mart for the pre-Black Friday Sales that start at 8 pm on Thanksgiving Day. As if that isn’t enough to drive you crazy, you also have to deal with the coin toss over whether you’re going to his families or yours.
"I'm feeling confused," stated Aaron in our first session. "I've always known myself to be straight, but now, at 22, I'm feeling attracted to men. Does this mean that I'm gay? And if I am, why has it taken me all this time to know it? And why have I been attracted to women? Does this mean that I'm bi-sexual?" More and more I find people who are questioning their sexuality and unsure about their own sexual truth.
This week, I was introduced to a little show called "Here Comes Honey Boo Boo." I have heard people joke and make fun of the show but I had never taken time out to pay it any attention. Just hearing the title made me curious enough to ask: What the hell is a "Honey Boo Boo"?
Since the story broke on the 'Huffington Post' about Everett's statement ("There's nothing worse than being raised by two gay dads"), I've seen numerous editorials, articles and spoofs referring to the once luscious piece of man meat as a vile hypocrite. I want to personally thank Rupie for bringing to light one of the stalwart behaviors of the gay community — internalized homophobia.
Since the announcement last week, many people are speculating about what made Katie Holmes file for divorce from Tom Cruise. She appeared to have everything a girl could dream of: an amazing career, a devilishly handsome husband, a beautiful daughter and more money than a person could spend in a lifetime. What was Katie's deciding factor? Here are two possible answers.
Mirror Mirror, the new movie starring Julia Roberts as the evil queen step-mother, re-tells the fairy tale story of Snow White. The characters in Snow White, like all fairy tales, represent the internal struggle that we all work with as we mature and try to evolve to higher levels of emotional, psychological and spiritual attainment. Fairy tale characters represent the various energetic or archetypal personalities that each of us embodies in our personal and collective consciousness.
There’s a funny thing that happens on the way to being gay...no one ever taught a man how to date a man. Ooops! Think of it like seeing a shirtless Ryan Reynolds, three stories high on a billboard in Times Square. You’re mesmerized by his perked-up pecs, adorable smile, and drawn to a vision of running your hands through his perfectly coifed hair. Spellbound beyond logic, you step forward, fully believing this is your moment and Ryan is yours to be had.
In just a few days it will be Valentines Day. Thie day to celebrate being in a relationship, brood because you’re not, or stake your claim proudly as a member of SAD (Single Awareness Day)! I have to admit that some of those SAD parties I attended on Valentines Days’ past were so much more entertaining than the $200 dinners out with the one you love...no offense to my partner!
Straight guys don't get offended or feel threatened by this topic. I'm not here to make you feel small, even though a fair share of you seem to think that's your inalienable right to make gay men feel less than. Let's draw a truce for the next few paragraphs and see what we might learn about one another. Fair enough? Ok, onto the list!