The author's generation fought to have careers as well as families. Now, more and more young mothers are opting to raise their kids full time. But what happens when a husband leaves, gets laid off, or dies? Leslie Bennetts makes the case for keeping the day job. "I spent many years establishing a rewarding professional life before having two children — just as my biological clock was winding down—and ever since then I've felt as though I won the lottery. A great career! A wonderful husband! Two beautiful, healthy children! Lucky me! Imagine my surprise, then, to learn that Having It All—the quintessential goal of recent generations of women—has gone out of fashion. Who knew?"
Rate your infidelity IQ with Dr. Pat Love’s 20-question quiz. Find out the guidelines of marital etiquette and learn to stay out of the infidelity danger zone.
What terms should a new couple use to refer to each other? Are they "boyfriend-and-girlfriend"? "Partners"? "Significant others"? Some think of their relationship as so exceptional that it demands an exceptional word. Barbara Wallraff explores what's in a name or a nickname or a pet name and what they say about the couples who throw them around.
Fast doesn't always mean bad; counsels expert Dr. Pepper Schwartz. While wonderful; sometimes tender lovemaking can be touched with a little ennui. Quickies can be the perfect(ly intimate) solution to showing just how desirable your partner is to you.
She moved in, now what? Dean Chandler shares his view on the trials and tribulations of moving in with a partner. Moving in together means different things for men and women, but it undeniably brings the relationship to a new level. From the idea of cohabitation (living in sin, to some) to figuring out whose stuff to keep, it's high on stress. Here, the author describes how essential compromise is and talks about recognizing a new and developing intimacy.
They love each other. They trust each other. Why is their money in 3 or 4 (or 7!) different bank accounts? The question isn't joint or separate accounts; writes Martha Baer; but how many a couple needs. Keeping separate bank accounts can save the trouble of discussing how money should be distributed.
Shoot-‘em-ups vs. cooking shows: we all know the old stereotypes about male and female television tendencies. But in front of the TV is where men and women gather, fight, and sometimes, bond. So are men really heartless channel-flippers and are women really emotionally engaged in the commercials? Does TiVo help ease the remote tug-of-war? Leslie Bennetts explores TV’s role as a bridge and barrier to intimacy and learns never to ask what happened in last night's episode of Nip/Tuck because she really doesn't want to know.
An interview with Ines de la Fressange about her emergence as one of France's top models, how her prominence affected her love life, and how the men she dated at 18 were so different from the man she ultimately married.
Is there a perfect time to start a family? Don't count on your body and fertility being ready when you are to have kids. Is having it all even possible when racing the biological clock? Jill Johnson explains the science of conception, exploring the ideas of career stability, age and desire for a more settled future.
Gail Sheehy discusses her relationship with Clay Felker, the renowned first editor of New York magazine. "This year we will celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary, a milestone that amazes friends who had to play Rolodex tag with each of us during the 17 years of our turbulent premarital relationship. We were in diametrically opposing stages of life: Clay led a glamorous existence as the editor of New York magazine and the Village Voice, and had to be on the town night after night courting his first love—New York. I was a struggling freelance writer and divorced single mom who wanted to read bedtime stories to my young daughter. I would move into his imposing apartment, try it for a year, move out. I remember feeling as tiny as an envelope slipped under his door marked 'addressee unknown.'"
The love of her life won’t be the father of her children. Susan King helps one woman make an impossible choice between her desire for her man and for children.
For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: fatherhood responsibilities. Question: As I lie here at 3:42 a.m. thinking about my breastfeeding wife down the hall losing sleep, I wonder: Do I have any real responsibility to help my crying baby at night when human physiology has not yet provided me with the ability to breastfeed? – R.M., Reno, Nev.
Want a romantic destination? We've got 5. This romantic city list includes the top domestic (lower 48) destinations for exciting vacations. Check out the sophisticated, hipness of New York, the crunchy, techy Seattle, the smoldering, hot Miami, the gentle sweetness of San Francisco, and the jazzy, cool of New Orleans.
A Tango interview with musician Jenny Lewis.
He hails from Tennessee, she from Minnesota; together, their humble attitudes have created a red-hot marriage. Desperate Housewives actor James Denton and wife Erin O'Brien Denton share the secrets to their love.