Are you part of the forever-growing singles crowd? How are you dealing with the single status right now? Single people typically struggle during holidays, when being alone could certainly be challenging. Sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself should be the last thing that you do. You might be frustrated, but are you trying to find the solution to your situation in the wrong place? Do not worry, because the problem many single people have is that they search for true love in the wrong place.
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How committed are you to finding your true love? Here are 5 ways your actions can show your commitment to finding love.
If you ever want a man to feel a deep intense, almost addictive love for you, then you need to become emotionally in-tune with him. What do I mean when I say emotionally in-tune? I basically mean that you have to connect with the emotional part of his mind rather than the logical part. Follow These Steps < ===
Imagine for a moment an adorable puppy who only wants to give affection. The little dog snuggles, gives kisses, and tries to cuddle on your lap. If you're like me you pick up the baby dog and give it a hug, pet, belly rub, and a treat. When Bode came home on Valentine's Day 2012 he was all of 9 weeks old. His ears were still floppy and he was a little ball of fur. Who could resist that? Not I! From that day on Bode has become the most spoiled dog or at least one of them. He was that puppy. Demanding of mutual affection and boy did he ever receive back. Still does.
Meet Cosmo (the big guy), and Milo (his side-kick). Some people call them dogs, but those of us without human offspring, like me, refer to them as their furry, four-footed children. You will be hearing a lot about them in my blog not only because they are my kids but also because they are masters at teaching how to live life with an open heart.
Discover why some couples get stuck in the early infatuation stage and never create a true, lasting love in highlights of my radio conversation for A Lasting Love with Ross Rosenberg. He’s a veteran psychotherapist-author Human Magnet Syndrome-Why We Love People Who Hurt Us.
Interestingly enough, most of the people who come to me for dating coaching don’t come just to learn how to date. There is so much information out there on the “ins and outs” of dating that it’s easy to find anywhere on the web. They don’t need me for that. You probably don’t need to read another article on The 10 Best Places to Meet Quality Men or The 5 Thing to Never Say on a First Date, either.
Have you been looking for the love of your life for years with no result? Are you frustrated and feel like you must be doing something wrong? Even worse, have you begun believing that it's never going to happen? If this is you, take heart; love could be just around the corner. I know this is true because I experienced this myself in my mid 40's. I had to take a step back and take a good look at how I had been approaching my search for love.
“A doubtful friend is worse than a certain enemy. Let a man be one thing or the other, and we then know how to meet him.” – Aesop When you are on your journey toward the love of your life and the life of your dreams who you have around you really does matter. Who is around you, especially in your “inner circle” really matters. One of the reasons why the women who work with us state again and again how important the loving, uplifting, and supportive community of other women is on their journey is because that “inner circle” has influence on you.
I’ve been where you are right now. Years ago, I was single, divorced and looking for love. I remember the disappointment of having yet another relationship end painfully, and worse…the fear that something was wrong with me. One night, after a particularly painful breakup with a man I had been certain was the love of my life, I made what I call my “fetal position decision”. Yep, curled up in the fetal position on my bed, I declared… I was either going to find my soulmate or be a cat lady…
We all grew up reading fairy tales about living happily ever after with our prince or princess charming. We dreamed and longed for the one true love that would bring us eternal happiness. As Snow White tells us, “The birds will sing and wedding bells will ring someday when my dreams come true.”
You’re a woman. You KNOW that we men are visual creatures. What does she look like? Woah-dont get whiplash from that head whipping around! Excuse me-my eyes are up HERE! You’ve seen it happen, may be involved in it happening, and may even do some of it yourself (Ryan Gosling, Maxwell…need I say more?).
It was another Saturday night alone for me as a single woman. I sat in my apartment feeling very alone, unworthy, and rejected. I remember lying there on my bed in the fetal position, after a particularly painful breakup (with a man I had hoped was my soulmate) earlier in the day. The problem was, this scene that I’m describing was not an unusual occurrence in my life. I’d had this happen before. Me, sobbing, writing in my journal, and then calling a girlfriend to do a tear-filled, curse-word-filled, post-mortem on the relationship. Can you relate?
When I was single, I remember getting together with my single-and-hating-it girlfriends one night to do a “vision party”. We cut out magazines and inspirational words of our ideal lives with our soulmates to put into a vision binder. This was over 14 years ago, way before the movie The Secret came out and the “Law of Attraction” became such a common phrase. We spoke blessings over our visions. We drank wine. We cried. We laughed. And even saged our visions, lit candles, burned incense. We were going to manifest our soulmates, dammit!