Adam Lambert has been arrested in Finland. Reports out of Europe this morning say the pop singer was detained after getting into a brawl with his boyfriend at popular gay club DTM (Don't Tell Mama) in Helsinki.
There is really never a "good" time to break up with someone, but right before the holidays might be the hardest. Even for those people who know their relationship cannot be fixed, it can be hard to cut someone loose with Christmas music in the background. If you're ready to be single again, what do you do? Stick it out through the holidays, or move on now?
What seems like a well-intentioned effort to break up a fight between his girlfriend and another girl resulted in Brody Jenner taking a bottle to the head.
My first marriage was a nine-year exercise in co-dependence. Believe me, I don't say that lightly. We dove head first into a relationship built on controlling one another and indulging a neediness that knew no bounds. We should have known from day one that we were setting ourselves up for massive failure.
By Cupid's Pulse Although stories of cheating men have been dominating the news lately and falling out of love seems to be happening a lot more frequently than people are falling in love, the situation isn’t exclusive to men. Losing those loving feelings for your husband or boyfriend can happen just as easily to women. If you’ve experienced this in the past or maybe you’re going through it with your partner now, the first step is to be aware of why it’s happening.
How we fight sometimes says more about us than how we got into a fight in the first place. Living a conflict-free life, especially with a loved one, sounds nice but in reality is impossible. Not only that, but it's unhealthy. Disagreements from time to time, if dealt with maturely and with the requisite kindness, can actually help to strengthen the bond between partners. And that's not simply due to the makeup sex phenomenon, a theme so commonly mimed in sitcoms and romantic comedies. Yes, fighting within a couple is normal. However, within each fight lies a potential minefield of insensitive comments and dirty tricks. Fights are only productive if done fairly. Here's a list of seven dos and seven don’ts to keep in mind when entering a tiff to make sure you’re fighting fairly. Following these rules could be the difference between making up and sleeping on the couch.
Being in relationship is like being a pickle in the jar... Whether you want it or not, you'd be pickled by the brine inside. Long term relationships are just like that. When you stay together long enough, you either learn to enjoy the chemicals in your body produced during your interactions or you may grow to hate how you feel. In either case you become a bit dependent on the flavor your relationship gives to your life, so you may not even imagine yourself living without it.
Conflict is part of life. And that means it’s part of our relationships, even with those we love most. I just don’t think there’s any way around this. Could the Dalai Lama avoid fighting with his spouse—not to mention his ex-spouse—while trying to raise children? I’d like to think so, but then again, perhaps there’s a reason that His Holiness isn’t married.
Do you ever feel bad for having a bit of a foul mouth? Well, new scientific research assures us you can ditch any sense of guilt—as long as your cursing is in the name of better health. A recent study shows screaming out profanities can relieve stress and give you a higher pain-tolerance. It's basically recommended and encouraged. Seriously!
After only one day of living together, my boyfriend and I had our first "argument". By argument, I mean that I was pissed and imagining heated scenarios in my head, thus further angering me while he remained oblivious to how mad I truly was. The first thing I realized about moving in together is that you MUST unpack as fast as possible to prevent the "Where the hell is my stuff?!! AHHHHHHHH!" argument with each other, which really has nothing to do with you as a couple. Instead, it stems from the frustration of living out of boxes.
D-E-B-T is a dirty four letter word in any love relationship. Money seems to be a sensitive subject for most, yet the topic cannot be avoided when you’re sharing your life with someone. As debt surfaces in your relationship, the tensions rise and daily interactions between you and your partner drastically change. For folks who have debt that is out of control, they are often stuck in a spiral of negative emotions. Feelings that can range from regret to shame, guilt to embarrassment, hopelessness to despair, disappointment to depression, worry to fear and frustration to rage. As arguments escalate and fears rise, the feelings can become more than either person can handle. You’re left feeling like the world is spinning out of control and you’re not quite sure how to get off the ride.
Money is one of those super-charged topics that can turn a conversation from lukewarm to boiling in an instant. Money conversations can bring even the level-headed to an emotional breaking point when their anxiety rises to the surface. Is it our mistaken beliefs about money (that we'd miraculously be happier, better looking, attractive, secure etc. if we had more of it) that has created the place for such a hot button response? It's a good question to ask because our lack of understanding about why we react the way we do is one of the reasons we're plagued with such childlike fears around money. To gain control of your money fears, first you have to understand them.
There are countless studies out there on couples' fighting styles, but new research is finally focusing in on how pairs recover from arguments. As it turns out, how well you patch things up in your current romantic relationship has to do with the quality of attachment in your very first relationship—the one you had with your caregiver as an infant.