Bad kissers are everywhere, sometimes even in our own relationships. The balance between teaching your partner how to kiss without offending is a precarious one, but certain rules make it easier.
A recent study published in the January issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine claims foreplay doesn't contribute as much to a woman's orgasm as actual penetration. The study followed 2, 360 Czech women and asked how consistently they orgasmed and the circumstances leading up to it. How long was the foreplay? How long was the intercourse? And how out of the blue was it for them to be orgasming at all? Women who report average intercourse length of 1 to 10 minutes, 50% had an orgasm most of the time and 28% had them in a minority of cases or never. For women who report 11 to 20 minutes, the numbers are 62% and 22%, and for the women who boink more than 20 minutes they're 72% and 13%.
Women don't come with directions and men seldom ask for them, so it should come as no surprise that sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman spent part of her recent Oprah appearance demonstrating how map-making may enhance a couple's love-making, as part of a five-step approach to better sex. Here is an exercise you may want to try at home if you or your partner a) feel sexually unsatisfied or b) cringe and/or laugh upon hearing the word "penis."
An ABC News poll reports that 80% of both men and women say they have "the right amount" of foreplay in their sex lives. But if that's true, why does Cosmo field questions about how to get a man to slow down on the race to intercourse, while Men's Health readers are asking 'How can I make my wife more interested in quickies?' But whether the quantity—and quality—of foreplay in your relationship is too high, too low or just right, we've got a few foreplay tips to help you get all the not-quite-sex you've been hoping for.
When our first romp in bed introduced me to the world of dirty talk, my brain refused to process it. This, I thought, is why adult films are always better on mute. I decided my best move was to ignore him. I was unaccustomed to between-the-sheets dialogue—or monologues for that matter. He may as well have been speaking in tongues. It was too hard trying to figure out what he meant by the things coming out of his mouth; things you only heard in porn movies; things you heard uttered by your drunk college roommate when she dragged home her night's conquest and you had to lie there, pillow over your head, pretending to be asleep, all the while judging, silently judging: "Ew! Who says that stuff?" The funny thing is, it now excites me as well. While talking dirty can be a great way to share our fantasies, sometimes, his idea of sexy is definitely not mine, and I wish there were things he could take back. What sounds hot in the moment can turn cringe-worthy in retrospect.
According to some data (albeit old data), a lot of married women in New York City don't work. Isn't this a little crazy? Same goes for other large, crowded cities. How is it possible that women don't have to work in these cities? Oh, it's where all of the wealth is concentrated. OK, that makes sense.
Pepper Schwartz, a seasoned lover, psychologist and author, writes about the things she wish she knew about sex at 30. How much do body image, fantasy, oral sex and sex toys factor into a healthy sex life? Read on to find out. Plus, the revealing connection between foreplay, orgasms and faking it.
People, we need to start having more sex. According to a new Global Wellbeing survey by Durex, Americans rank third lowest in the world when it comes to the frequency with which we knock boots. In fact, only the nations of Japan, Hong Kong and Nigeria have less sex. And we know what the former two are doing with their free time: Getting busy developing superior electronics. Anyway.