"He wasn't my type. We worked together, and he kept asking me to do things with him, in a collegial sort of way. But when my friends asked if he might be a romantic possibility, I assured them that he wasn’t my type at all. I had always been attracted to powerful older men—the kind who charm the pants off every woman they meet. You can imagine how well this worked out for me." He just wasn't her type; but she married him anyway. Upon their first meeting, Leslie Bennetts was convinced that her husband of 18 years was totally wrong for her. Years later, she marvels at how little she knew back then. Turns out, he was the one.
I just broke up with my boyfriend of three years, but he's still hoping we'll end up together. Neither of us is dating anyone new, so we still have "ex-sex" occasionally. He insists he can handle it emotionally, but is it wrong to continue when I have no intention of getting back together with him?
A single woman reflects on how her life when all her friends got engaged and married. "When, within six months, four members of my book club got engaged, I was confused. I mean, I knew what to say. Congratulations! I'm so happy for you! But all I could think was: I thought we had a deal. It wasn't that I objected to the journey, but I hadn't packed yet. I am 25. I travel light. Were we really doing this? We were. Gift bags. Registry. Hospitality suite. Groom's cake. Morning jacket. Just like that, Book Club became Marriage Club. I didn't think it bothered me. I'd been in love with love since my sister and I designed Barbie and Ken's perfect date."
Too many couples have mediocre sex; and too few understand why. The first step is defining what bad sex is for you. And it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with orgasms. The next step is figuring out what's making it boring or unfulfilling and communicating that to your partner. But a little communication and sexual exploration can prevent it from being a total dealbreaker.
Too little money certainly stresses a relationship‚Äîbut too much money can be just as bad. Abby Ellin discusses why it‚Äôs hard to keep your balance on uneven financial turf.
My friends and I seem to take dating a lot more seriously than our mothers did. Perhaps too seriously. We obsess about every interaction, overanalyze each conversation. As much as we crave relationships, they also scare the everloving crap out of us because we have all seen what can happen when a woman makes the wrong choice… I think it's vital to spend a long time getting to know someone before you commit to a life with him. But the constant analysis doesn't leave a girl with much hope of walking into a room one day and being love-struck, the way my mother was. Or so I always thought.
If you've had it with crowded or costly New Year's Eve celebrations; Tango suggests scoping last-minute low fares to exciting new destinations. Here; we explore three potential places to start your year anew: Santa Fe, New Mexico, Lausanne, Switzerland or Riviera Maya, Mexico.
This holiday season give yourselves the ultimate gourmet gift: Stay in with your sweetheart; drink a bottle of champagne; and savor a decadent winter feast featuring lobster; truffles; and chocolate.
Worried that your partner is too high maintenance? Susan King suggests setting up guidelines for splitting household responsibilities so they're fairly split.
Bunking together is all fun and games‚Äîuntil somebody steals the covers. Here‚Äôs how to negotiate common bedroom quandaries and wake up happy. From sheets to comforters to sharing techniques; Lauren and Anne Purcell have got the goods on the best ways to sleep.
Vegas too cliche? YourTango lists the best places to get hitched. From Napa Valley to Niagara Falls to the beaches of Nantucket there are far more clever places to elope to than Sin City.
Looking to increase your glamour-factor? It’s all about the lashes. Mascara and eye-shadow are so last season. This season’s false eyelashes give you something to bat an eye at. Follow our simple steps and prepare for the ultimate in flirty fun. First timers—your lunch break may not be the best time for eyelash application. It took one YourTango reader at least five times to get it right. So style your hair, focus on your falsies and get ready for gorgeous. Be careful with that glue though ladies—one slip can cause a serious lash malfunction.
It's not just for hippies (and Sting.) Tantra; which means "interwoven" in Sanskrit; is being hailed as the new couples therapy. Chakras and spiritual sex might get you out of a rough patch. If synchronized breathing and intercourse for hours doesn't do it you, stick around for the yoga and massage and at least limber up.
According to the CDC; about 90 percent of men and women have had oral sex at some point in their lives‚ but that doesn't mean they continue to have it regularly, or even that they liked it in the first place. The reasons why some folks aren't up on going down are a Freudian analyst's wet dream: People fear it's unhygienic. Or they dislike the taste. Or they worry their technique is bad. Or they simply find the idea of faces being in places swimsuits cover to be generally unpleasant.
For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: intelligence inequality. Question: I'm in a terrible quandary. I'm 32 and ready to settle down, and I've been dating my boyfriend for three years. The good news is the sex is great, he treats me like gold—and we went ring shopping a few weeks ago. But the bad news is that I fear we're not compatible intellectually. We don't read the same books, and don't share any of the same cultural reference points. Everyone keeps telling me that it's OK—even preferable—to have different interests from your spouse. But what if we end up with nothing to say to each other in five years? I don't want to marry the wrong man just to get married. –Gold Medalist