For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: should you date other people before marrying the one you love? Question: I've been dating the same guy exclusively since high school. I'm now 26, and we've been talking about marriage. I'm crazy about him, but I worry that I will regret limiting my dating experience to just one man. Should I explore other options? –Anonymous
Want advice on sex, love, dating and relationships? Ask an expert with personal experience, or in this case, two experts. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They have been married for 15 years. Together they provide a his and hers take on your questions. This round: dealing with baldness and the aging process.
Intense, exciting and to the point, never underestimate the value of a quickie. Why leave your appetite for adventure unsatisfied because you‚'re short on time? A weekend is longer than you think. Whether you're craving high altitudes or low-down fun, here are three dreamy destinations that will take you worlds away‚ sans passports, and leave you positively breathless.
As anyone in a cross-cultural relationship can attest; falling for each other is easy. But dating is much harder. Complications of different cultural approaches to love and marriage; conflicting ways of communicating; and language challenges are enough to give even the most ardent romantic a headache.
Jada Pinkett Smith opens up to YourTango about her role as mother, wife of Will Smith, actress and rockstar. Read on to find out her celebrity crush, when she feels sexiest and what crazy act she did for love. "In Hollywood, image is everything. Celebrities preen and pose for paparazzi, often masking their true selves under the glare of a thousand flash bulbs. But not Jada Pinkett Smith. Sure, she's elegant and articulate. But she also gets angry. And wild. And loud. For starters, the pint-sized actress fronts a metal (yes, metal) band, Wicked Wisdom, which has toured with Ozzfest. And she has been known to do crazy things for love: she once jumped off a building in a show of affection for Will Smith, her husband of nine years."
Is new love as good as chocolate? It may be the dopamine you're feeling. Relationship experts Pat Love and Helen Fisher weigh in on the biological responses from lust to long-term love. From the first flush of romance to the deep attachment of a long-term marriage; Marisa Belger uncovers the chemistry behind the cycle of love.
What I know now, but didn't then, is this: it's not enough for a couple to share sizzling chemistry; or a passion for growing heirloom tomatoes; or simply the determination that this one is The One, dammit. Other values must match up: values that never seem to matter when you've just taken up residence in the love shack.
While he and his wife are a perfect match, Jay Rosenshields knows there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. The best you can hope for is that your complement each other's strengths and supplement each other's deficiencies. Oh, and following up any major fight with a little timely sex is probably not a bad idea either. Find out why marrying young and to his college sweetheart can be the smartest thing he's ever done, despite preconceived ideas.
No matter what lovestage you're in, a girl crush is a way to satisfy your craving for infatuation and remind yourself of your best qualities. YourTango explores the intense platonic feelings of admiration, inspiration or just plain excitement another woman can inspire. "Lately, it seems like everyone has one. Hardly a tabloid goes by without announcing Lindsay Lohan's new best friend or Britney Spears's latest source of emotional support. What's more, you don't have to attend boarding school or emulate Cynthia Nixon to play this game. A girl crush is strictly platonic, an admission that a head over-heels tumble can just as easily be set off by a budding friendship as by an office flirtation—no strings (or kissing) attached. Best of all, girl crushes need never stop. Whether you're single or taken, a girl crush is a way to satisfy your craving for infatuation and remind yourself of your best qualities. Unless you have some seriously possessive women in your life, there's always room for a few more friends."
Women are plagued by physical imperfections or a negative body image that go virtually unnoticed by the object of their affection. Is it possible for us to find beauty in our flaws? "Many women swagger confidently through business meetings and cocktail parties. But once they shed the armor of Diane von Furstenberg and True Religion they become flustered schoolgirls, ashamed of everything from scars and birthmarks to stretch marks and small breasts. n an age when many women yearn for the airbrushed perfection of Beyoncé and Jennifer Aniston, it's easy to assume that men do, too."
Hollywood rarely depicts sex accurately: near-instantaneous, always-simultaneous orgasms? Sheets that conceal only naughty bits? But they get at least one thing right: the act is often hot and the aftermath is often messy. And that's not even getting into polyamory or open marriage. Even the most fun threeway can wind up as complicated as Y Tu Mama Tambien or Wild Things. That Ky Henderson advises you set terms of a threesome to try to save feelings of jealousy and self-loathing and unpleasant realities like sexually transmitted disease and social stigma.
Want to seduce someone with food? We've got four sexy meals from The New InterCourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook, that will titillate your taste buds and get you in the mood for love. Included here are recipes for Steamed Artichoke Leaves with Green Goddess Dressing, Chocolate-Almond Truffles, Grilled Red Snapper with Avocado Sauce and .Curried Oysters with Chardonnay. Of the last plate, one couple had this to say: “Making this dish reminded us of our honeymoon 29 years ago in Cape Cod. We ate tons of oysters in many different dishes on that beautiful paradise by the ocean. What oysters did for us then, they still do for us today (maybe it’s just the memories). Whatever the case, we believe it is romance in the form of food. Use wisely, and only with those who deserve it.” —Matt and Carol, married 29 years, Philadelphia, PA
I know there's something creepy and entirely unsexy about playing a maternal role with the man you love. I've often wondered if the mothering instinct is just part of being a woman in love‚ or if it's an annoying urge that we must ignore if we want to keep romance alive and our dignity intact.
You spend an hour testing your strength and flexibility in pretzel-like positions. Your skin is slicked with sweat and your heart is pumping. Resting afterward, you feel elated, inspired, and energized. Is it yoga or sex? How about both?
Anne and RJ have bought a house and had a baby together. They share a bed; a bathroom; even a toothbrush when necessary. And yet; until a few months ago; their 200-plus CDs had remained strictly separate. Marrying each other; it turns out; didn't automatically mean marrying their stuff. Almost every couple we've talked to can relate. They may have cosigned a mortgage or even combined their DNA, but consolidate their books or music or art or furniture? That's a big commitment!