As a woman of mixed heritage, my skinny, size-zero body made me feel unattractive.
Being "too thin" may sound like a problem most women would give anything to have, but my reality is different. My culture places a greater emphasis on being curvy. I didn't realize the irony of my "problem" until I started working in a predominantly caucasian office. Most of my coworkers with were obsessed with being skinny. It was strange to me; all of these women were struggling for a body like mine, but when I looked at them, I secretly wished I were their size.
It's women — not men — who perpetuate an unattainably skinny body image ideal.
From websites devoted to fat-shaming celebrities to "thinspiration" Pinterest boards, it’s safe to say there's a pervasive message out there: women should be skinny in order to be beautiful. And it's not men who are applying the pressure. Women are consistently more critical of other women than men are to women. Why are we so hard on one another?
A new book from two financial gurus seeks to end money conflicts for married couples.
The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language, a new must-read from married financial experts Scott and Bethany Palmer (aka "The Money Couple"), says putting an end to money arguments isn't about balancing a budget — it's about understanding your and your spouse's emotional approach to spending.
A closer look at society's perception of promiscuity, our addiction du jour.
Over a period of five years following my divorce, I slept with a few hundred women. I was promiscuous, so I was called a sex addict. But is this label even valid — especially since there’s a view among some experts that sex addiction isn’t even a diagnosable condition? It’s very easy to scandalize behavior that deviates from the norm. Was I in need of help, or was I just loose?
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Gay weddings are relatively unprecedented. In the meantime, I'll make my own traditions.
I was never one of those little girls who dreamed of her wedding day. In fact, I've only vaguely considered it. I know I want an elegant, traditional ceremony. I imagine my future wife in a white dress, bouquets of lilies and guests celebrating the most important day of our lives. My hope of a traditional wedding, however, ends there. There’s no such thing as a traditional gay wedding ... not yet, anyway.
FoxNews.com's op-ed on modern dating forces women to take sides. I'm standing my (middle) ground.
Yesterday, an op-ed on FoxNews.com — a publication I do not make a habit of reading — sent the internet into a tailspin. Its conservative author, Susanne Venker, is a woman with whom I’m certain I have next to nothing in common. Venker’s essay was pummeled by Jezebel, Refinery29 and The Awl – three sites I respect thoroughly and read on the regular. When I finally followed the trail back to Venker’s original piece, I fully expected my head to explode from rage. Instead, something worse happened. Something that caused me much distress.