They say that if you take care of your money, it will eventually take care of you. Sounds simple enough, doesn't it? It raises the question, though: How strong a caregiver are you? I like to think of it this way: In the giddy, blissful early days of a new relationship, the stars seems to align and everything in the relationship flows. We're in looove. We are constantly thinking about one another, calling all the time, checking in frequently, delighting in each other's tiniest quirks and relishing every moment spent together.
Per a study conducted by Harris Interactive, 31% of couples (over 2,000 were polled) have committed financial perfidy. The findings were very interesting and two items in particular stuck out: 1) The most common shadiness was that 58% of people admit to hiding cash; and 2) 15% of respondents have hidden a banking account. It was also revealed that men and women were just as likely to hide money.
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There are necessities, like running water, and then there are "necessities," like HBO and a weekly pedicure. When you're single and supporting only yourself, you have every right to declare keeping your toes in the latest shade of blush a priority. But once you join budgets with your partner, it's important that you both agree on which expenses qualify as non-negotiable.
We all fear discovering an unfamiliar perfume lingering on our man's collar or a smudge of lipstick that isn't our shade, but sometimes his cheating isn't with another woman … it's with his wallet. Maybe you found a statement for a credit card you never knew existed, or suspect he's been blowing the cash you thought he was saving for retirement. When your faith in your partner's honesty and financial fidelity is shaken, how do you keep it from tearing your relationship apart? Manisha Thakor offers the following advice for coping after he's been fiscally unfaithful.
At the behest of his wife, my husband has been pursuing a different employer as his current position, while solid and benefit laden, offers no room for advancement and little job satisfaction. It is one of those jobs that his father's generation would have envied. In fact, his father is pretty incensed that he would like to leave. Problem is, my hubby hates it and he'll be there a million years before he ever gets a promotion because no one leaves. It's a graveyard and he knows it.
Money is a reliable source of tension in relationships, in both married couples and those not yet experiencing wedded bliss. According to one writer, "while talking about money can be often be more difficult and emotionally charged than talking about sex, religion or politics, a simple conversation about money can save you a lot of tension and resentments throughout married life." Here, six steps to a relationship free from money stress.
When you enter into a relationship with a man you want to know every last detail about him. His health: Is everything in check? What's his history? His finances: Is he in the black? What's his savings account look like? Is he signed on to the 401(k)? But is asking for full disclosure okay or might it suggest that you may not fully trust your new partner.
Women have an urgent need to blab every thought in their head and share every sexual experience they've ever had in their quest to "be honest" with men. This uncensored sharing is a big mistake. Men neither want nor need to know every detail of your life or your past. In most instances, they don't want to know and should never be told, because they can't handle hearing the truth about the number of men you've made love to!
"Eventually, money affects every part of a romantic relationship. Where you live, where you eat, where you vacation, where your kids go to school and what car you drop them off in," says Bethany Palmer of The Money Couple who wrote, First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage. The tricky part is knowing at what point financial matters should enter your relationship and how to bring up money matters.