Most of the time we have no problem getting it on with our significant other. But once in a while there may be something preventing you from doing the deed. Maybe you're hugely pregnant or post-partum. Maybe you're injured. Perhaps Aunt Flo's in town or there's just no birth control on hand. It can be tempting to just roll over and go to sleep, but according to sex expert, Jaiya, author of Red Hot Touch and founder of New World Sex Education--staying sexually close, even when you can't go all the way--is important.
As every busy woman knows, the day can seem never-ending. Between spending hours at the office, taking care of the house, getting your kids situated (if you have them), and working out something for dinner… hopping into bed at the end of the day only means one thing… SLEEP. Is your hectic lifestyle taking a toll on the level of intimacy you share with your partner? Are you spending less time together, cuddling less, and in effect, feeling kind of distant from each other?
Here's a scene from Seinfeld, the '90s' hilarious take on everyday minutae: Jerry: "You faked it?" Elaine: "I faked it." Jerry: "That whole thing, the whole production, it was all an act?" Elaine: "Not bad, huh?" Jerry: "What about the breathing, the panting, the moaning, the screaming?" Elaine: "Fake, fake, fake, fake."
A woman's natural lubrication can vary due to a number of factors including stress, birth control pills, other medications, and menopause. A personal lubricant will increase the lubrication making penetration and also masturbation more pleasurable, instead of painful. Utilizing a personal lubricant can also make condoms for reliable and add sensation during intercourse. Studies show that not using a personal lubricant with a condom is the number one reason why condoms do break. What Kind of Personal Lubricant Are Available?
Fueled by pure primal instinct, our sex drive is a compelling physiological desire for copulation. Unlike most female mammals, women can enjoy immense pleasure from sexual activity. Of course a partner is not necessarily needed to achieve sexual satisfaction and orgasm, however it is always more fun to share erotic experiences with someone you care deeply for. Whether you enjoy solo play in stimulating yourself, or you have assistance from an adoring lover, orgasm can be profoundly powerful and extremely gratifying to a woman.
Telling your partner you are unhappy with your sex life could be one of the most difficult conversations you may ever have to discuss with your significant other. You may have even git plenty of thought, opting to remain silence. Afterall building a successful sexual foundation requires work, just like maintaining a job. Developing key strategies such as, communication, consistency, commitment and compromise could be a great start to regaining your intimate connection.
Why is sex so often rushed? I was seeing this guy for a month and a half, and we started having sex three weeks in. Sex sessions went on for an hour or more easily, and for whatever reason, the only time he ever came was the first time. Whether he was in control or I was in control, he just wouldn’t come. Although he didn’t give that as the reason, I think that might have influenced him to let our “thing” end, which leads me to this thought— Guys need to stop seeing sex as a means to an end and simply enjoy the process.
It was in grade school math that I learned about reducing fractions to their lowest common denominator. I hated math. Still do. “Reducing to the lowest common denominator,” however, is a great way of describing how we so often “sink” to the level of those with whom we are engaging. If you’ve ever argued with a child, you know what I mean. Before you realize it, you’re exchanging “did” and “did not” as if your life depended on winning. When this happens in your relationship, the results are never pretty. Example:
The enemy of a great relationship is complacency. It begins so innocently. You forget how attractive, funny or caring your honey is because you’re together all the time. You get wrapped up in your “stuff” and forget to do the little, day-to-day things that make your sweetheart aware of your love. You forget how good life feels because you picked someone amazing and the lottery win of being picked back. Before you know it, you reach the relationship expiration date— the day one of you wakes up and thinks, “What am I doing here?”
Foreplay is an important part of having a satisfying sexual experience. It is not just about the size of the male partner's penis or how flexible your female partner is. Building up to the final act is an vital part of the whole sexual experience. If you and your partner are pretty much going straight to the sexual intercourse, your sex life will become predictable, and possibly leading to sexual frustration in one or both of the partners.
OK, so the title of this blog is misleading. There is no secret code to unlocking a woman’s libido. I’m sorry to be the one to tell you this, but it’s the truth. The one constant about women is that what turns us on is never the same. Never might be stretching the truth a wee bit, but rarely will the same thing turn us on every time. It’s one of the things that is probably the most maddening about us as a species.
It is not always easy to ask for what you want. Discover how you can communicate with your lover with both your words and your body!
Here's a secret: Women like having sex. A lot of them love it, and a few even think about it all the time. But their shortcoming is that they often want men to be mind readers. Many women aren't confident enough to ask for what they want in bed, so instead they accept a so-so sex life. Tonight, start a conversation about sex. Talk about the things that turn you on and ask her if there's anything she'd like you to do differently.
In the latest video episode of Ask YourTango—where readers seek out advice on love and relationships—sex expert Ian Kerner gives advice to a woman whose boyfriend doesn't give her enough foreplay. Ian shares one tip on how to get your man to to slow down in bed.