Planning the wedding isn't the only stressful thing about getting married. Troubleshoot this exciting time so that you can walk down the aisle without any weight on your shoulders. Most brides are afraid to give in to their sadness and fear, thinking that once they turn on the faucet, it'll never shut off. In reality, emotions work the opposite way. What helps brides most is to embrace reality instead of remaining wedded to their fantasies.
Getting married or know someone getting married? Need a little help with a florist, DJ, photographer or something else? We've listed some of the best online resources to get you from engaged to your honeymoon. Inside you'll find sites with advice on gifting for charity, creating a personal wedding website, planning an inexpensive ceremony, DIY weddings registering for gifts, hiring limos, designer wedding gowns, local florists, bands, and wedding singers, unusual wedding ideas and more. Also check out the comments where YourTango users list their favorite online wedding planning solutions.
All of you would be wedding guests know that attending a wedding can be stressful. Wedding etiquette demands that your attention remain focused on the bride, but what about the pressure it puts on you and your budding relationship? Tango investigates. "Any bride will tell you—at great length—how stressful it is to plan a wedding. But what about the guests? Rarely does anyone acknowledge their pain. Every year there are around 2.2 million weddings in the United States, and roughly 300,000 weddings here in the U.K. Multiply that by the length of the average guest list—about 200, in both countries—to get a sense of just how many of us go through the familiar routine: pick main course, pick present, pick outfit, pick date. If you’re in a serious relationship, the last choice is already made for you, but you can still find yourself picking—at each other. The truth is that these lovely, sacred events—opportunities for voyeuristic romance and, hopefully, some amour of your own—often wreak havoc on relationships that are, shall we say, at the tipping point."
We know; we know. We could all be a little more conscientious about flossing our teeth; dosing up on antioxidants; calling our grandmothers; and protecting our skin from the sun (every day). In the name of preventative care; can Tango entice these three intrepid couples to make sunscreen a part of their daily routines?
What’s your idea of the ultimate romantic travel getaway? Private motu in Tahiti, table for two at a Parisian bistro, fuzzy rug by the fireplace in Aspen? All good. But the spectacular scenery and a secluded setting provided by camping in the great outdoors can be equally sexy and sumptuous—not to mention perfectly priced. Here’s a sampling of places, from almost rustic to downright regal, where the two of you can get back to nature. Includes national parks, cabins in canyons, and island vacations (albeit a slightly more rugged island than you might be used to).
Having recently moved into an apartment in the East Village, the divorced author and mother consults with a feng shui expert to see if anything can help her with new relationships and snaring dates.
Throw a sophisticated, grown-up version of those wild soirees you used to have in college. Hosting a party doesn't have to be all stress, it can be quite fun. Because just like those college days, the key to a good cocktail party is the right spirits, the perfect mixers, your closest friends, and maybe some snack to soak up the drinks.
Have you ever wondered what happens when readers follow an advice columnist's sex tips to a T? In this piece, read tongue in cheek letters to the fictional "American Vixen" magazine and see how the (imaginary) readers handled advice on how to deal with a poor body image.
Like video games? You and your partner pressing each others’ buttons may be the right way to go. Even though a long-term relationship can often mean going from roses and romance to sweatpants and video games, it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Involve yourself in each other’s greatest pleasures, like playing his favorite racing game, and beating each other up or kicking it side-by-side in fighting games.
For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: when's the best time to break up?Question: My girlfriend of two years and I are traveling to South America this fall to attend her best childhood friend's wedding. We've been planning this trip for almost a year, including two extra weeks of trekking in the Andes with some friends afterwards. Here's the problem: Without going looking for anything, I met someone else, and I want (and need) to end my current relationship, even though it kills me to think of hurting my girlfriend. If it weren't for this upcoming trip, I would have already done it. Should I tell her what's going on before we go or after we get back? —R.S., Boston, Mass.
Looking for love can be about as much fun as having your teeth cleaned. Forget about the mundane dinner and movie. Kristine Kern, self-described as "one of the dating masses" talks to Dave Singleton, author of Behind Every Great Woman There’s a Fabulous Gay Man: Advice from a Guy Who Gives It to You Straight and The Mandates: 25 Real Rules for Successful Gay Dating. Together they came up with a few refreshing first date ideas that can help you get a better idea of your prospective partner. Also included: bad first date ideas.
You don't have to be Sting to add some Eastern spice to your sex life. But you probably could do with a pointer or two. Tango recommends five books to get you started.
Every journey begins with a first step. But before that first step; you need to get supplies. Tango gives its top nine needs for road trip bliss.
When it comes to that all star team of two, a sport is not a game. In Dean Chandler’s not-so-humble opinion, there’s nothing dumber and more dangerous than playing sports with your significant other. Teamwork is what makes the ideal relationship work, so why disrupt that with a competitive edge? Watching sports together can be a great opportunity for bonding with each other, but as for playing sports? Just don’t do it!
"Sweet Ruin" by Cathi Hanauer and "Henderson's House Rules" by E.L. Henderson and David E. O' Connor reviewed