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Turns out, my breakup was just what I needed.

Why Getting Dumped Was The Best Thing That Ever Happened To Me

When I was in high school, one of my favorite teachers told me that nothing worthwhile is easily attained. And I believed it — except when it came to men. Eventually I realized that some guys are special, and I shouldn't be changing them as often as I change my underwear. I would find a nice guy to commit to… but so many guys were nice. I decided I'd find a nice one until I found a nicer one. I'd become a serial monogamist.

February 13th The Third Annual "Break Up with Your Ex" Day
Do yourself a favor, and leave your ex in the past by Valentine's Day.

February 13th The Third Annual "Break Up with Your Ex" Day

NEW YORK, NY (Feb. 1, 2013) -- A new survey* from YourTango.com—the digital leader in love and relationships—reveals that 67 percent of readers—including 46 percent of married users—think about their exes too much. A whopping 80 percent of respondents want to stop thinking about their exes altogether.

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Ex sex can be tempting. What's the best way to avoid it?

Contest: Tell Us The Best Way To Avoid Ex Sex—In 10 Words Or Less

We've teamed up with Astroglide, maker of personal lubricants and other sexy products, to seek out advice on a very real and dreaded part of the post-breakup period: avoiding ex sex! Between now and February 12, tell us the best way to avoid ex sex and you'll be entered to win fabulous Astroglide prizing.

perfect body
Different cultures have vastly different definitions of beauty.

I Had The 'Perfect' Body ... And I Hated It

Being "too thin" may sound like a problem most women would give anything to have, but my reality is different. My culture places a greater emphasis on being curvy. I didn't realize the irony of my "problem" until I started working in a predominantly caucasian office. Most of my coworkers with were obsessed with being skinny. It was strange to me; all of these women were struggling for a body like mine, but when I looked at them, I secretly wished I were their size.

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Many women would rather be underweight than a healthy weight.

The Pressure To Be Skinny: Women Do The Most Damage

From websites devoted to fat-shaming celebrities to "thinspiration" Pinterest boards, it’s safe to say there's a pervasive message out there: women should be skinny in order to be beautiful. And it's not men who are applying the pressure. Women are consistently more critical of other women than men are to women. Why are we so hard on one another?

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Your "Money Relationship" is more than a balanced budget and savings plan.

10 Tips For Talking Money With Your Spouse

The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language, a new must-read from married financial experts Scott and Bethany Palmer (aka "The Money Couple"), says putting an end to money arguments isn't about balancing a budget — it's about understanding your and your spouse's emotional approach to spending.

sex addict
Nothin' but a good time...

Sex Addiction Is A Myth (From A Guy Who's Been There)

Over a period of five years following my divorce, I slept with a few hundred women. I was promiscuous, so I was called a sex addict. But is this label even valid — especially since there’s a view among some experts that sex addiction isn’t even a diagnosable condition? It’s very easy to scandalize behavior that deviates from the norm. Was I in need of help, or was I just loose?

2013 Ford "Love on the Road" Survey Giveaway: OFFICIAL RULES

 "Love On The Road" Survey Contest Giveaway (Brought to you by YourTango)  OFFICIAL RULES NO PURCHASE OR PAYMENT NECESSARY TO ENTER OR WIN, NOR WILL A PURCHASE IMPROVE ONE’S CHANCES OF WINNING. 1. SPONSOR: Tango Media, 236 West 27th Street, 8th floor, New York, NY 10001, is solely responsible for all aspects of this giveaway ("the Giveaway").

gay wedding
Will the brides wear white?

I'm Gay — So Can I Have A Traditional Wedding Anyway?

I was never one of those little girls who dreamed of her wedding day. In fact, I've only vaguely considered it. I know I want an elegant, traditional ceremony. I imagine my future wife in a white dress, bouquets of lilies and guests celebrating the most important day of our lives. My hope of a traditional wedding, however, ends there. There’s no such thing as a traditional gay wedding ... not yet, anyway.

feminism
Can you be a feminist and still be feminine?

'The War On Men': One Feminist's Unlikely Stance

Yesterday, an op-ed on FoxNews.com — a publication I do not make a habit of reading — sent the internet into a tailspin. Its conservative author, Susanne Venker, is a woman with whom I’m certain I have next to nothing in common. Venker’s essay was pummeled by Jezebel, Refinery29 and The Awl – three sites I respect thoroughly and read on the regular. When I finally followed the trail back to Venker’s original piece, I fully expected my head to explode from rage. Instead, something worse happened. Something that caused me much distress.

no shave november
Hair, there and everywhere.

"No-Shave November? We Wear Body Hair All Year Long!"

Imagine never having to think about maintaining your bikini area — ever. Believe it or not, hairy legs, fuzzy pits, and 'no hair down there' are a way of life for plenty of women. That means skipping directly over the pre-date deforestation process and straight to outfit selection. We asked two women who live the no-shave lifestyle (and not just in November) to reveal what it's really like to live and love in a follicle-phobic society.

david petraeus paula broadwell
"I think the answer to why this happens is much simpler than we wish to believe."

A Mistress Speaks: 'The Broadwell-Petraeus Affair Was Inevitable'

When the news arrived last Friday that the beloved General David Petraeus had cheated on his wife of 37 years with his biographer, Paula Broadwell, I almost ignored it as a non-event. In a different world, I would perhaps be shocked myself. But having lived it, I think the answer to why this happens is much simpler than we wish to believe.

lesbian couple
Public slurs can keep gay and lesbian youths in the closet.

Rachel Maddow Is Not An 'Angry Young Man' — And Neither Am I

It seems like a million years ago that I was an introverted, closeted lesbian, forced to spend every day in a suffocating classroom, in a rural farm community. Looking at me now, you would probably never know that I came from a primarily white, protestant, homophobic town in Southeast Michigan. Now, I confidently wear a James Dean-esque haircut and boxer briefs, but, just six years ago, I was struggling to come out in a high school where it was commonplace for prominent gay figures to be slandered.