Being single but having good relations with others
It's the aged old question—does he want to be friends or is he hoping one night I have one too many beers and my clothes slip off? Despite CNN's 83% "yes" vote in favor of male and female friendships, there are generally two popular schools of thought on such an issue. 1.) Yes, of course men and women can be just friends. (says the woman) And 2.) Are you insane? Men want to sleep with anything moving and halfway decent and unfortunately you fall into that category. (says the man.) Sigh.
The Sex and the City movie shined light on a phenomenon that nearly every woman deals with at one point or another: clashing with a friend's love interest. But in real life when the friends don't get along with the boyfriend, things rarely resolve neatly. "Says Allison, a twentysomething who lives in Manhattan, 'I have over time disliked a friend's choice of men many times... I felt like she often chose men who were selfish, destructive, patriarchal, and lacking depth. We often clashed because when her boyfriends would hurt her... I would get in full defense mode.' Unfortunately, even as Allison helped her friend through the hardships in her friend's romances, their friendship fizzled because of her friend's less-than-gallant boyfriends." Learn more about the friend vs boyfriend debate by reading the full article.
Pleo is this amazingly intuitive robotic dinosaur that made its way into many homes recently; it has sensory receptors and some type of inexplicable (I'm no rocket scientist) manner of impersonating a loving pet/companion minus the unpleasant responsibilities. With the busy, professional playerette's lifestyle these days, who's got time to poop-scoop anyway?
A recent study done by the Rockway Institute and Alliant International University showed that homosexual couples are generally closer than their heterosexual counterparts. Though they gave no statistics or examples, this sort of makes sense. Which begs the question, can men and women ever be equal? Can they ever really be friends?
Some people want to be in a relationship but just don't want to engage in the sex part. Sometimes there are physical complications and sometimes the reasons are emotional. A new British dating site caters to this asexual crowd that want love and companionship, but no sex.
He's your gay best friend and no straight man can live up to him. But does he keep you from dating other people? Do you secretly wish he were straight? No matter how much platonic love you have for him, romance probably isn't in the cards for the two of you. Ephi Stempler, a gay man who is no stranger to this type of intimacy, explores how this friendship can damage your chance for healthy relationship. He calls it the "Will and Grace dilemma". Stempler writes, "One of the sitcom's primary contributions to popular culture was its ability to candidly portray the feeling of being in love with one's best friend. As the title characters slipped into codependency worthy of an all-consuming romance, they found it increasingly difficult to cultivate meaningful relationships with other men. And because the list of women I've known and loved is—sadly—twice as long as the list of men I've loved and slept with, I, too, have fallen prey to the 'Will and Grace dilemma.'"
No matter what lovestage you're in, a girl crush is a way to satisfy your craving for infatuation and remind yourself of your best qualities. YourTango explores the intense platonic feelings of admiration, inspiration or just plain excitement another woman can inspire. "Lately, it seems like everyone has one. Hardly a tabloid goes by without announcing Lindsay Lohan's new best friend or Britney Spears's latest source of emotional support. What's more, you don't have to attend boarding school or emulate Cynthia Nixon to play this game. A girl crush is strictly platonic, an admission that a head over-heels tumble can just as easily be set off by a budding friendship as by an office flirtation—no strings (or kissing) attached. Best of all, girl crushes need never stop. Whether you're single or taken, a girl crush is a way to satisfy your craving for infatuation and remind yourself of your best qualities. Unless you have some seriously possessive women in your life, there's always room for a few more friends."