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Often, when we get in touch with our most heartfelt and hopeful dreams, what may also surface are some of our doubts. There is an important relationship between (what I refer to as) the dreamer and the doubter that live inside of us. It is useful and necessary to develop skills for dealing with our doubt; otherwise your dreams could very well get squelched.
We bet you anticipate, nay expect, androids to be incorporated into everyday life by 2050 — but we bet you didn't count on the fact that in 2050 our "ladies of the night" could also require oil changes and scratch-resistant coatings.
Part of finding more dates is getting right with yourself. If you're too busy listening to the conversations in your head, then chances are that opportunities are passing you by right and left. If you are stuck on past failed attempts, how can you be successful at talking to the person right in front of you? When you engage in these destructive behaviors, your relationships continue to suffer.
What is your theme for 2012 going to be? I’m not asking what your goals are with accomplishments by dates, or what your resolutions are going to be. Rather, what your vision or dream for the upcoming year is going to be. What do you feel energy or excitement around? What is it that you will be able to wrap yourself around and embrace? What is the thing that you can really connect with? What engages your imagination and feels compelling. That “something” that makes you want to work towards it, give it life, and make it dance!
With 2012 rapidly approaching, many people are talking about how uncertain they are about the future. Uncertainty about the economy, the upcoming elections, the environment....you name it. Is your mind running you ragged with worry? Is uncertainty stealing your peace this Christmas? Do you struggle to plug into your intuitive guidance when you need it most?
You and your boyfriend have a great, loving relationship that you're so ready to take to the next level. But for some reason, he doesn't want to get married. How can you get on the same page and both be happy? Are You Ever Going To Get Married? In this video, Dating & Relationship Coach and YourTango Expert, Lori Pinkerton helps one of her own clients whose otherwise perfect boyfriend just doesn't want to get married.
A good friend of mine told me a while back that if I couldn’t articulate in my mind what it was I wanted for my life I would never get it. She was right. It’s not that I don’t know what I want for my life even though most of us can articulate what we don’t want a lot easier than what we do want. Once we say it, think it, or write it down, it’s tangible…it’s out there, and we can no longer ignore it. It’s not a matter of being self-centered. It’s saying I will no longer settle for what comes my way. I want to choose.
Facing a Nerve-Racking Event When you're worried about an upcoming event that will require a great deal of inner stamina and courage, you've undoubtedly been told that you should bring one or two family members or friends for support. What I'd like to suggest, however, is that you consider bringing a whole bunch of people. You can even do it without taking up any space in the place you're going to go. How? Let me tell you my experience. Perhaps it will give you an idea you can apply to yourself some day.
Friend yells at a friend in anger. Friend wonders if there is something hidden behind fight A guy I consider a great friend and I were talking 2 nights ago when he told me he would just rather stop talking to me if I discussed what I was hearing about an old friend of his with him. We both have a mutual friend we no longer are affiliated with, but I try to remain at least civil with the situation by discussing it, just out of the goodness of respecting what the other person is goign through. I was.. to say the least SHOCKED by my friend.when he totally blew a hot fuse about me bringing it up.
Where do you think you’ll be in 2015? Where would you like to be? Think about it carefully, thoughtfully. Drift into Possibility Thinking mode. Feels wonderful, right? One of the most precious gifts we’re given as human beings is our ability to create our own destiny or vision. It’s a crime that so many people never accept this gift. Others prefer to just give it away, making someone else responsible for it. Think about what you can get done in the next five years. The possibilities are endless, aren’t they? Think about where you were and what you were doing back in 2005. Look at what has changed since then. For most of us, quite a lot. I have a question for you… What are you thinking about doing right now that might take some time to come to make happen? Are you working on a degree or certification? Are you considering taking that dream vacation you’ve being dreaming about for so long? Do you want to change careers? Do you want to lose some weight?
Even when it feels right, moving for love is a total leap of faith and it certainly was one of the scariest things I’ve ever done. But there are a few questions you can ask yourself to help decide if following love to another city is a good move for you.
