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Can You Stay Friends With An Exes' Mom?

Can You Stay Friends With An Exes' Mom?

For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: staying close to an ex's family. Question: I'm in the midst of breaking up with my longtime boyfriend, and I'm extremely close to his mother. Realistically, I know that she and I probably can't be in each other's lives anymore, but that breaks my heart. What's my obligation to her as I end this relationship with her son? What can I expect from her going forward, if anything?–L.C., San Francisco, Calif.

Can You Google Your Way to Love?

Can You Google Your Way to Love?

Google is good for finding many things. But when it comes to finding The One, no one gets to click a mouse and discover a New Yorker-reading, pastry-baking, compliment-smothering husband. It’s simply no match for the oldest search of all.

For Some Couples, One Kid Is Enough

For Some Couples, One Kid Is Enough

Having a child irrevocably alters the balance of a partnership. The responsibility, time commitment and difficulty having baby is tough, no matter how strong your union; romance and sex after kids can be hard to accomplish. Although many couples decide the disruption is worth it, finding a new equilibrium can be challenging. Here, one mother comments on why she won't do it again. In her own words, "admitting that bringing a child into a relationship might ruin said relationship verges on the unpatriotic. Like most of us, I expect romance to survive marriage and committed cohabitation. I’m more dubious that it can survive raising a child."

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Quiz: Do You Fall For Bad Boys?

Bad boys are the eternal temptation. They've been besting the likes of feisty heroines for centuries: Shakespeare's Helena, Jane Austen's Elizabeth Bennett, Margaret Mitchell's Scarlett O'Hara, Gossip Girl’s Blair Woodward. But do bad boys really make us feel so good? Or are we setting ourselves up for failure?

Angie Harmon & Jason Sehorn: Married with Children

Angie Harmon & Jason Sehorn: Married with Children

At first glance, radiant actress Angie Harmon and celebrated athlete Jason Sehorn look like the pinup-perfect couple. She's an actress, he's a jock. Read how they met, how they get along and how they managed being married with children.

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The Balancing Act: Can You Have It All?

An excerpt from Wall Street great Janet Hanson's book; "More Than 85 Broads;" about life after divorce for a workaholic. After she ended her 4-year marriage to a colleague, after realizing that they weren't in love, the Goldman Sachs banker decided to reevaluate her life. After that reflection, she realized she really could have it all with a little compromise.

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Living Alone And Loving It

After cohabitating with three different men, the author declares her right to live alone despite society's pressure to move in. "Ever since I was a small child, I've wondered why people should have to live together. It's wonderful when you want to be together, mind you, but what about when you don't? Doesn't it make more sense to have the option, either way? Sometimes I spend a few days at my boyfriend's house. It is always difficult to leave. It is also always great to come home—at once comforting, liberating, exciting, even. What adventures await me here, in my own place, in the soft white whispers of my own private sanctuary, between my pen and my notebooks and me? There are days I scarcely leave my desk. I don't have to. I don't want to. And that's the end of it.

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How To Make Long-Distance Love Work

Despite the teary goodbyes, lonely nights, flight delays, and outrageous phone bills, an estimated 14 million Americans are currently in LDRs, according to the Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships. That number includes couples of all kinds, from those who fell for each other while living on opposite coasts to those who've been married for years but decided to live apart while she takes that plum international assignment or he goes back to school. How do they do it? The simple answer is that, barring the occasional attack on a hotel clerk, long-distance relationships can work—and work well. Research suggests that they don't break up at any greater rate than traditional, geographically close ones. Plus, multiple studies have found that LDR couples' levels of relationship satisfaction, intimacy, trust, and commitment are identical to their geographically close counterparts. LDR couples might worry more about infidelity, but they don't actually cheat more.

Throw a Party--and Look Like a Pro While Doing It

Hey; you. Put down the Chex Mix. And don't even think about adding booze to that powdered iced tea mix and calling it a cocktail. Where are your manners? Instead; take some entertaining cues from Southern sisters and new Tango columnists; Lauren and Anne Purcell; who are co-authors of Cocktail Parties; Straight Up! The punchy guide; excerpted here; contains food and drink recipes; quick decorating tips; and tricks to get guests to mingle. Now that's hospitality.

Beat The Engagement Blues!

Beat The Engagement Blues!

Planning the wedding isn't the only stressful thing about getting married. Troubleshoot this exciting time so that you can walk down the aisle without any weight on your shoulders. Most brides are afraid to give in to their sadness and fear, thinking that once they turn on the faucet, it'll never shut off. In reality, emotions work the opposite way. What helps brides most is to embrace reality instead of remaining wedded to their fantasies.

Essential Wedding-Planning Sites

Essential Wedding-Planning Sites

Getting married or know someone getting married? Need a little help with a florist, DJ, photographer or something else? We've listed some of the best online resources to get you from engaged to your honeymoon. Inside you'll find sites with advice on gifting for charity, creating a personal wedding website, planning an inexpensive ceremony, DIY weddings registering for gifts, hiring limos, designer wedding gowns, local florists, bands, and wedding singers, unusual wedding ideas and more. Also check out the comments where YourTango users list their favorite online wedding planning solutions.

How To Be A Stress-Free Wedding Guest

How To Be A Stress-Free Wedding Guest

All of you would be wedding guests know that attending a wedding can be stressful. Wedding etiquette demands that your attention remain focused on the bride, but what about the pressure it puts on you and your budding relationship? Tango investigates. "Any bride will tell you—at great length—how stressful it is to plan a wedding. But what about the guests? Rarely does anyone acknowledge their pain. Every year there are around 2.2 million weddings in the United States, and roughly 300,000 weddings here in the U.K. Multiply that by the length of the average guest list—about 200, in both countries—to get a sense of just how many of us go through the familiar routine: pick main course, pick present, pick outfit, pick date. If you’re in a serious relationship, the last choice is already made for you, but you can still find yourself picking—at each other. The truth is that these lovely, sacred events—opportunities for voyeuristic romance and, hopefully, some amour of your own—often wreak havoc on relationships that are, shall we say, at the tipping point."

The Best Sunscreens for Both of You

The Best Sunscreens for Both of You

We know; we know. We could all be a little more conscientious about flossing our teeth; dosing up on antioxidants; calling our grandmothers; and protecting our skin from the sun (every day). In the name of preventative care; can Tango entice these three intrepid couples to make sunscreen a part of their daily routines?

Finding Romance in the Great Outdoors

Finding Romance in the Great Outdoors

What’s your idea of the ultimate romantic travel getaway? Private motu in Tahiti, table for two at a Parisian bistro, fuzzy rug by the fireplace in Aspen? All good. But the spectacular scenery and a secluded setting provided by camping in the great outdoors can be equally sexy and sumptuous—not to mention perfectly priced. Here’s a sampling of places, from almost rustic to downright regal, where the two of you can get back to nature. Includes national parks, cabins in canyons, and island vacations (albeit a slightly more rugged island than you might be used to).