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There is no one on this earth like me. According to Wikipedia, individuality or selfhood is the state or quality of being an individual; a person separate from other persons and possessing his or her own needs or goals. It means being self expressive and independent. Sounds pretty simple doesn’t it?
With the millions of dollars, we’ll spend on presents for others this year, how many will stop to unwrap one of the greatest gifts you have to share with the world- yourself. Yes, you! She’ll outgrow the sweater from Macy’s and the iPod will eventually get played out, but you’re the gift that keeps giving!
Lately I’ve been thinking about all the things I wanted to be when I grew up. This brings to mind one particular not so pleasant memory. I was nine and our third grade class was asked to share what we wanted to be when we grew up. I can still picture my hand waving madly as I waited for Mrs. Shackman to pick me. And when she did I stood up and announced so proudly that I want to be a singer, actress, writer and mother. But Mrs. Shackman shook her head, told me to sit down and adamantly declared, “silly, you are going to get married and have babies”.
If you like indulging in pagan rituals, the autumnal equinox as a symbol of the harvest, or digging into those urges to honor the real meaning of Halloween (to help spirits transition to the other side), then you are in for a treat. Instead of dancing around in feathers at a goddess retreat, for a true pagan holiday on October 31, perhaps you enjoy engaging in a more mundane pattern, like flossing your teeth, making the sign of the cross when you enter a church, or brushing your darling's hair before bed. Then again, maybe you like to revisit the "City of Lights" and speak French once a year while munching on a fresh baguette in a chic cafe. Yes, any way you like it, you enjoy rituals, and each season we can discover ritual-making opportunities for your sexuality, as well.
Finding SELF after divorce can be tricky, especially if you don’t have SELF well defined. When I talk with my clients about self they often feel uneasy because to them SELF equals selfish. This is absolutely not true. SELF to me is your mind, body and spirit. All three of these need to be nourished after divorce, so the real you can fully emerge. And only then, do you have more to give to others.
Excerpts from Marianne Williamson's Our Greatest Fear eloquently creates the template for generating the life of your dreams! "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
Which one of these scenarios best describes your experience in relationships? 1. You always find yourself needing to please your partner. Constantly putting their needs ahead of yours, you find that at times you feel resentful wondering when all of your selfless action will be recognized and reciprocated. You wish your partner would be able to anticipate your needs as well as you anticipate theirs. Ultimately, all of this leads to you constantly twisting into a pretzel to receive love.
The U.S. job market tanked, the dollar crashed, and my company laid off 16 investigators. The experience left me feeling shaken and insecure. And then one day I came across a video of famed American burlesque performer Dita Von Teese dancing at the Crazy Horse. Three minutes later I was enrolled in a class to learn the art of burlesque.
Most of my blogs are directed at women who are in a relationship and are trying to make it better. For a change of pace, I thought I’d address those women who are looking for a new relationship. How can you avoid the mistakes of past relationships? How can you maintain your sense of yourself within a new relationship? What do men really want in a partner, anyways? It’s a lot to cover in one blog, but I’ll give you the big picture answers.
I’ve been thinking about why so many marriages end in acrimonious divorce. People who once declared they would love each other forever end up fighting over who gets the towels and linens, or something equally insignificant. It doesn’t have to be that way, if we could do a better job of honoring the transition of divorce. Here are some patterns I’ve noticed with couples who don’t manage the transition gracefully.
