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The Master List for Attracting Your Soulmate

The Master List for Attracting Your Soulmate

That said, one strategy I highly recommend during the dating process for bringing in “the one” is a master list of positive qualities. This means every guy or gal you go out on a date with that isn’t the one, the goal is to figure out what all of their positive qualities are that you really appreciated. Basically you milk them for every positive quality that you can get from them and then if they aren’t the one and you move on, you move on happily, inspired by their best.

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Skip The Soul Mate, Find A Trophy Husband

Opinion: High-powered women have something to learn from men with trophy wives.

Women want a man who has it all: a good job, intelligence and looks. Ironically, men often don't. Could women learn something from men with trophy wives?

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How Saying 'No' Will Help You Find Love

New dating advice: say "no" instead of "yes" when looking for Mr. Right.

You are in a state. "Pangs of love," you say as you roll over on the couch, pantomiming stab motions to the heart. Your roommate looks bemused. It's the third or fourth date, and lately you've been struggling to hold off sending those late-night, inappropriate text messages. "Head. Heels. You. Me." (send--no wait, delete.) Instead, you're on your knees, head in hands, summoning the forces of the universe to carry your love cry out to the one you desire. Does he hear? Maybe. Will it be returned? The silence of everything you feel and everything that has not been communicated is deafening. Surely he feels it, too? Why do you not pick up the phone and call? Why did you cancel on Friday? Why are you still not Facebook friends? Why? Because Beth Wareham says so.

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What's Your Boyfriend Or Husband Criteria?

Here's one take on what's essential, what can be left out, and what's always nice to have around.

Buzzfeed posted a great list from Tiny Cartridge of "Boyfriend Criteria," including the usual "smart," "cute," "funny," and the more unusual like "did not pick Charmander as first Pokémon." There's also a list of pluses ("glasses," "good shoes," "good tattoo") and minuses ("annoying," "too tight pants," "think you're sooo smart"). Since I'm getting married in three days (!!!), the list got me thinking about my "husband criteria" and how well my fiancé fits my list. After the jump, see how he does.

Seven Weeks Away From Mr. Right?

Seven Weeks Away From Mr. Right?

Why wait 7 years when you can find "the One" in 7 weeks?

If you wish hard enough, will your dream lover appear out of thin air? Author and romantic Catherine Specter road tests the latest man-hunting trend.