The twelve-month relationship over the night of our anniversary makes me feel strangely happy.
A.J. Jewell, ex-fiance of The Real Housewives of Atlanta's Kandi Burruss, died early Saturday morning. He suffered massive head injuries resulting from a fight with an employee at a strip club he owned in Atlanta. The Grammy-winning songwriter blogged and tweeted about dealing with the sudden, tragic loss.
I've been married all of 11 days now and, one cliché I will be able to avoid, though, is the terrible mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship so many women have. My own mother-in-law passed away long before I got a chance to meet her, and while I'd love to think we would have had a wonderful relationship—if her sons are any indication, she was a terrific woman and I hope she would have approved of me—the odds, apparently, aren't in our favor.
Jon & Kate Gosselin drama hits an all-time high, but Kate wears wedding band for kids. YourTango's Celebrity Love blog has the details.
Gretchen Rubin, Huffington Post blogger and author of The Happiness Project (forthcoming), recently compiled a list of 23 phrases that can help couples turn a verbal brawl back down to a constructive fight. Here are YourTango's top picks from that list and why we think they work so well.
Well, we all have one: One friend who we think is in a terrible relationship. Her husband or boyfriend is a complete jerk and treats her terribly. He makes jokes at her expense, calls her names—he even argues with her in front of friends. It's hard for you to understand what it is she sees in him, but it's even harder for you to witness it without wanting to say something to her. What's worse is that you do love your friend, but you feel like you have to avoid social situations—being around the two of them is uncomfortable for everyone (not to mention, you and your husband have your own issues—why do you want witness them arguing?!)
After being accused of assaulting his ex-girlfriend and world famous pop star Rihanna, Chris Brown pleaded guilty to felony assault charges. While the assault occurred back in February, not much was heard from Brown, apparently on the request of his lawyers, until now. Hollywood Life reported that the R&B singer issued a video apology where he accepted responsibility, expressed remorse and promised to take steps to ensure he does not repeat his abuse. Read: The Real Reason For Chris Brown's Apology It can be argued whether Brown's apology was sincere or whether it was just a ploy to win back fans, but the bigger question remains as to just how far does an apology go in a domestic violence situation. Rihanna had the means and capability of leaving Brown after he assaulted her, but many women who suffer from domestic abuse do not have the same power.
Robert's ex, via National Enquirer, reports that sex with this hottie is right out electrifying. As if women needed another reason to worship the always brooding Robert Pattinson. And if Robert Pattinson's mother is reading this, you might want to refrain from continuing on.
For two weeks in June 2008, heavy rains and widespread flooding pummeled the Midwest. The nation's worst natural disaster since Hurricane Katrina, the floodwaters decimated downtown Cedar Rapids, Iowa, causing an estimated five billion dollars in damage and displacing over 2,000 people. Flood survivors recount how they lost everything but kept their marriages together.
Sometimes we get lucky. A new relationship moves along swimmingly, without glitch. It's stress-free, guilt-free and conflict-free to boot. We may even start to gloat about the flat, ever calm quality of the relationship waters. But if six months has passed in your relationship without even the slightest hint of a mild tiff you may have to ask yourself: Are you afraid of the first-fight hurdle?
You like to shop, and he likes to save. He likes to smoke, and you like to breath. He wants to pee on you in the shower, but you would rather lather alone. Couples inevitably find themselves butting heads from time to time, and some contend that this is healthy as long as fangs remain concealed. Nonetheless, resolving arguments is seldom simple, and so Sidetaker.com offers a novel service that takes the guesswork out of deciding who is right and who is wrong. Settling your argument on Sidetaker.com is a reasonable way to put an issue to rest once and for all: by promoting you and your guy to communicate, and enlisting a jury of strangers to submit their two sense. We know it may sound a little Jerry Springer. But it's cheaper than therapy and sure beats his mom.
Screaming, yelling, breaking furniture, soul-sucking jobs, mental illness, infidelity: Revolutionary Road is not your typical holiday season movie. Don't be fooled by the Kate-Winslet-and-Leonardo-Di-Caprio pairing -- this is not Titantic. Frank and April Wheeler are two bright young things in 1950s New York City who fall in love, get pregnant and move out to suburbia with stars in their eyes. But seven or so years later, the daily commute and absurd office nonsense is doing Frank in. Back home, April feels bored and stifled by domestic life, aching over both of their unmet potential. As she energizes Frank and they start to claw their way out, real life sets in and throws every single roadblock imaginable in their way. There's many Mad Men parallels in the analyses of post-war life, but ultimately, Revolutionary Road is just a portrait of a straining marriage: it's about the capacity that two people who are in love have to be cruel to each other.
Fighting sucks, but it happens in almost every relationship, so for healthy coupledom you have to know how to deal with arguments and anger. According to a study at U Mich, the best solution for processing negative feelings is to step back from the emotions and try to evaluate what happened from a distance. It sounds like common sense—you've probably heard, or said, "I need a second to calm down," or "let's think about this rationally"—but there are subtle differences in the way you think about the experience and your emotions that can help or hinder your ability to effectively deal with adversity.