Welcome to the third of a series of five articles in discussion of the natural and unnatural emotions. My recent articles examined sadness and anger. This article will analyze the natural emotion of envy and its fixed counterpart jealousy. Envy is a beautiful emotion. It arises naturally in all of us the minute we see something in someone else that we admire.
The only real relationship I've ever had ended badly after nine years. The hurt I felt after the divorce was the most painful experience I've ever had. My biggest mistake was telling myself I'd never fall in love again—and all the decisions I made when I finally did start a new relationship 10 years later.
My toughest audience yet: 50 San Francisco high school seniors two weeks short of graduation. They're a striking, multiracial mix of kids straight out of a Gap billboard--united by their desire to be somewhere else on this gorgeous spring day. Instead their teacher tells them they will spend the next hour with a representative of the state's anti stigma campaign, someone with a mental illness and the parent of a mentally ill son. Get me out of here, I read on all their faces.
This is the second article in the series of five examining the emotions. In the first article it was discussed when sadness is repressed in turns into chronic depression. Any chronic condition is unnatural. We need to look at our first feelings. The core emotions of grief/sadness, anger, love, envy, and fear are being examined in this series. These are the natural emotions and are uncomplicated in their purity. I am not suggesting they are comfortable, I am suggesting they are uncomplicated in their truths. Anger is, in my opinion, the most misunderstood of all of the five emotions.
Let’s take a look at the emotions and relating. This will be a five part article series with each article taking a deeper examination into each of the primary emotions and their fixed counterparts. Enjoy! In my recent article on communication I assert that the problem is not with communicating but rather with relating. There are five core emotions I am most interested in: Grief/sadness, fear, anger, love, and envy.
We all have a friend that tells us everything about their relationship whether we want to hear the sorted details or not. Do they want us to just listen to their stories or are we allowed to partake with an opinion or two? What is the proper etiquette?
You've heard the term 'wing man' before, and it probably conjures up a funny, mischievous (yet ultimately benevolent) movie character Martin Lawrence might play alongside a hot, shy dude. Martin would be the easy-going middle man who helps his self-conscious hottie friend get the girl.
Are you excessive or abundant? Are you excessive or abundant? As humans we have to have two healthy relationships with non-human tools; Money and time. If we are in a poor relationship with either form our lives suffer. Money is a necessary tool we all need to make our lives work. Money does not bring happiness but it does bring freedom and security. When we are low on money we are low on security. When we lack security we get into intense feelings of fear. These fears impact identity, relationships, marriages, and our children.
Friend yells at a friend in anger. Friend wonders if there is something hidden behind fight A guy I consider a great friend and I were talking 2 nights ago when he told me he would just rather stop talking to me if I discussed what I was hearing about an old friend of his with him. We both have a mutual friend we no longer are affiliated with, but I try to remain at least civil with the situation by discussing it, just out of the goodness of respecting what the other person is goign through. I was.. to say the least SHOCKED by my friend.when he totally blew a hot fuse about me bringing it up.
Every year, millions of children grieve over their parents' divorce, but new research says that the experience can compromise their math scores and friendships as well.
My boyfriend needs to get a life, that doesn't include me! I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We have been living together since we met, and have a great relationship. We are very compatible and enjoy spending company together. We have a lot in common and enjoy doing the same things. The only thing that bothers me is that my boyfriend only spends time with me. I know- sooo bad right?! But it actually is. He has no friends and never goes out to do guy things. I wouldn't mind if he went to a bar or a movie with a friend.
For most, deciding to separate is no easy feat, especially if children are involved. The process of making this tremendous decision is usually predicated by months or even years of therapy, soul searching, self doubt and anxiety. Typically, this agonizing process of deciding whether to split up takes place in private. Perhaps a few close friends, family members or a therapist know that the couple is struggling. But, for the most part, the couple usually presents to the outside world as if it's all good (or good enough) on the marriage front.
If I hear one more person describe Bridesmaids as "the female version of The Hangover," I'm going to Kristen Wiig out. Why do we have to label a movie that's hilarious in its own right as the female version of something else? Well, actually I know why. Because a lot of comedies starring women aren't exactly thought of as "funny." And a lot of wedding-related movies are cheesier than they are clever and witty. Bridesmaids is a long overdue exception. Despite its title and premise, it's not really about a wedding, either. We don't even really meet the groom. The movie is about two best friends growing in different directions. Annie (Kristen Wiig) is stuck in a dead-end job after the bakery she opened—and the boyfriend who helped her run it—both go out of business. Her best friend Lillian (Maya Rudolph) has always been her cheerleader and confidante. But their relationship changes when Lillian gets engaged and asks Annie to be the maid of honor.
We heard it might happen. . . some were certain it would. As we walked down the aisle to become Husband and Wife – bound together in a true soul partnership, we heard from other “childless by choice couples” that we’d lose friends over this lifestyle decision. We thought, “Okay, maybe those peripheral friends, those ones we see only a couple times a year at best.”
Last week I found myself having to swallow some of my own medicine. I didn’t like it, but it reminded me how hard it is to manage oneself. I’d gotten into a major disagreement with my trainer, a man I’ve been friends with for at least 10 years. I really like him. It’s always been a smooth relationship between us, so the fight took me by surprise. Him, too, I’m sure. Why we fought doesn’t really matter, but we really didn’t speak for about a week and there was a lot of tension between us.